christians please help me...?

Question

ive always been really close friends with this guy i know... we talk everyday and he has helped me through everything ive ever been through... i recently realised that i am in love with him... my biggest problem is that i am a christian and he is not... therefore making it hard because i no that i cannot enter a relationship with him due to the word of God. i have tried talking to him about God once and he didnt really understand, he is one of those kind of ppl that needs evidence... but he has always been completely understanding and supporting of my beliefs... he doesnt have any beliefs and he only believes what he see's. im not sure what to do... do u have any ideas? i also ask for ur prayers on this matter and that u pray 4 the man i love! thankyou :) ur sister in christ

Answer 1

The answer you are looking for is in your question , he is not saved and does not believe in God without proof .. He has no Faith and is unsaved ...Ephesians 5 : 11........ And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness , but rather reprove them .....1 Corinthians 5 : 13.......But them that are without God judgeth . Therefore PUY AWAY FROM AMONG YOURSELVES THAT WICKED PERSON..... Matthew 7 : 26 - 27........ And everyone that heareth these sayings of mine , and doeth them not , shall be likened unto a foolish man , which built his house upon the sand ....And the rain descended , and the floods came , and the winds blew , and beat upon that house ; and it fell : and great was the fall of it .. ..............The first & only thing you should do is get God involved . You should pray and ask God if this is the person He has put here for you. Thats` why there are countless divorces , people marry in the flesh , and have not asked God for guildance ! A marriage without God involved is a marriage doomed . Once together without God , and you realize you have nothing in common with the one you have chosen , other that vanity and lustful desires , then the end is near for the marriage . You need God to be the " foundation " for all your decisions, not just this one !!! Prayers for your Godly guildance !!! See the answer from " whynotaskdonna " for a perfect example of what not to do , and where it has left her.....4 times ??????????

Answer 2

Rebeca;
I'm an ol' dude and I have seen more women choose unbelieving husbands because he's sweet, he's nice, he's a really good guy but a couple of years into the marriage they wind up breaking up, or if she stays, she's miserable.

The guys they married didn't change nor did they suddenly stop loving and tender attempts to keep their wives pleased. The problem is they are on two different paths. These paths lead in opposite directions. Think how hard it will be to raise children with someone who doesn't agree with major issues raised in scriptures. Or managing money, he feels like she's giving his money to bogus political institution called the church.

Now, to your friend. Buy the book 'More Than a Carpenter' by Josh McDowell. This is a book that offers more common sense evidence for the non-believers to review over history that calls for each individual to make a choice about the validity of Christ.

Good guy or not, until you are on the same path and going in the same direction, do not be led by your heart. Only allow your heart to lead after your head has guarded it.

Answer 3

You can find many convincing intellectual proofs from the Answers button @ http://web.express56.com/~bromar/ along with many of the links on the Free Stuff page. But while these things can be used to soften a person's heart and mind to acceptance of the gospel message you have to pray this person into the Kingdom of God because only the Holy Spirit can give him the gift of true faith. In addition to that you might want to consider this passage from the Bible given to those women who were already married to unbelievers before they themselves became Christians.

1 Peter 3:1 Wives, likewise, subject yourselves to your own husbands, so that even if some are disobedient to the word, that by the conduct of their wives, without a word, they shall be gained for Christ, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct with fear. 3 Of whom let it not be the outward adorning of braiding of hair, and wearing of gold, or of putting on of fine clothes, 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible attitude of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious before God.

Invite your friend to come to church with you. If he is as kind and understanding as you say that he is then there's no reason for him to decline your offer. If he says that he doesn't believe or that he doesn't want to go because he doesn't belong there or something like that then just tell him to do it as a favor to you and let him know that the people at the church love to have people come who don't believe so that they can have an opportunity to share the gospel message with them.

Answer 4

The only real problem in you being a christian and he is not would be if he hindered or forbid you from your belief or worship. There is no guarantee that if you both were christians that your marriage would work out. One of you could fall away from God. Putting you in the same place as now. It sounds like he respect your beliefs and gives you liberty to live by it. The questions I would be asking myself is this:
1. will he support me when we have children and I want them to go to church?
2. will he allow me to tithe without a battle
3. when I feel convicted over a situation and he wants to do it his way, will he allow me to have my views and concerns without malice from him?
4. Does he understand that you are not bonded to a church or religion but are committed to a conviction and belief in God?

if you have a man who is respectful of these things regardless of his lack of belief then you have a great potential of a successful relationship. But remember even Solomon fall away from his belief from his wives influence. Be grounded and certain in who you are in Christ and you will be the evidence he needs to see.

Answer 5

hello:}
if your truly a devote christian then more then likely you should not marry out of your faith, it does down the road come back to bite you ....but i believe this is true of different cultures,and also other religions also .it is difficult to be with someone with such diverse beliefs .
it really is a shame though that religion and cultures can become the thorn in the side and fester and burst ,why cant people be happy and love all people for what they are too bad we have to label and we have to have people think like we do in order for us to feel we can be with them ............
im sorry i Totally understand where your coming from and you can not avoid problems if you hold so tightly to your religion .
convert him or forget him are your two options ,,,,,,,sad really ,,,,,
ill never understand why people get so caught up in a religion that they can turn away from others .
anyway dear i do truly wish you the best .
peggy

Answer 6

So, are you attempting to stand out and shine as a beacon of enlightenment for Christianity (particularly some whom will declare which you're attempting to pander to the lots for acceptance) or do you lack the braveness of your convictions, or probable are you besides the undeniable fact that protecting directly to that label b/c you will possibly not enable it pass yet? i pay interest to not all Christians are journey the stereotype of prejudice/ignorant, in spite of the shown certainty that it form of feels the religion gets diffused each and every era, each and every century till at last it finally has substitute into approximately as homogenized and clean upd as some thing this is non offensive and subject-loose to swallow. i'm uncertain if that's what Christianity is assume to be.

Answer 7

My sister and her boyfriend (now her husband) were non-believers when the met. Then down the road, my sister received Christ. Due to family traditional background, her boyfriend didnt want to convert.

She thought it was okay.. and made plans for marriage, etc.
But when she shared her joy with best friends..they were like "erm..you sure you want to do this?" and she was like "why arent my friends happy for me? surely there is something wrong".

And she prayed about it and continued to ask her boyfriend, and told him that she was sorry, that the wedding would have to be cancelled if he was not a Christian.

She was devastated because they were in love, and my sister felt that he was the best most wonderful person she had met (and I personally think so too, for her I mean)

But she wanted to be obedient to God. She could have gone on with it, but because of her close relationship with God, she wanted to be obedient.

To cut a long story short, the boyfriend took a leap of faith, and you know what, his family accepted it very well. And today, both of them have been married for six years with two beautiful children. I personally have seen how God has blessed them in all ways thanks to their obedience and love for Him.

God works in beautiful, mighty ways. With Him, all things are possible.

Am sorry about what you are going through. But you are feeling like this because you want to be obedient. Praise God!

Don't quit but continue praying to God about this person. Even if you do not see instant results, have faith that God is already working on him. Don't worry but submit him to Christ :)

If you want to share with him about Christ, pray first for the Holy Spirit to lead you and guide you when you talk to him.

Or else, just continue sharing and praying for him, but dont pressure him, because this might backfire and stumble him or cause him to avoid you.

Just trust in our Lord :) He is Almighty. Focus on Him, and He will give you rest.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with dating him, but if you are a Christian & he is not, just live your life before him & see what happens, Don't marry a unbeliever if you are a believer, 9 times out of 10 that unbeliever will make your life misable.

Answer 9

1 Cor. 7: 12-14 READ THIS PLEASE.

1Cr 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1Cr 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Cr 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

It is okay to love and marry someone that is not a believer like you.

Answer 10

Look Love doesn't have to mean that one has physical contact with another. It means that you are willing to put him first, after God. It means what you can give him not what you can get from him. Look at Christ here on earth that is "love".