What is this girl thinking about?

Question

Well the story is this..I get to know this girl from online chatrooms. After msging each others for a week, she discovered that I am divorced with 2 kids. I thought she won't bothered to talk to me anymore, but the next day, she replied my msgs and we have since then been contacting as usual. I dropped many hints or should I say, very openly declared that I liked her and would like to be her bf. She just avoided my hints and talked about something else...So do you know what is she thinking about???If it's not possible between us, why does she waste her time to talk to me? Or is it, she is really so kind that she knows I need a friend, someone who can talked to, so she continued to be my chatting partner??? Btw she is also my age and single. Thanks..

Answer 1

maybe she just really wants to be your friend :)

Answer 2

Well in the first place both of you are of the same age and inspite of you dropping her hints and openly declaring that you would like to be her boy friend she ignores those hints.She needs more time to think about this relationship.She is confussed .She is not ready to commit herself.If she does not like you she would not have bothered to chat with you again after finding out the truth from you.Even when you hinted to her about your feelings she would have definitely said no or would have ended the relationship.She has feelings for you or it might be sympathy.Just give her space and let her decide.If she comes back to you its good and if she just wants to be your friend its also fine. Think she is also worried about your kids and what will others say. Just give her space and dont try to contact her.She will definitely come up with a good reply.Good luck.

Answer 3

Focus man. Chatting in chatrooms is not the same as being in an actual date. So if it feels as if you have been dating let me tell you you have not. What's my point? Women as well as men become afraid of a suitor that comes on too strong. You say you want to be her boyfriend? Stop. Concentrate. Isn't that a bit too sudden? You haven't even dated. She probably is scared of your proposition. What you've done is comparable to ordering a mail-order bride. Some things cannot be done remotely such as bonding or dating. It isn't just the same. There are many things you are missing out on such as touching her hand, looking in her eyes, smelling her perfume, etc. It may sound frivolous but it remains true none the less, you may or she may dismiss you just on looks. So that is another reason why you should meet. You mention you have two kids and are divorced. Then you mention to her you want her as girlfriend. It is not out of the question that she imagines you want her as a mother to your children. Maybe she doesn't see herself as being a mother right now. Being a parent, as you may well now is a big responsibility. Not everyone wants that kind of responsibility or is ready to take that responsibilty. So you see, you have put that in her imaginitaion. Of course she is avoiding your hints. What should you do next? I think you should let her know it's been a while since you have dated (obviously). But that you find her interesting and would like to meet her for ONE date. It is implied that you may or not may hit it off and may or may not have a second date. Do not mention any of that. As I said that is implied so if you by accident let her know that you want a second date before having the first, you basically are telling her you have her future already planned out for her and that is really scary. Don't pressure her. Some people when they fall in love or have a crush plan out their futures with that person. See themselves having kids with them and maybe they don't even have the courage to talk to that person. That is called getting ahead of yourself. And it sounds ridicously out loud. Hey, if you want to drive her out of the country tell her you want five kids with her and that she should stay at home and do the chores for you and your babies together. The bottom line is you cannot force some things into happening like love for instance. Don't ever tell yourself that if you were the right kind of guy you could seduce any girl because that guy doesn't exist. There is one key for every lock and one man for every woman. If your first date doesn't end the way you want it and she refuses to have a second date, just remember, you may not be the man for her and that means another key might fit your lock. Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 4

It could be quiote possible that the way things are nowadays and people coming up missing she's a little weary about meeting someone on the internet. especially, if you want to be her boyfriend and she hasn't met you face to face yet. I've been in similar situations before. i would suggest trying to make her feel as comfortable as possuble. ask her out but give her the option of meeting you some where in a public place or pick her up. put the ball in her court because if she meets you somewhere and she feels uncomfortable she has the option of getting in her own car and leaving. be up front with her tell her your interest in her and ask her out to lunch or dinner and see if she would like to meet you at a restaurant or something. when she get's there be a gentleman and bring her 3 roses and layer them get one that's closed, one that's slightly bloomed, and one that's fully bloomed. tell her the closed one represents your past, the second one is the present representing when you met her and the third one is the future you hope to have with her. trust me on this. Good luck to ya brah.

Answer 5

I think a lot of people are a bit wary of actually meeting somebody they chat with. There are different sites other than chat rooms if you are looking for a more serious kind of relationship.

If I was you I would take the friendship she is offering and go elsewhere to try to meet somebody for a romantic attachment.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Just take one day at a time. You have experience--which builds (and destroys) confidence. She may lack confidence. Also, trust is something that needs to be earned. If you need more that this at the present time, I think you know what to do. To pursue this particular gal, let her set the pace (but you can always make suggestions) Good luck.

Answer 7

I think she likes you, but dont not want to say anything. some girls prefer married man, as the y know that married man have good experience in sex.. this was what i heard from a girl i knew. but not sure if she's telling the truth..

Nevertheless, i think she waiting for you to make a move first..

Answer 8

There is a chance she just wants booty. (casually) Or maybe she is having thoughts about it before moving on to the real thing. It's not an easy decision.

Answer 9

it's as simple as this... either she is being thoughtful, wants to know you better before diving into the waters. or probably, she might be feeling insecure about herself. like, you might like her now, and what about later, when you guys meet etc. she is just shy, give her time... you'll know her answer in due course..

Answer 10

What i personally feel is that these people we meet online are good as friends but beyond that, its not too practical. She takes you as a friend, take her as one too and keep it at that.

Answer 11

sounds a lot like myself.
She must be a kind hearted girl who just likes to be friends with people, feel lukey that she wants to chat with u and be friends, people like her are one in a million.