My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. I have just found a very good and secure job with an excellent salary package but my boyfriend still hasn't found work yet and I can tell that he's feeling a bit down, especially because when he does find a job, his salary won't match mine, never mind exceed it. I think it's making him think that he's struggling a bit, but I love him all the same. What can I do (apart from sex!) to cheer him up and let him know that I still love him the same? Are there any specific things we can plan or set up for the long term that will help him get through this initial stage of worrying?
2006-08-27 03:01:06 · 6 answers · asked by babyface 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're very close, he'll never do anything to hurt me, and we're getting engaged soon (when he has a stable income!). I know he's happy for me and he's a sweet and understanding guy but deep inside I can sometimes see the hurt he has that he isn't able to support me, yet it's the other way round. I don't want him to feel like this.
2006-08-27 03:11:19 · update #1
its a cheerful thing that u r so concerned ,even worried for the guy u love.i think u shud first make sure whether he's jealous.if he is,then he might b jealous throuout.or he may channelize his frustrations smewhere else.i reckon this stage of -u earning more;' is temporary as even he'll soon land up in a good job.if its so,then u can write him a letter or u can talk to him clearly abt hw u feel n how u wanna make him feel good abt himself.u wil hve to tolerate him a bit.i think men think n act like kids a lot!!tke a chill pill n dnt fget to feel proud of urself for having bagged an excellent job!
2006-08-27 03:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by jumblemumble 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inferiority is a bad disease and one that is very hard to get rid of. He should feel happy for you and maintain his confidence... otherwise, some men are known to get abusive and violent.
Be careful.
Update: It's really beautiful what you are trying to do. But, isnt this something he has to deal with, on his own. I mean, you trying to cheer him up, almost says that you have to help him deal with his own confidence too. I am not sure if it is helping. Be with him. Talk to him. But give him some space and let him figure out what he wants to do. It's tough... but, I am sure you both will come out of this together.
2006-08-27 03:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by Phaedrus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him don't worry about it,i make enough for us to get by an it'll only get better once you find a job.
2006-08-27 03:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by steve 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Act like the wind and unexpectedly and thoroughly use him like a ice pop and blow him
2006-08-27 03:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him how you feel
2006-08-27 03:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK........ then SEX
2006-08-27 03:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by M u Z z I 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋