I'm 18 now. But i am wondering about love. If i love somebody, should i sleep with him ? Or we will do it when we have got married ? If i sleep with s.body, will i have trouble with my real husband in the future ? Some guys please tell me what u think about a girl who is not virgin anymore when u've got married. Is it a big problem ?
2006-08-27 03:36:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know your excited and dont know what to expect ..... By fooling around Now you will ruin the magic of it all...... Sex is wonderful and all but I dont think you want to be thinking 10 years from now .....damn I gave my first Time to that idiot :-s who only cared for me If I put out :-s
But Most Important.... while its true that your young... You still are Old Enough Not to do anything Without Protection! Too many people fall into that trap and I'd hate to see you be one of them.
Don't RUSH it ..Wait for the Magic!!
I doubt you would have trouble in the future with a hubby who knows..... marrying a virgin im sure is quite a rarity these days.
Take Care Girlie.... Good Luck!
2006-08-27 03:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy really loves you he will be able to look past that. Yes something special will be lost on the wedding night but very few people are virgins when they are married now days. If you are thinking about sleeping with guy make sure he shows you that he loves you not just tells you. You have to look at the little things he does for/to you. His eyes should give you a clue too. If he can't look you in the eyes when he says he loves you he doesn't. Make sure he loves you before you have sex with him. I am getting married to a wonderful girl soon and neither one of us are virgins but I am the only man she has slept with and she is the only girl I have slept with. sometimes we both wish we would have waited but its not that big of a deal. if he really loves you he will look past it if you re not a virgin
2006-08-27 10:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys will say they want to be experienced when they get married so they will want to have sex with you.
I had several partners before I got married and if I had it to do it all over again, only one of them truly meant something meaningful to me and I'm not sure that I would go there with her again. If you have sex before marriage, you could contract an STD, (the gift that keeps on giving) and it could haunt you for the rest of your life. Plus, what if your husband to be waits for marriage and you do not. He may always feel compared to. It can cause difficulties in your marriage later on. As for the guys wanting experience, THEY want the experience but want to marry an inexperienced girl that will learn from and enjoy their "vast" knowledge.
my recommendation is to wait. Then you and your husband can have a real fun and unique experience on your honeymoon, without worrying about comparisons or whether or not you should take a prophylactic dose of Valtrex to keep your nagging case of scorching Herpes at bay! (Ha, Ha)
2006-08-27 10:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are ready to. If you are a Christian you should wait until marriage but I do not push my belief system on others. To do that would be usurping someone's free will which is disrespecting a gift God himself gave mankind. However; I will say that you should not allow yourself to be rushed at any rate.
If a future husband has a problem with your past then he is not the husband for you. All of us have a past both me and my wife's more colorfull then most. Both the good and the bad make us who we are. The experiences, lessons and wisdom gained from those experiences, attitudes gained, etc. To not be able to accept a person's past is essentially not to be able to accept that person whether we realize that or not.
I've given my viewpoint. The rest is up to you.
2006-08-27 10:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, i remember when i was 18.....okay back to your question:
no just because you love someone doesn't mean you should sleep with them. i fell in love for the 1st time when i was your age, and i was with my boyfriend for about a year before i felt ready to sleep with him. most people are not virgins when they get married, so i'm sure your future husband will not mind. but, having sex is a big step, so don't get pressured into it. take your time, and when the time is right, you will know.
2006-08-27 10:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your are worried about it now they way u r , then it probably will affect ur marrage. but u will be the one most likely having the problem coping with your past decisions than your husband.
if you r unsure than dont do it
wait untill u r sure of what you want.
oh yeah, dont base your life on what other people think of u.
kind of ironic huh.
live well laugh often love much.
2006-08-27 10:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by matt p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing is to be true to yourself. in today's world its hard to find a virgin and then it is even more rare to find a couple where both were virgins.
personally i have had several relationships over the years my present wife was a virgin when i met her. i love her and will never cheat on her. but i truly wish she had more experience, sexually
2006-08-27 10:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tell you to, don't do it just because everyone else is, nothing wrong with being a virgin, mr right will come along, you have lot's of time.
2006-08-27 10:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the problem? If you think you are ready to do it then go ahead. In todays sex governing milieu, do it, knock yourself out. sheesh, go ahead make your day.
2006-08-27 11:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Eugene S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
premarital sex is bad! only sleep wit sum1 if u r married to them
2006-08-27 10:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by joe c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋