Have you ever tried SPEED dating?

Question

I here it is a quick and easy way to meet people. You basically go through a number of people and sit down and talk for about 10 mins and move onto the next one

Answer 1

yes I have, it's great fun. Advice get tiddly, smile a lot and be friendly. great way of meeting loads of fun ppl.

Answer 2

Speed dating is based on the assumption that it takes three minutes to figure out whether you're interested in the person or not. I can only speak from a male perspective but I think this is enough time to assess initial attraction. That's because attraction, which follows no rules or reason, is probably based on a combination of looks, voice and body language rather than a deep knowledge of the other person. Three minutes can seem like an eternity or a blip depending who you encounter, but I think the key is to remember to have fun. Speed dating has the pro of establishing a social context which eliminates the need to ask whether the other person is single and wanting a relationship. This certainly beats the idea of trying to figure this out while you hang out in nightclubs shouting over the music and trying to casually ask them. The environment makes the questions sound like you're a seedy player hitting on girl of the week. Speeddating has the con that the meeting environment is very artificial. It's like a two-way job interview where each person doesn't know what they want but they definitely know what they don't want. Furthermore, both people try to artificially carry an aspect of calm and ease as if to pretend no such interview is taking place. The enemy of a good time is expectation and I think it's important to say "just have fun" like it's a mantra. I found it easiest to talk with women who didn't interest me because there was no risk involved. It's only when you encounter people you are interested in that you might get nervous. You can feel an element of risk losing out on a cool person and that may make you nervous enough to distort your first impression to her. In that case three minutes seems a bit too short. I disagree with anyone that it's a measure of desperation though. The busy work life of most people precludes them meeting a dating pool that would interest them. If you move around a lot, you won't have an established social network of old friends who can let you observe someone else in the room without the pressure of a date. And finally as you get older and more people pair off, you find that the social circle of your coupled friends shrinks to a point of being useless for furthering your own dating interests. I think the activity is only suitable for people who possess enough confidence and self esteem to treat it as a fun time. Otherwise stay home and enjoy the funny campfire tales from people who go off and actually try it!

Answer 3

I have never tried it but maybe I would. One thing I see that it would accomplish is to weed out the slow thinkers. It seems to me that you have to be quick witted to get someone's interested in a couple minutes. The people that can think on their feet but are obviously lying would be very obvious also as they wouldn't have enough time for them to think though everything they say. I would say that psycologically you could tell a lot about the real person in that short time. I think it would be stressful though for people trying to be more than they are.

Answer 4

Nah ... it just seems so shallow. How well can you possibly hope to know someone in such a short period of time ... and why even trust someone who is trying to present only their best attributes?

I prefer fix-ups recommended by friends ... at least they know the person better than I ever could in a brief face-to-face encounter.

Answer 5

Yeah its an awesome fast experience to find "the one", then again, I never found the person I was looking for, just a bag of condoms I tried returning.

Answer 6

I heard this from my sis whos in her 30s and she really need this kind of dating i think..
I find its rather good that you are exposed to more candidates rather than one...During that 10mins, you can use your own tactics to see if that man suit you..I find it quite interesting and good..

Answer 7

I think I seen it on Dr. Phil! That is lame and desperate,think I'll do it next weekend,seriously!

Answer 8

No, I would rather set fire to my hair. A friend has asked me to go with her and she got a flat no... I can't think of anything more humiliating!

Answer 9

Nope!

Answer 10

I might do it cos of two reasons: I am that desperate of I wanna have fun. Not my thing, not very romantic....