How to prepare them to lie if Children Services come?

Question

My daughters are 6 and 4 years old.There is no father around and of course no relatives of his side.My parents are dead and I don't have brothers and sisters.My other relatives live in Europe.I don't have enough money and till now I was working at home but it's not enough.I'm going to get a real,well-paid job,but I want some advices how can I protect my children from Children Services?I don't know what should I be afraid of more - robberies and killers or Children Services???So,my children are responsible and they won't do nothing stupid or dangerous while I'm at work,because I have learned them what's dangerous and what's not.And don't you worry about their childhood - they are very happy when they stay alone at home and they usually play dolls.So,help me,how should I prepare my children what to do and how to lie if Children Services come?

Answer 1

Basic parenting rule here: if you're considering doing something with/for/to your children and you feel the need to prepare them to lie to Childrens Services about it?

DON'T DO IT!!!

Answer 2

there is no way anyone should leave a 6 and 4 year old at home alone....i just heard not too long ago that a grandmother left twin 10 month old boys home alone with a 6 year old so she could walk to the store...the 6 year old decided to give them a bath and they both drowned....now im not saying your 6 year old will drown your 4 year old but stupid accidents like that can happen....no 6 year old is "responsible"! If the problem your having is not being able to afford paying for child care call children services...tell them you need help paying for child care....if you make under like 26,000 a year you can get a voucher and wont have to pay for it....so actually they might be able to help you. Or maybe ask the neighbors if they could watch them for a while bc if you do decide to leave them home alone child services will find out...your children will be taken away and you'll be charged with prolly abandonment and child endangerment. If one gets hurt and dies it would prolly be murder. So you better play it safe bc they will find out!

Answer 3

Wow, you really are in a bind. I'm sure that you're doing the best you can to make ends meet and provide a good life for you and your two girls.

Unfortunately, no matter how well you try to prepare your girls to be responsible when you are not home--they are too young to handle any small situation that might come up. And if you are trying to coach them to lie when/if child services comes. . .they will just be frightened to be home alone. And if someone does come they will be ashamed if they don't lie well enough to not get you in trouble. I'm sure that you don't want to put your girls in that situation because you clearly do love them and want them to be safe and happy.

Go to the local daycare and ask them for information about tuition assistance, try the YMCA and the church if you belong to one. Any of these organizations might be able to point you in the right direction. Some communities even match "grandparents" with "grandchildren" which might be a great support for you. You are taking responsibility to provide for your daughters and you will do this much better if you know they are safe. Good luck!

Answer 4

Pray.
go to your child's school and ask if there are any families near you that would be willing to help out until you get back on your feet.
Call your church.
Make calls until you find someone who will stay with your children.
I had a friend who left her three beautiful children alone while she was working. When she came home, the house was burned down and her children were all in the fire and had died.
They were great kids too and just played with their toys.
They did nothing wrong yet the fire still started and the beautiful kids are gone. She regrets it every sngle minute of her life.

Answer 5

Seriously, what are your children going to say if they turn up when your at work?

It maybe hard but you can't leave your children alone like that.

You need to research your local area to see if there are any viable options for childcare, join a mothers group and see if there's anyone else who would like to work too and share the childcare between yourselves.

Please don't leave your children alone, they may be responsible 6 and 4 year olds but their still only babies really.

They've learnt how to be responsible from you and still need you to tell them whats right and wrong, with you out of the equation it's a recipe for disaster I'm afraid.

Answer 6

Do not have your children lie! Think about what that will teach them. If you are having problems...talk to someone at children services. Tell them you need help. They have programs for families to help them pay for childcare. There are lots of other programs too. If you show child services that you love your children and that you want to do everything you can to help them...you have no reason to lie. I was a foster parent and all 3 of my children are adopted. They will do whatever they can to help as long as your not abusing or neglecting your kids. If you need help, just ask. I would definitely not leave your children at home by themselves...what would you do if the house caught fire, or they got into a fight and hurt each other, or if one of them fell and needed medical attention and your not home. If you leave them home alone...that is neglect! I would go and talk to someone immediately about getting financial help to pay for daycare!

Answer 7

First of all it is illegal to leave your children home alone. I don't even leave my 9 year old at home alone!

Second of all I can see where you would be worried about Children's Services with leaving your children at home alone like that.

Never teach your children to lie. They will start lying about everything and NO ONE will believe them if they get hurt etc....

Hire a Baby sitter. Your 6 year old should be in school during the day. I sure hope you do not leave your 4 year old at home alone.

Answer 8

You shouldn't teach your children to lie if Children Services comes.
1.a six and four year old, no matter how well behaved and intelligent are not prepared to stay home alone. They are not equipped to handle an emergency.
2.if they're smart enough to be left home alone...aren't they smart enough not to answer the door to strangers when mommy isn't home.
The help you need isn't preparing your children to lie...the help you need is in finding proper care for your children. Kids that young should never be left alone, no matter what.

Answer 9

Your best choice is to sit down with child services and tell them the truth and start begging for assistance. Tell them that you have done the best you can but you need help. Do not under any circumstances teach your children to lie to anyone about anything. That is the worst lesson you can teach a child. You need to show social services that you love your children and need their help to take proper care of them. There are programs and alternatives. Lying is not proper parenting and they are well trained to detect the difference between a parent who is doing the best they can for their children and one that is lying.

Answer 10

Put your children in day care and take some language classes for yourself. It's never proper to teach your children to lie to get what they want. If that is the example you want to set for your children, don't be surprised or hurt when they lie to you. You need to go to work and provide adult supervision for your children while you're earning a living. Child services exists for a reason and it seems the reason might be to protect the children from thoughtless parents.

Answer 11

You leave a 6 year old and a 4 year old home alone while you are at work????

What kind of mother are you?? You only want them to lie to save your own butt. They should be taken away from you. BRAVO to the concerned neighbor (or whoever) that brought this to the attention of Children Services.

You need to be brought up on charges.

If you love your children, raise them right. That means you don't teach them to lie. That means you teach them to tell the truth. They will be better adults for it.