My husband is looking at moving jobs and I think its a bad idea at the moment cause I dont see any job security in the new role he has been offered.I dont want to make him feel like I dont want him to take it this cause of my insecurities but then again I do feel insecure about him taking this leap.He is really keen on it cause it pays better and has a better role.If he stay where he is he will get a better pay and a new role soon and he knows that but cant wait any longer for it.The only thing he wants is a good pay more than anything else to lead a better life! which is great but this company is brand new and we are in a foreign country and it scares me to think of him not having a job for a while if something goes bad with this.I have been playing devil advocate to him but I feel bad for him cause all he wants to do is give me a better life...what do u guys think of my predicament!! and what is the best way to put my point across.
2006-08-26 21:38:49 · 14 answers · asked by heraamarantha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
With few exceptions, honesty is the best option. Tell your husband how you feel, and tell him that you took on the role of devil’s advocate to allow him to convince you of the merits of the change. Ask him to switch roles and try to talk you out of the change while you try to talk him into the change. Both of you take the time to write a list of all of the pros and cons. You want to list the nitty-gritty points as well as the major points.
You do not indicate that you have a career, but if you do, that needs to factor into the equation too. If you do not work, then blind loyalty and dedication came with the wedding vows. Support his decision and stand beside every step along the way. In today’s world, job security exists no longer. Your husband’s company could pull the plug tomorrow, next week, next moth, or next year.
Good luck!
Will D
Enterprise AL
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2006-08-26 21:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Will D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband and wife are to share all woes and happiness... u shld talk to him about it and assure him that u dun need a better life... cos what he currently doing is okay for u and since there is a promotion in his current company later on.. i think he can wait till then ... money is just an object.. time spent and moments shared are priceless.... let your husband thought seriously on this issue... if he still want to take on the new job... then support him... if he feels he want to risk it and it is what he wants.. support him... if the new job position require more time and energy... then u may have to be understanding support him...
2006-08-26 21:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by veramira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess MY question is.....what makes you think there is a thing called job security anymore? Your husbands present job could easily be sent off to another country in the morning by a CEO and board of directors thinking they can turn a bigger buck! Life along with jobs, is a lifetime gamble!
2006-08-26 21:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the sort of job that can be very insecure at times too. It scares me, but my girlfriend stays with me through it all, moving from location to location.
I think its completely understandable though, if you want to express your concern to your husband. Sure, it's his decision in the end, but the best thing you can do is be honest about the way you feel. Good luck to you both! :)
2006-08-26 21:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Aaron_C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better if you allow him to do whatever he wants.
But at the same time, see that instead of spending all the money he gets, without thinking about the future, let him save lot of money for the future happenings. You should be ready to face the world, but it is impossible without money anywhere in this world. Uncertainty is everywhere. You have to take calculative risks and chances in life.
2006-08-27 04:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true partner would encourage him at whatever he decides. If you are so worried then why don't you get a job as a backup just in case he fails. This country was founded on people taking risks, so let him take his.
2006-08-26 21:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question goes "round and round"....if you re so dead set on this...then tell him...you could be Right! In a foreign country...I would say the same to my Man if I felt this way...especially if we were in another country!
2006-08-26 21:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple, its better to be part of an established company, which can guarentee income for you 2... Simple saying, bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush... Good luck, hope it works out...
2006-08-26 21:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Henry viii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 01:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him rather than us, we can't know whats best for you guys... talk to him honestly about the way you feel about all of this...
2006-08-26 21:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by wad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋