if it's so great being a parent, then why do some people neglect their kids?

Answer 1

Good question...I guess that some people are just too selfish to become parents!

Answer 2

Some people neglect their kids because life isn't fair. Some women have kids to keep men in their lives, some women neglect themselves when their lives aren't on the right track. I have experience that the man wanted more kids and the woman had the kids willingly but wanted to give them away for the first couple of years to her family members because she didn't want to deal with hollering kids and miss her sleep and frequent naps. CPS came to her house when her child became sickly without reason. The children cry uncontrollably and she closed the door to their room and hers to make sure she wouldn't hear them. To help the situation I became more involved and relieve her from her responsibilities, as often as possible. Other family members also take upon bigger roles. Some people wanted her to be arrested but she just needs help. Getting her arrested still takes her from her kids and put all the responsibilities upon someone else. Therefore, we manually fixed it ourselves but has made official statements on the record about things she has done and we have experienced with her. Most times when she and her boyfriend are happy the children are in great care. We take the kids when they are in disagreement. This sad but true. Overall, some parents neglect their kids because they simply don't know better because they are too young, now days.

Answer 3

For the same reasons they mistreat or abuse them - lack of planning and consideration of the consequences. It's not like saying 'Ok what am I gona do today, I know, I'll paint my room', many or most of those spontaneous actions can be repaired or simply put aside if the outcome isn't what you'd expected. Creating a new life and bringing it into the world is totally different to those things we decide on a daily basis, but sometimes I wonder if people realise this. I speak from experience, my parents told me when I was 24 that I'd been conceived to patch up their marriage, which didn't work anyway, they still split up after 30 years together and then it became clear why neither of them loved me and why I had been physically and emotionally abused as a kid. I hadn't asked to be put in the world, they brought me into it with such huge expectations of me and saw me as letting them down. Anyway, abuse finally turned into neglect coz after all those years of being tormented my mother broke contact with all of us after the divorce. You can't choose your family, it's a cruel fact of life that some people just get a bad deal, I'm not the only one with such a story. Sure, accidents also happen, I think as humans we could learn to control our desires better and cross our legs and say 'no'!!

Answer 4

People neglect their kids because they didn't want to be parents. Unfortunately there is no requirement to naturally having kids. (As opposed to adoption where you have to be cleared and take classes) Any person capable of having sex can get pregnant, that doesn't make them a good parent. Being a parent is very hard and most of our society forgets what sacrifice is involved-your whole life changes, just ask your mom, it doesn't end when they turn 18, it goes on forever. It is great being a parent, unfortunately too many parents can't see that and end up neglecting their kids.

Answer 5

Some people are dysfunctional enough to become pregnant for the wrong reasons. They may not be that bright, or it could have been an accident, or due to religious beliefs they continued with their pregnancy etc. Basically, not everyone goes into parenthood with it being planned.
It depends to what extent you mean neglect. I'm doing a degree and sometimes leave my son to watch cartoon network. Does that make me neglectful? I want to get on in life, which will benefit us both, and as a single parent it's tough sometimes. In an ideal world..............................
P.S. You can tell which are the answers from the childless people, the reality is very different from the fantasy, believe.

Answer 6

you can never realize the ideals until you learn from it or experience it. having kids is admitting to yourself, i'm a responsible man/woman so much so that i can extend it by providing this world another inhabitant (someone i can impart the skills handed down to me). some people neglect their kids, true. but why use them as a basis? are they the only ones you depend your principle upon? do they consist of the majority in your out look in life? aren't there other parents who has better perspective of life of which i can used?

no, i'm not being judgmental... but those parents who neglect their kids forgot that responsibility is a big key in life. they mistakenly enjoy their life, afraid to hold these responsibilities. afraid to be called a parent. fear of reality is inferiority, right? they couldn't handle the truth so they'd rather live in fantasy and leave all others behind. selfishness, maybe, but i'd rather pity them for they know not the joys of being a parent....

Answer 7

People are irresponsible and selfish. I can't believe the amount of kids who are in care, how could anyone let that happen to their own precious flesh and blood? There are more responsible, loving parents than not, but it is still so sad to hear about the failed cases. It's so unfair on the child but in many cases they are better off in care than in the dysfunctional mess they have been born in to. It is a vicious never ending cycle and it will always be the kids who are missing out.

Answer 8

Who said parenting is so great - it has its ups and downs and like all else in life some people look at the ups or the donws more. AND not everyone is up to the chellange of bieng a good parent though most get by pretty well.

Answer 9

People who neglect their kids aren't fit to be parents, as a mother i don't know how anybody could do that. Children are so precious, parents who neglect their kids should be strung up.

Answer 10

Because not all people are meant to be parents. I would guess that the people who neglect their children either have "issues" (drug problems, mental condition, etc.) or became pregnant when not really trying, and weren't ready for a child.

Answer 11

Because they are not being responsible parents. Being a parent takes a lot more than just giving birth or being there to donate... being a responsible and loving parent means that you set your priorities straight... and that means that the kids come first. People who have trouble taking care of themselves should not be parents... how can they take care of a child if they are that irresponsible??