I am 18 and have only ever had 3 boy friends. The 1st two I didnt really like and when I cheated on them (one night stands) i didnt really feel guilty. Now I have this really nice bf and he is actually a really nice guy. I was doing so well till the other night when I kissed another guy. I am never satisfied with what ive got. Any comments or advice would be appreciated. I feel like a horrible person.
2006-08-26 21:25:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thankfully, they are still boyfriends and not your husband yet. You are still young and haven't found the person that is truly for you. When you find him, you will know it and will only want to be with him. ;-)
2006-08-26 21:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by starrynight1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a horrible person, you are just a little messed up in the head. Take no offense of my honesty. I've only said it so it might help you.
It sounds like you came from a dysfunctional family and you don't know what you don't have. This is why you are not satisfy. The root of the problem were caused situations in your life that you have no control over. Especially events that happened when you were younger. another possible cause is the negative programing from the society.
This nice bf you have may actually be your ticket out.
I would actually be honest with him. let him know your problems and that you appreciate him in your life.
then be very submissive to him, treat him like a king and make his every wish happen.
don't put yourself in situations where you can get close to other guys. Don't even talk to them. Tell them you are in a happy relationship.
this part might be hard.. but.. you must unprogram your mind. you have been program to find different things attractive. in reality, those are not really attractive. They are created by an emptiness from an event in your past. try to look at what is attractive in a new light. it takes time..
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2006-08-27 05:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont feel bad dont be hard on yourself. i no you cant trust any boy but theres always one or two who you can talk to. well that aint to bad, the bad part is telling him. just when you think that you find the right guy you do something to tear your relationship apart. but some guys are understanding if you talk to your bf he might understand and give you another chance so dont blow it but this is kind of testing the guy to see if you and him can get through obstacles in your relationship. if hes willing to give you a chance then your lucky cause most guys will leave you at the spot if you tell them. well you got to tell him or you'll feel guilty and sad the whole time. if you tell and he doesnt give you another chance its better cause you will feel like a weight been lifted off your soldiers and your relationship wont be a lie. just be positive and wish for the best but also be warned and get ready for the worst. GOOD LUCK!!! P.S.i hope you pick me for best answer
2006-08-27 04:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't horrible just an immature person with poor impulse control and a selfish arrogance. Screw it up with enough 'good' guys and you'll learn eventually. Just have the descency to make sure you aren't spreading diseases to these nice guys whose only mistake is in considering you worth being with.
2006-08-27 04:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think since ur berlly startng 2 live life an u have only had a little bit of boy friends u should really think about if u want 2 keep hearting him or brack u u just nned more experance relize what u have
2006-08-27 04:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. I've definitely been there. I think that the only way out is to consider open relationships or swinging. The other thing is to experiment sexually with him and maybe that can satisfy you.
2006-08-27 04:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by I_am_me___ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just not the right guy for you. I'm 18 and sometimes I do wry the right guy would never come, but then we're still young!
2006-08-27 04:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Neutro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to be single and find a man who doesn't want to be committed that way you can be loose all around town with whomever you please. You may also want to get with a therapist and talk about why you engage in such unhealthy behavior.
2006-08-27 04:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your boyfriend and just be single for awhile. It doesn't sound like you're really ready for a relationship so don't be in one yet.
2006-08-27 04:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like being a free spirit. Spread your wings, but never spread them too far.
2006-08-27 04:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Steve-O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋