I am so confused!!?

Question

Recently, i had a fallout with my boyfriend, and i almost felt a sense of relief when it happened, because i knew he wouldn't be clinging to me all the time. But all mine and his friends(which are mostly the same,as we all hang in the same friend group) told me how upset he was, and urged us to make up. Basically, he blanked me without so much as a hello for a whole day, and admitted that he only came over to say sorry because my mate told him too. But then he said he really loved me and had been such an idiot and begged for another chance, although that's not the only problem.I was feeling pressured by our friends aswell, so i reluctantly agreed. So my ex has been helping me through it all, he's been there for me every minute of the day, but he told me last night that he's confused!Apparently about me?!He's the only guy i ever really loved, but i'm scared things wouldn't work out again, although we have both grown alot since our split a few years ago. I'm so confused!!

Answer 1

If yall split up a few years ago and you have now been drawn back together by some strange force........give it another try. You admitted that you still love the guy.
What can it hurt to give it another chance? Nothing.
Maybe you have both matured in the past couple of years and it will work this time. And from what you have said........he has been there for you in your time of need. Which is a definite plus in a relationship.
There is some reason that when yall split up that you remained on friendly terms. Most ended relationships don't.

Sit down with him and talk things out. Talk about yall's feelings for one another, talk about the changes yall have made in the last couple of years, talk about what ended your relationship the first time and see if you believe that it wont happen the second time around..........Communication is the key to any relationship. Whether that relationship is just as friends or as partners.

Answer 2

Actually, its quite simple. You loved a guy, fell out of him, and all of a sudden an old love seems to be much more enticing. You are considering the old love, cause you think that this new one, doesnt love you as much.

Well, give the new guy a bit of slack. If your circle of friends are the same, i think you need to give it some thought. And, i am sure he is crushed... just has a little bit of attitude to not admit it to you.

Be careful though. The chances of slipping into romance with old love, is highly probable. You need to figure out what you want, or you could end up messing up the both.

Answer 3

Things always happen for a reason. So,Ask yourself this,does he make u happy? If not ,there are plenty of fish in the sea.Plus who says u cant be friends. Tell him it's over and then he wont have to be confused cause youll either be with him for good or without him from now on. Love is a crazy thing.Only u can determine your future with it

Answer 4

First of all have yourself some time to think and experience life alone. You just came out of a relationship and now want to get into another and that is never good. There is a time of release that we all have to go thru; if you rush into another relationship your gonna start feeling asphyxiated because you didn't have time for yourself.

Second, you are spending too much time with your ex, and he is not even giving you time to get pass your other relationship. I think that that is pretty selfish and he is taking advantage of your vulnerabilities.
If i were you i would stop hanging with him and get some me time and some time with my family and friends.

Answer 5

You get back with a guy because friends pressure you into it,and there is a guy you like more than the current guy( your ex!) come on...you guys havent been together for years now who says he hasnt grown? You still luv him anyways,go 4 it! The 1 thing you would regret most is not trying! give him a try

Answer 6

wow this one sounds like it needs a ,"Dr.Phil" type answer.so here goes....it seems to me that you are in a relationship that was started at a very young age.what was the reason for the falling out that made you split up.it seems to me that you want space and your so-called boyfriend is trying to cling to whatever bits of affection that you drop for him.you want someone less "clingy",and he wants to spend alot of time with you.so short of him proposing marriage. he is trying to make you happy by giving you the space you want .yet when apart ,you worry about what he is doing and what he is thinking.guys like him are hard to find.he wants you to be happy even if it makes him miserable.it seems to me that you need to make a choice.because no man is going to want to marry a woman who thinks he is too clingy.which is just his way of showing you the only kind of affection he can bestow upon you.do him a favor and let him go.even if it drastically changes both your lives forever.if you are under 20,i would suggest a few more mature type of relationships with other men to prove to you that he is your knight in shining armor.if you are over twenty,then you need to know that guys don't like waiting around for the woman he loves to decide he is worth your time.the longer you wait to tell him your real emotions the less time you deny him of the happiness the knowledge would bring him.i hopes the helps you in your quest of things that make you happy.good luck.

Answer 7

Just be patient and let things work themselves out. If you jump in to fast it could hurt later on. Dont let anyone push you to do what you are unsure of, and if you have to ask then it is worth thinking about slowly.

Answer 8

i guess you wld like to think this through? unstable relationships wldnt last since there is this gap between you two since the split yrs ago. gd luck

Answer 9

Find a new group

Answer 10

Find someone else that you are sure of...can u really see yourself with this person forever just being unsure....