why am i preoccupied with the idea of my little sister's death?

Question

i am worried daily about the possiblility of my sister dying in a car accident or some other mishap. because i love her so much. she is my world. like mother loves her daughter. and she lives a reckless life...she takes risks because she has low self esteem. i don't think she values herself. and i worry myself deliberately because i feel i need to prepare myself for the inevitable. if she goes, i will have some sort of a breakdown, it's like i need to keep myself mindful of it so i can be prepared. what's going on here? i even imagine what her funeral would be like + stuff. anybody know what i'm talking about?

Answer 1

to you, it could be a premonition, based on your knowledge of a dangerous lifestyle. it is more likely that you are concerned about her. take her to a place where she can get support for self esteem issues and any other mental health problems she may have. see that she gets counseling-it is generally cost free at social services or they can make the connection for you. good luck.

Answer 2

Please stop worrying or even thinking about it. I had a little sister who lived on the brink as often as she could like there was no tomorrow. I worried about her boyfriends,her life style and sure as I'm writing to you she was murdered.
I do not know how old your sister is but by my guess she is below the age of 10. My daughter is exactly the same way, just is plain reckless without knowing of the consequences. But since she turned 8 something clicked and became more aware of herself. I had many of down to earth talks while walks with her and she understood eveything I said. So be on the level with her discuss your concerns not your worry(if she is old enough to comprehend), this may take several talks and perhaps a broken leg from her actions(be a good time to talk again). give your sis attention,help her out in understanding life. if she is up to the idea go for a challenging hike or climb a mountain do what you can to build her self-est em, it read like she needs love from someone in the family and that she was the last to be born, be her buddie and someone who she can confined in.
I don't know if what I said will help out. But do what you can to have that little sister in the years to come. I wish I did.

Answer 3

How old is your sister? If she is over 18 then she isn't your little sister any more. She has grown into a young woman who should be taking responsibilities for herself.

Unfortunately, you cant do anything about the things she does. All you can do is live your own life and be there for her when ever she may need you.
You seem to care about her alot but perhaps a little too much. Your preoccupied with her "death", because your too involved, take a step back. However, worrying is inevitable so I wont tell you not to.

You imagine her funeral? That's pretty normal too. If something is clouding your mind and cant get rid of it. People fantasise about the funniest, strangest and saddest things every day... I know I do! I've imagined my own funeral!!! Say, you fall in love for the first time... what do you with your thoughts? You imagine a whole load of romantic scenarios with that person.

I think you should say something to her about the way its effecting you. You sometimes people act out to get the attention they are looking for but too scared to ask for it. Also, where are her parents in all of this? They are her legal guardians, so they should have the responsibilty of worrying, not you.

Hope it works out for you.

Answer 4

When you have a family member living a reckless life, worrying about the possibilities are normal because you love them. Maybe you want to be proactive and talk to your sister about your fears. Ask her to share her feelings about her life and why she does some of the reckless things she does. Very often reckless behavior is a cry of attention, so you may want to try to spend time with her doing positive things that can help build her self esteem. She is fortunate to have a sibling like you that cares so deeply, so let her know you will be there for her not only by your words, but your actions. Good luck.

Answer 5

Separation anxiety, honey. Sounds like life in general is pretty intimidating to you...hey, I understand that, I'm agoraphobic myself! But to be able to rationalize your fears you project them onto your little sis, whom you see as "helpless" and "defenceless." Be careful that you don't enable her recklessness because she may subconsciously get a buzz from watching you stress! If she thinks you're always going to be there to bail her out she'll be even more careless with herself.
You need to make some decisions to let her make her own mistakes, sounds like she's an adult, right? Let her be one. Would you want her agonizing like this over you?
Remember love isn't an emotion; it's a decision.

Answer 6

You need to chill out , whatever will be will be , you have no control over the future . If you keep thinking this way you will make yourself ill & that will help no one. Does your sister know how you feel , talk to her & see what she has to say . Worrying is not the answer , be positive & get on with your own life
good luck

Answer 7

You are worried about the state your sister is in at the mo as this could lead to her death which is on your mind daily cause you really dont want this too happen,,, so sort her out and help her raise her self essteem. and once she is back on trak you will no longer worry!

Answer 8

You're worrying so much about her - but does she care that much about you?

In this life, you have to let others live theirs, no matter how painful it is to see when people make the wrong choices. You can help her when she comes to you, but you can't tell your sister what to do if she is an independent adult.

Don't be so morbid either.

Answer 9

you need to try to enjoy the here and now i don't think anyone that hasn't been there could imagine what it would be like to loose someone so close but in the same sentiment i don't think that pre occupying yourself will prepare you for it either

Answer 10

Probably coz of all the horrible stories concerning kids we hear about all the time on the news. If you go on statistics, if she's young and healthy, no reason she should die. STOP worrying. CARRY ON loving her to bits.