I'm supposed to be go going to the pub in like an hour from now but I don't know if I should go because I really want to help my depressed friend out. She has a lot of emotional problems and I want to bring her at ease because she did the same thing for me. I haven't been tothe pub in like 2 years but I've kept up my faith and still learned a lot.
What should I do?
2006-08-27 04:21:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
WHAT PART ABOUT NON_CHRISTIANS DIDN'T YOU UNDERSTAND!!!???!?!?!
2006-08-27 04:26:33 · update #1
There is something very wrong with this question.
2006-08-27 04:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off why do you not want Christians to answer this question? Yes, I am a Christian....
Help your friend. What is so important about going to the pub in an hour? Are you suppose to be meeting someone? If you haven't been in 2 years, why go now? I am sure your friend is much more important to you than what ever is going on there. You asked this question but I really think you already knew what you should do. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.
2006-08-27 11:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on, man. You can go to the pub in 2-3 hours or tomorrow. The pub will always be there. Your friend's need is present now. You've benefited by her care. Pay her back. What if she had gone to the pub instead of helping you when you were depressed? You'd be worse off. She'll likely be worse off if you go to the pub.
2006-08-27 11:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, take her with you to the pub? Sometimes being in a social environment helps overcome depression. But in general, yeah- you help a friend in time of need. You can always visit the pub later- so it'll be a 2 years and a week since you've been, no biggie.
2006-08-27 11:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by C-Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Pub with your friend, and order a soda. Or better yet, why not offer to take your friend somewhere else that you choose? A place that you can be there and really give her the attention and friendship she needs right now, while still respecting yourself and your beliefs. Try a coffeehouse instead of a pub. It may be 5 o'clock somewhere, but I bet it's not ever 5 o'clock for you, and you cant take care of your friend if it means not taking care of yourself. Blessed Be.
2006-08-27 11:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by QT Cathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, "Steven H" & "Hammadi," it's spelled: "dilemma"
http://dictionary.reference.com/search?r=2&q=dilemma
Stay with your friend and be there for her. I wouldn't take her to the pub with you though, they're just depressing enough and it doesn't sound like she needs anything to throw fuel on the fire. Find a happier place, or stay home (yours or hers) and just be there for her.
By foregoing your personal desires to be there for your friend, you'll be the winner in the end. You can go to the pub anytime.
John 15:13
No one has greater love [no one has shown stronger affection] than to lay down (give up) his own life for his friends.
Proverbs 17:17a
A friend loveth at all times,
Proverbs 18:24
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Proverbs 27:17
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
And yes, I do know you said "Non-Christian." Guess that's what piqued my curiosity and made me look.
2006-08-27 11:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Proverbs31Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a lot on your own emotional state...are your healed? You are going over there to help her..I hope to talk sense into her head?
Depression is possibly responsible for more pain and distress than any other affliction of mankind. The source and root of her emotional problems must be addressed. It may be because of unresolved anger, resentment, self-pity, guilt, etc. Advice...be a good listener, ask questions.. Assure her of your interest and your desire to help her to search for solutions. Drinking only eases the pain till the next drink..the real answer...help her to face her emotional pain..even though you prevered non-Chritians to answer your question, I encourage you to help her to consult a counsellor...Jesus Christ of Nazareth is the only healing counselor..not the easing counselor.
Going to the pub to help her is not the “ulitimate” sin, but be careful not to fall into your old ways.
It’s all about people!
2006-08-27 11:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in Islam we're taught that everything is judged by your intention.... if your intention is to go help out your friend then nothing should be wrong. But if at all possible see if she might be able to meet you somewhere else. and if you do have to go to the pub maintain yourself and your faith. True faith is a certainty of the heart that produces an action on the limbs. that shouldnt change based on your environment
2006-08-27 11:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helping out a friend is a lot more important that a pub could ever be.
2006-08-27 11:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the pub with you. Having a good time might be just the thing she needs. Best wishes
2006-08-27 11:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by colorist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your friend and help her out. She would do the same for you. The pub isn't going anywhere... and maybe later, you can both go together..
2006-08-27 11:23:56 · answer #11 · answered by ray of sunshine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋