She has been in 2 really bad marriage's and is very shy about opening up
2006-08-27 03:47:53 · 25 answers · asked by Redmac1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand why she would be. Just be there for her and don't pressure her to talk when she is not ready though you can encourage her from time to time. Sometimes people (esp. women) want someone to ask them about their day, feelings, etc. because it makes them feel wanted. Don't convince her with your words, they will do nothing but leave her skeptical. All you can do is convince her with your actions so get busy!!
2006-08-27 03:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a good guy she will already know - but to convince her will just take being yourself while showing her patience, caring, and interest in her. The key to any woman's heart is good communication more than anything else. Focus on that and you will find her opening up. Talk to her about feelings and never give ultimatiums - just tell her your desires and don't get those to things confused ever.
2006-08-27 10:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person is attracted to you than she will give you a chance. But if she only likes you as a friend she might not want to hurt your feelings so she makes excuses as to why she does not want to be envolved. She might not be the right one for you. Maybe if you back-off a bit and not try so hard, she will come around. Sometimes people try too hard and it just pushes the other person that much further. Take your time and be friends first and just be there for her to lean on if she needs a shoulder.
2006-08-27 11:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by kayjoe25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had two truly rotten relationships followed by two wonderful ones. It was memories of the rotten ones which make me appreciate my good ones soooo much more......
What can you do.....hmmmm....
Be there for her. Talk to her, make her laugh. Open up about yourself.
Most women who have been hurt, really want to be able to move on....but they need a kick in the fanny every once in a while. Need to be given a reason to make a leap of faith and start opening up to another.
Tell her you would like to get to know her. Tell her you are not her two ex husbands, and would jump off a cliff if you were, because no way would you want to be like them.
Introduce her to your friends. I say this because the company we keep often screams out who we are.
Warning though....some females cling to their misfortunes. They want others to feel sorry for them, because they are too weak to be strong and confident, and too lazy to learn to be. I hate to say this of my own sex, but some women are a real trip.
If she is one of these, there is nothing you can say, or do, which will get her to open up and be happy.
She is the only one who can do that.
Good luck to you both :)
2006-08-27 11:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be calm, patient, and always there to support her. She has had a bad time and is having trouble trusting again.
Tell her you will be there for her no matter what happens. Tell her she never has to go through anything alone again.
The most important things to remember are complete truth and honesty. Don't promise things you cannot follow through with. Don't get her to trust you then break up. When she finally learns to trust, you know you have a true commitment from her.
2006-08-27 10:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's shy about it, then take it slow and show her how much of a gentleman you are by opening doors for her, taking her hand when you two are crossing the street, bring her flowers, bring her candy (both occasionally), help her put on her jacket, etc.
2006-08-27 10:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Be her friend first, and see how things progress from there.
My own husband, was and is my best friend before we were ever married. So just be there when she needs a shoulder, a friend, or even someone to listen. Things should progress from there.
She'll figure it out on her own.
2006-08-27 14:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't try to convince her, you show her and demonstrate your a good guy by what you do not what you say. Be patient and kinds and your goodness will shine bright and see will see the light.
2006-08-27 10:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Keep being a gentleman and she'll come around. She just needs time to see that. Don't give up.
2006-08-27 10:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try...so hard. give her the space she needs, just be there, be faithful, take your time, hug her alot. tell her how you feel numerous times during the day. If my husband would answer this, he'd tell you that 30 yrs. he's still not sure he has convinced me.
2006-08-27 10:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋