My girlfriend lef me 8 nasty messages. She should apologize 8 times. Am I right?
I left for Atlantic city and we were not getting along when I left so we did not have sex. I told her that she should not be sending me off to Atlantic City with a loaded gun.
She called me and I was not able to call her back right away and she assumes that I am cheating on her. So she left me 8 nasty messages.
She apologized, but I think that she should apologize for bad message she left. What do you think?
2006-08-26 20:41:11 · 24 answers · asked by joe man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't think you are, but it is unreasonable to expect an apology for each message. It will embarrass her if you insist on it and it will hurt your relationship. You telling her that she shouldn't send you off to AC with a loaded gun sounds like you implied that you might cheat on her. I'm sure it hurt her feelings and she felt threatened. Her imagination was probably going wild with what you were up to when you weren't able to call her back quickly. And that insecurity about your loyalty to her made her angry. And so she left you some nasty messages as retaliation. But now she has apologized and I really think that you should show some understanding and compassion and forgive her and move on. It really would be the kind thing to do.
2006-08-26 20:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little too much to expect 8 different apologies. I agree that she should apologize - she was definitely out of line. But she was upset because you left her with the impression that you were going to cheat (that "loaded gun" line you used on her wasn't nice either), so she was just acting on her feelings being hurt. Her messages, as mean as they sound, actually show that she cares about you and that she was hurt that you would do such a thing. Maybe ask her one more time to apolgize, then you should apologize for that "loaded gun" line......then hop into bed for some make-up sex! :)
2006-08-27 03:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the problem is if you are a d!ck or she should apologize. When you see her being.. "nasty," don't respond and lower yourself to her level. That is the one thing you should not do. Let her know that this is 2nd class behavior to communicate this way and it is not something you are intersted in. "If that's the way she wish to communicate, the door is that way. don't let the door hit her *** on her way out."
Its better to walk away from a broken relationship. Stay single for a while. Rethink what might cause ur relationship to be sour. Remember, it takes 2 to tangle. No matter how right you think you are. You are atleast 50% at fault.
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2006-08-27 04:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring the subject up. (diplomatically of course) Let her know you're a bit put off by the messages too, and consider jealousy, and nastiness to be seperate. It sounds like in her mind she apologized for the whole incident. 8 messages sounds a bit overblown, but 8 seperate apologies would be asking a bit much.
2006-08-27 03:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be blunt, I think you're a d!ck for telling her that nonsense about the "loaded gun" crap to begin with.
Is your relationship so based upon sex that the fact you two are in the middle of an argument or disagreement not enough to put your libido on ice while you sort through and try to make up?
No, she's not justified for leaving all those nasty messages on your v/m. Or is she? You clearly implied that you would be tempted while separated...didn't you? Isn't it then NATURAL for her to be suspicious?
Sounds to me like you guys have more to work through than the specific number of inappropriate messages left on voice mails...namely, some trust issues, the proper place of sex in a loving relationship, etc.
Sorry to be blunt, I don't mean to be but these short answer spaces mean I need to get right to the point.
Best to you both.
2006-08-27 03:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You provoked the messages. You played with her feelings by implying you might be unfaithful to her. Both of you behaved childishly. You by blackmailing her for sex. Her by leaving you those messages. So by all means, ask for another apology, but only if you're prepared to offer one in return. Or you could just grow up, stop using sex like a bargaining chip (both of you) and have a healthy relationship.
2006-08-27 03:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Yes you are a dick
2) What do you expect after you left her with those thoughts. To be nice to you? Really? Well I don't think so.
3) You are lucky she even apologized to you once for making her feel on edge that you might cheat on her. How mean of you.
2006-08-27 03:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't have said that she sent you off with a loaded gun. Plus, you went off to Atlantic City. Of course she's going to be suspicious, especially after the comment you told her before leaving.
2006-08-27 03:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by Steve-O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As if 8 seperate apologies is gonna make your balls feel bigger....lmao.
Please, she should apologize one time for everything she may have said. If your ego wont accpet that then maybe you need to move on to someone who's on your wave length.
2006-08-27 03:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by High? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sure she should apologize, but not 8 times, that's just, ridiculous. One apology should cover it all.
2006-08-27 03:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by High On Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋