I had an online gf and wen we met at first it felt as if I was in heaven...I did everything to make her stay with me for a long time and sudennly just out of the blue she sends me an offline message in my ym that she isnt ready for a relationship! It made me feel that i have done something bad to her or i sed something horrible to her! Do u think she had another boyfriend all a long? Or maybe she didnt like me.. I mean she and i had the greatest connection that i hav ever felt after my first break up....
2006-08-26 23:57:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats life
2006-08-27 00:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by http://hogshead.pokerknave.com/ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you're in so much pain right now... we've all been 'dumped' at one time or another, but if you can change your perspective a little, it can help a lot!! try to look at it like: i enjoyed the time we spent together, and we had a good run of it! i learned about myself and what makes me happy in a relationship, and i also learned more about women in general... she cant take away the good times you guys had, but you can turn the experience into a negative one by dwelling, and trying to figure out why you couldnt please her... noone is capable of pleasing anyone else, they have to be pleased with themselves first (and you also must be pleased with yourself) but even then sometimes people just meet and serve a purpose to each other, and then they part, both people a little more enlightened for the whole experience.... bottom line: trying to be what someone else wants will only leave you more confused,(because often we humans dont even know what we want!!) the best thing to do is figure out what you like and desire in a partner, and do the things that will attract those like-minded people into your life!! (ie: if you're into video games, go to conventions and find yourself a gamer!) dont try to figure out why she doesnt want to see you anymore, because chances are you will only feel more hurt, (and it's not likely that it had anything to do with you!) and it will side track you from the real goal here, which is, moving on... good luck to you!! this certainly wont be your last gf!! ok, so hang in there!!
2006-08-27 00:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by jessiblu_83 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's common feeling of being dumped. you feel yourself looking for an explanation which is alrady given and can't accept the simple truth or just can't accept that you have done well and still being dumped. it's pretty the same.
and also to think of a third person. trust me i've been there before and sometimes will go to the extend of harassing her. of cos in my point of view, i am just trying to get a real good reason and when she told me, i just couldn't accept it. after all i just couldnt accept the fact that someone close is leaving from my life. that's pretty hard.
but you gotta let her go. try to find some1 else or just enjoy yourself being alone for sometimes. just accept it as simple truth that she has gone.
2006-08-27 00:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by Cool Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea maybe but go get a real one someone you can hold on to it will be ok the best way to get over a girl is to jump in bed with another one. Always have a girl where ever you go cause as a man you have needs that you must take care of man up!
2006-08-27 00:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by young one1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she did that because u make allot of things to make her stay with u, some times when u do that to some one this some one star to feel that thats allot and she cant buy u or do u allot of things like u do. I've been going out with my bf for around 7 days and he made me ALLOT of things i feel its to much that i cant do him the same things! may be u can ask her.
it feel sux i know, but move on u'll find a better gf than her .
2006-08-27 00:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that she just wants you to be her friend and no further deep relationship. Probably, you're not her type when you both met. You can't push het to like you but accept her decision. You're still young and can meet lots of pretty girls around you.
2006-08-27 00:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by lara23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO ive never been dumped,, dont think id live it down,,dumped a couple though,, she probably just isnt ready to commit,, or u might have scared her off somehow...x
2006-08-27 02:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by madmarie666@btinternet.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st om-line is hard to do,but if u and the other person are Very good friend work it out.It's hard but someone has to do it and it will make u the better one for trying.
2006-08-27 00:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mayb that's not ur fault. She juz hav not the preparation... i dont think she hav a new bf...
2006-08-27 00:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by chiko_wong91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have ; its not a good feeling but its not a good feeling to stay with someone that does not wont you . so i would say get over it she did .
2006-08-27 00:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by irene j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋