im sick of being with jerks. i live in british columbia , canada. im almost 26 i have a six year old daughter, and i wanna nice man, i wanna get married and have a family life with the right person, i dont think im that bad looking, i know i can treat a guy pretty good, and i am so sick of putting all this effort into pleasing jerks who are so worried about themselves, it makes me feel so useless when actually im not, im not asking for men out there to mary me but i need a little help on where to find the right man, they say the grocery store but how do you walk up to someone and what would you say, i dont think that happens too often, the bar is easy. too easy . liquier courage can sometimes be a little scary, but when your shy and dont really get out much what do you do, i like guys who ride loud bikes and big trucks, have jobs and arent holding on to any ex girlfriends.
2006-08-27 01:09:38 · 17 answers · asked by dunseithbc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Join the club girl...
2006-08-27 01:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by mortisia2121 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I hear people saying a need a good man or a good women for themselves. But ask yourself a question am I a good person. Standards, if you set your standards too low your going to take what you can get, you set them too high you limit yourself. How about looking at what you and your daughter needs are first. If you like a man with a loud bike and a big truck see if that man is ready for a lady and a 6 year old daughter. Materialistic things cannot help a relationship, don't get me wrong there nice to have have BUT it should not be a standard you looking for. Evaluate yourself and what your bringing to the table first.
2006-08-27 02:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by bigblkcute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, drop the good looking part. Because when you find the right guy, what he looks like won't matter because he will be the most beautiful man in the world to you.
What I did was make up 5 rules of what I was looking for in a man. These rules did NOT encompass physical traits. You will be setting a standard that you will never meet then. My 5 rules were and in no particular order:
1. A job - To support his life, not his life style
2. A car-At least as good as mine
3. His own place-Not a basement apartment in mommy and daddy's house
4. No Addictions-Past or present
5. No mental illness.
Do not compromise. Don't say well, he's an alcoholic but he's just so darned cute hovering over that bowl and letting loose. Or, well he doesn't have his own place but look at that beautiful car he drives. The rules that I picked out set a standard of a man who has his priorities set and is established to take care of himself. Make up the 5 things that you are looking for in a man, don't compromise and you will find the man you are looking for.
We are getting married in October.
2006-08-27 01:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about an older man? I'm not talking about me I'm 49 single and see woman half my age.( I know pervert right) WRONG!Older men are more thankful for the attention.And really know how to treat a woman.They are more attentive.Have had there kids(and got the nut snip)Most have a full time job and are good for life.I know I tick the young ladies Mother's off thinking I'm only in it for sex. Wrong again.Just because I'm 49 does not mean I can't take care of there daughters and there children and give them a good life.Besides most woman my age are just looking to settle down and cant keep up with me.
2006-08-27 01:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm far from you, but I'm one of the good guys and find some of the same things you don't like in men in a lot of women too.
I guess there are jerks in both genders.
I agree that the bar is too easy. A sleazy meat market. Lonely people looking for one night of "love". Oh yeah, that's REAL love. Sure.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-08-27 01:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Obsean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and me both :)
It feels like all the good decent men are married, or dead.
Have you tried speed dating? Or those just lunch dating programmes that you can sign up for? You can also try churchy-group gatherings, art classes, dance classes, 'how to be an investment banker' classes.
Or get a dog. Not the cutie pooch types but a real men's dog. Then leave your daughter at home, take the dog for walks in malls and parks, and watch all the dog loving men come up to pat your dog. Some men just need an excuse to approach you and the dog is it! (although I hope you like dogs and will be a responsible pet owner.)
2006-08-27 01:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by JoseK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you need to get out, try a gym, work out
secondly, your preferences to loud bikes and big trucks, is not a good one, you will always find that but then you will always find the guy into him self and the vehicle
thirdly and finally, stop trying so hard to find Mr right, because you end up with Mr wrong, he is there you just haven't seen him because your too frustrated in looking, now relax and wait, it may take some time but he will be there
2006-08-27 01:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you need some help..you are into bad boys, and when that is what you want, that is what you get. Bad boys may be fun to date, but they make lousy husbands...you are getting exactly what you think you want. When are you going to grow up and figure out what is going on in your head...there is where you need to start. IF you are looking for a good honest man, stop looking in motrocycle bars. This is as dumb a question as I have seen here.
2006-08-27 01:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i am looking for the same thing except in a women and have no kids but i am in the USA and on the Internet .
2006-08-27 01:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around and follow the dating rules
2006-08-27 01:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋