i have this girl whose just my friend. She has this boyfriend that shes been with for a few years. It seems like shes trying to edge him out lately. She spends ALOT of time with me and some of her other friends (but most with me). Shes been getting more and more flirtacious with me, sharing her feelings toward me ect. I never act like more than her friend, even though wed probably be going out if she wasnt in a relationship (thats what she said voluntarily, ive never asked her out or said that i would like too). She said she thinks about how things would be if we were married (!). Well, thats all fine and good, but I dont want to be the cause of her relationship breaking up. If she wants to do that, let it happen on its own I say. She'll be talking to me somewhere, ignore all this guys phone calls, and he then just "happens" to be in the neighboorhood wherever we are. This seems like its a bad situation for them. I feel guilty when ive done nothing wrong. Im caught in the middle, help
2006-08-26 20:27:12 · 18 answers · asked by sTRIKER 81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like she is losing interest in her boyfriend and that she knows that she could have a good relationship with you if she was single. From what you've said, I think that she is probably testing you to see if you are interested in her in *that way* too. She is probably waiting (to leave him) for confirmation that you'd be there for her. Don't feel guilty, you haven't done anything wrong. It is up to her what she wants to do. If she isn't happy with him that means that there is something wrong with their relationship. The next time she ignores his calls to talk to you, ask her what is going on with her and him.
2006-08-26 20:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt feel bad, that girl is having problems with her boyfriend and in the mean while she is looking at you as a good friend to spend some time with, maybe she likes you more now that she has problems.. Lookin for someone to talk to. tell her to be clear with her bf and you.. if she wants you, she should break up and you shouldnt feel guilty because it didnt work for them
2006-08-26 20:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she is playing you. Maybe she wants to break up with her bf and wants to be sure you are her back up.
Sit her down and tell her that you are uncomfortable about how she flirts with you when she has a bf. Tell her it needs to end. Then try to not hang out with her. Tell her that if she breaks up with the guy you might be interested. And leave it at that. After all who wants a woman who juggles men. Lets say she is eventually your gf, will you be comfotable knowing that she is out there looking for another guy. She needs to grow up and just have one guy in her life at the time. Make is clear to her that you aren't the sort of guy who wants to be in the middle of a break up.
Put your foot down about this, she will bat her eyelashes and try to convince you with her charms. Don't let it happen.
If and when she is free, only then will you flirt with her.
2006-08-26 20:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that you can't be the cause of their realtionship breaking up because your not trying to break them up in the first place. If she wants to ruin her own relationship by flirting with you, let her do it.. but u dont need to feel bad because your the nice guy here and not doing anything wrong.
2006-08-26 20:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man u r some super nice guy!!well shes damn lucky 2 have frnd like u .whn poor pple like me here search the entire universe 4 1 like tht..
well i dnt know wht shes tryin 2 point out or wht u shd do (might get risky)but u dnt need 2 feel guilty let things go thr way n it will end up well(most probably ull end up married 2 hr)
2006-08-26 20:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by d.ultimate angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm this sounds exactly like what's happening with my friend (except my friend is the girl torn between two guys). Do you like her more than a friend? If not maybe you should tell her. As she obviously has a thing for you. Don't get her hopes up.
2006-08-26 20:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing are you gay and why is she asking you about getting married in your relation if your just friends sounds more like she is wanting to go to a higher level in the relationship but wants to see your reaction to it first
2006-08-26 20:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you have to tell her you two are just friends and if she wants more she has to let the other guy go, permanently! It sounds like you have feelings for her, but have respect for her and the other guy. set it straight now or it'll get messy and you may have a bigger problem later.
2006-08-26 20:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a bad situation for them. Tell her to resolve what ever it is between them, or end it...and then you guys can talk. Don't get caught up in the middle.
2006-08-26 20:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to get her priorities straight! If you want to be with her tell her but if you dont tell her that....now for the whole married thing thats very creepy but thats for you to decide if that ok with you than thats cool....email me or im me and we can talk
2006-08-26 20:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by little_angel63384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋