i had gud patience,but now i get very angry b'cause of my children's behaviour
how can i solve the problem............
2006-08-27 00:00:05 · 7 answers · asked by thaji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it's good to snap now and then- it reminds them that you're in charge. As long as your not hitting them or calling them names, that is. Put a little fear into them now and then.
2006-08-27 00:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Professor Chaos386 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have told the age of the children. I will assume they are between the ages of 4 and 10. The first thing you have to remember is you are the parent, not the friend. All phychiatrists will agree with this.
When they are behaving badly there must be consequences, the same as adults. Will people not rob stores anymore if they simply give them a good "yelling at". The same idea with children.
First , sit them down and have a chart of acceptable behavior and non-acceptable behaviors. Then have each child sign their names to be held accountable.
Some good ideas are having a naughty spot for at least 10 minutes or grounding them for anything they do wrong. Never back down and give-in. That is not an option.
The truth is, if your kids are unruly now, it will only get worse and you need to nip it in the bud before it gets worse. Not to mention, the possiblity of being expelled or suspended from school. It will be very difficult on you for a couple months and your children may kick and scream during the whole punishment for a while until they finally realize you aren't backing down.
If you believe in spanking, give that a try. I believe it is fine if and only if it is necessary. (example=you tell the child , "go to your room" and they say "ohh no way" and walk away, then its acceptable to spank).
2006-08-27 07:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Take a breath. Children can test patience like no other. Take it from me, I work with troubled children for a living. Next, try to figure out what need they are tiring to meet. Is it attention, is it security, is it the need for interaction? These can be masked by behaviors/ acting out. Even if a child seems to be doing something just to tick you off, it has a goal that is tiring to be met. It is up to us to teach more appropriate ways of meeting these goals, and needs. Right now they are still struggling to find out new coping skills, and how to meet their needs. As a baby, they might cry for food, as a toddler, they may steel from the frig, as an adult they will learn to ask. It is the natural way of growth. Patience and tolerance for their behaviors is key. Next it is up to you to be the educator. Consistency and calmness now will bring more peace later. Good luck, I know it's not easy. Hang in there.
2006-08-27 08:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by mhfldr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Discipline your children dont let them control you. If they know your angry they know they have upper hand. Ground them take away their priviledges until they can start behaving. Take time out for your self destress take a walk or just relax away from them treat yourself to something special they will notice say when you learn to be have i will treat you as well. Kids play us dont let them you stay in control.
2006-08-27 07:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by a mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to set boundaries and keep to them. Reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. I don't mean beat them. Take away fave toy, send to room, no computer, etc, etc. But you must have the will to go through with it. Otherwise you are wasting your time.
2006-08-31 06:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by leckie1UK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find out the reason when u lose patience
and than life friends try to teach chlidren
2006-08-27 07:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by sarah m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firm discipline and better parenting go hand in hand.
2006-08-27 07:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋