My brother in law came to live with us about 2 months ago. He said he would be paying rent ( not that I care it's the principal of it all). We haven't recieved anything, no help around the house, his apartment is a mess his friends come in and out whenever they please and his girlfriend is bossy little........ They are taking over my house and I can't stand it. any suggestions on how to smarten him up?
2006-08-27 04:23:26 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
unfortunately you cant avoid problems.. sounds like they have already begun! My brother did the same to me and i had no choice but to evict him. I felt terrible at first but it passed rather quickly. HE is taking advantage of YOU and you need to stand up for yourself and your husband. Family seem to think that others are obligated to take their crap without consequences.. im not sure why. Ask yourself.. would you allow a friend to do this to you? Would he be doing this to a friend and would he get away with such disrespectful behaviour? In all honesty probably not.. so... why should you put up with it? Turn the tables on him.. after all if he is family then its time for him to take your crap! LOL... Boot him, you'll feel better and so will your husband.
2006-08-27 04:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by swiper_no_swiping2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in charge of the household finances and cleaning then it is perfectly reasonable to approach these subjects and get them out in the open. The trick is to appear calm and rational, like it's no big deal. You need to establish that it is normal and reasonable to pay bills and keep the place tidy. Since this affects the value of your home, you have every right to do this.
When you express displeasure in an emotional way it can seem like a personal attack. When you approach it as a problem from the outside (i.e. home values, etc.) you take the pressure off. It's like you're all in this together and you all need to work together to make the most of the situation. If you approach things with this attitude you can turn adversaries into allies.
2006-08-27 11:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by szydkids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the family 1st and let them know exactly what is going on. This way they can understand from the start, and will most likely back you up rather than having hard feelings for the wrong reasons.
P>S> if they don't back you up SEND HIM TO THEIR HOUSE !!!!
2006-08-27 11:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband handle it if he is the blood relative. It would be better coming from him, because blood is thicker than water. You are more likely to get in the middle of family affairs and it can end up nasty. You will end up being the trouble making B.
2006-08-27 11:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by melinda_rn2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only suggest you put your foot down and kick them out before its to late and you dont have any say so in your house
2006-08-27 11:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by short_mama_123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation!
If it were me, every change I get, I would be bringing up things like, 'so what do you want to do with your life?'
That looks like a cool job---
that job looks fun---
Be nice about it, but persistent--he will get the idea.
2006-08-27 12:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by ms_books3736 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy. Tell your husband to tell him. Or kick him out yourself. Isn't that the logical answer? I dont' get it.
2006-08-27 11:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋