is it wrong to go out or even one day marry sum1 that is not christian if you yourself are a christian? also, if u love sum1 and want to talk to them about God and they decide to give there life to God is it wrong that u go out or marry them after they have become christian? i have heard that it is wrong to date sum1 that isnt christian and its wrong to help sum1 find God and then date them and im wanting to no if this is true... plz help
2006-08-27 01:14:21 · 16 answers · asked by becstar 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hello sweet little child of God becstar.. :)
We are not to marry an unbeliever, for what do we have in common with them..we were given this to us in scripture for a reason..how would your children be raised..with the belief in Christ or without..who would be the leader of prayer in your home..can you see why it may not work out..there would be a lot of friction in the marriage.. :(
If they did come to know the Lord, then Yes, it is alright to marry them, for Now you would have things in common with them..
In Jesus Most Precious Name..
With Love..your sister..In Christ... :)
2006-08-27 01:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by EyeLovesJesus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People will generally quote Paul's comment of not being "unequally yoked," when he's referring to Christians and non-Christians making some sort of commitment as deep as the marriage covenant.
In a marriage, two people become one, but if both people disagree on fundamentals such as who God is, who people are, and what is moral or not, then the relationship is either going to be difficult or someone will have to change their mind. Both people will have different answers to that question and will constantly be tugging on each other to go a different way. Unnecessary conflict will also result.
Many Christians thus don't even see the point in dating a non-Christian, since dating is a precursor to marriage for many... and if you're not going to marry, then why bother even dating?
What if you talk to your bf/gf about God, and they believe what you've said and decide to become a disciple of Jesus? Sure, people come to new conclusions and change their faith all the time. The thing to be careful of is simply that it's easy to say that you've committed yourself to be a disciple of Jesus, and sometimes even mean it at first, but when people become aware of the cost, they might change their mind. Or they might actually have other reasons for saying they've changed -- they want to keep the romantic relationship going.
So if someone "converts with their lips," you still need some time to see the fruit of that change -- to see whether their lives change, what their commitments end up being, and so forth. Was it a real decision, or was it a decision made for wrong reasons, or was it not a real decision at all?
I think also when you want to share God with someone, it can make it hard for you to discern how to speak to them and say/do what is best for them if you are also desiring to date them. There is a temptation to force them to make a decision before they are ready, and there's a temptation to see only what one wants to see (i.e., a "conversion"), rather than what's actually there.
So dating someone in order to "save" them, or dating them right after they become "saved," or dating someone who has no desire to become a disciple of Jesus can lead to lots of conflicts and problems and make life much harder for the Christian than it needs to be, simply because of the extreme commitment involved in marriage.
2006-08-27 08:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your own question. It's just sometimes we dont like what we see... The problem with dating someone who does not have the same beliefs that you do is that once you start dating you get connected and then it's hard to break apart. If you do become soul ties, and if you some day marry, then your differences cause more and more stress. that is why the bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. Life is hard enough without the extra problems. You cant change anyone, just change yourself and wait for God to bring him into your life. Get out, have some fun, live life for yourself and when he comes, he comes... But I must say, "It is never wrong to help someone find God!!!" watch your motives though... God Bless...
2006-08-27 08:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Fla_Sarah2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a sin to love someone that is not of the people of God.
Many Church's today have only one parent that attends regularly and it is usually the woman and not the Man..... does this mean that the man's unbelief is excusable?
1Cor 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believer not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1Cor 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Cor 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
This should help you.... as long as your motives are pure in the eyes of God.
May you find peace and love in all that you seek.
2006-08-27 08:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by KeAhi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. A believer should not marry an unbeliever- How is it wrong to help someone find Christ?
How can it be wrong to marry someone you love who is a Christian?
At one time or another most of us did not believe.
2006-08-27 08:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by IN Atlanta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, if you can convert this person, but I will warn you that if you are seriously planning on listening and understanding this person's lack of faith in your Deity, you might find the conversion goes the other way. Do what you want, you will anyway.
I think you should leave him alone, after all, if he needs all that changing he's not the guy you want anyway. He just looks good. Find someone else to harass and let this fellow alone,
2006-08-27 08:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong to marry a not beliver if you are a believer. This is what God says..
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2006-08-27 08:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're talking tradiotionally, Christians would say it is wrong to marry someone who is not Christian.
If you "help" them to become Christian and then marry them, it isn't considered wrong in their eyes.
2006-08-27 08:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not wrong to met someone who is not a christian. If you met someone you should say to this person about God.
2006-08-27 08:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Maica Gabriela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be a benefit for humanity if people like you didn't marry or have children at all.
2006-08-27 08:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋