I have been seeing a man for the past 8mos. and we were doing fine up until the last couple. I have become very anxious about our relationship and have had weird mood changes (also other symptoms, heat flashes, etc). I take Welburtrin but it isn't taking care of everything. I have a great person analyzing my health situation, but I am afraid that my male friend is just tired of all the crap and isn't going to want to see me anymore. I really do love him and wouldn't hurt him for anything in the world. I have written him letters and afterwards, when I have read what I sent, I have been horrified that I could be so cruel. I want to be with him, but I can understand his hurt after I read what I have wrote. Is there any advise anyone can give me? We are suppose to go away this coming weekend, we confirmed that, but I have not been able to see him for a week. He said he is just thinking....but have I destroyed a great relationship with this health mess?
2006-08-27 03:46:34 · 7 answers · asked by offmgr100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what i think u may need to do is get some pamphlets or reading material on menopause and give it to him to read so he may understand ur situation better, alot of men dont like womens mood swings because most of the time our mood swings are caused by our hormones which is something they dont feel and couldnt understand. maybe he should go with u to the person u see about ur health and maybe they could explain it to him, but thats if he wants to go, if he doesnt then he doesnt want to be with u, u tried ur best to help him understand what more can u do.
2006-08-27 03:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by brandy w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men will never understand things they don't go through firsthand. It's sad but true. All you can do is try to explain it to him and ask that he be open minded and understanding of what you are going through. I don't waste my time explaining it any more. It is what it is. In my house we don't call it menopause we call it "mental-pause" because you start to act out of character. You have to do a lot of thinking before you speak and stop yourself from reacting so quickly. Take time to think things through before you speak or act on anything. Prayer, meditation, and yoga helps calm you down so you can think and function more clearly. Staying active also helps a lot. Good luck with things.
2006-08-27 04:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going through menopause it is not your fault and he should understand that. You really need to go to your OB/GYN and have your hormones checked. The doctor can prescribe a good hormone replacement for you. Dont give up there is hope.
2006-08-27 03:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you go to your doctor, pick up some pamphlets on the effects and symptoms of menopause and show him... that way he understands that it's not your fault and you're not making it up!
2006-08-27 03:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i heard menopause symptoms are a living hell. just try to calm down when u r talking to him
2006-08-27 03:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by madchiman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really explain to him what's going on and if he really cares for you he will stick around
compassion is a trait that is hard to find in people nowadays
2006-08-27 03:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by rsuavez66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just tell him what you wrote here. It's exactly what he needs to hear.
2006-08-27 04:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋