Why do teenagers shut themselves in the room immediately when they reach home?

Answer 1

I remember doing that because my parents drove me nuts - never is the age difference more apparent than when you are a teen........................teenage years are hard - i am pregnant and that is the bit i least look fwd to

Answer 2

Teens are growing up. They are learning some things for the first time; experiencing things (anything from conversations and exchanges with other people to personal realizations) that they need to process. It's normal, everyone does it, and it's a part of growing. It might seem like their personality is rotten but some teens just need some personal time when they return home to write in their journals, listen to music, whatever ritual they have -- to decompress.
Of course, sometimes the realizations they reach can be temporarily "wrong" and might lead to some poor decisions, but this is also part of growing up. You live, you learn.

If you're a parent, don't take it personally. Seriously, don't, because it will really hurt, and it's useless because, while it may SEEM personal, it's not against you. Just try to be there for your teen when they are outside of their room. Let them know you're there by speaking to them in a normal tone of voice about things other than how weird their life seems to you, and not accusing them or lecturing as soon as they leave their room.

Things wil turn around eventually!

Answer 3

I dont know! My Son did it, when he was a teenager, (probably getting away from his sister), and now, my Daughter does it when she gets home from school...

I figure they have to "unwind" from the stress of school and thier friends, so that need the privacy for themselves. But, too much, and I start to worry, so after awhile, I tell her to keep the door open so that we can see what is going on in the room.

When her girlfriends are in there with her, I dont really care if they shut the door, because I dont need to know what little girls are talking about! If they are talking about BOYS..Me as a father, really dont need to hear about that issue!!

But, I know that my girl mostly watches tv with her friends when they are in the room and doing make up..(spent a fortune in nail polish sheesh!).

I give her, her space, when she is home, but, she must do her homework and piano regardless and there is a curfew she has to adhere to.

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 4

Teenagers are in their own world. And it doesn't reflect on you if you don't allow it to. If parents are accepting and non-judgemental then the lines of communication are opened. If you say things like you look like you had a bad day...and leave it like that the way is open for disclosure. And just LISTEN, unless advise is asked for.

My sister even took her dinner up to her room!

My children always communicated with me, and I heard things that I didn't want to hear but it was better than the alternative!

Answer 5

Teenagers need some down time when they get home. They have had experiences at school just like adults do at work. They are coming into their own and are trying to establish a sense of maturity.

Answer 6

To tell their parents not to bother them. Privacy is a cherished thing when you are a teenager. Haven't you ever wanted to be left alone? At least the teen is at home and not out getting into trouble. Give them their space. They'll come around.

Answer 7

To decompress. They're at school all day, with hundreds of other students. They have that awful adolescent pressure to fit in with a crowd of dumb monkeys. Basically, the same reason adults need a few minutes alone before they face the family. Only, most adults get their time in the car. Unless you think your teen is involved with something dangerous like drugs or depression, give them a minute, will ya!

Answer 8

No one really understands you and you are too self conscious to let anyone really try. You are not really sure who you are because you are still defining yourself. The only place you can really be yourself or work on becoming what you want to be without risk of someone seeing or judging, or worse trying to tell you what to be or do, is in your room with the door closed.

Answer 9

I did it because i was dying to come home all day from my horrible school, after another bad day i just wanted peace, you can't get that outside your room because your parents keep talking at you, or anyone else in the house

Answer 10

i think this is an age,when those ppl,want to individualise themselves,and form an identity,of an independent person,,also not forget privacy,,they want space, to give and take,and it's necessary that the parents understand,also its good for the parents,as they too would be having their own privacy and quiet moments for themselves,and better yet if they still has got primary goin kids,

Answer 11

They will get past that. They just like to hang out by themselves, with out parents asking questions. After college they will become more social with parents again.