Okay, I have a younger brother who is four. He has issues! He still poops and pees in his pull ups, when he's suppose to be wearing "big boy underwear" and he is soo annoying!
And so, its 1:11 am and my parents are sleeping. They're so tired and worn out, I will do anything to keep them asleep. My brothers room is right next to theirs, so he has to be quiet! My room is across the hall. I've gotten him food (carrots and celery, heavens know I would slit my throat if he was up even longer hyped up on sugar) and that still won't work! He can only watch kid friendly channels, and 'Boy Meets World' is on Disney and the shows on Digital Cable he doesn't like. Everytime I tell him to go to his room or, on my meaner side "shut the **** up", he won't do it. He just says that annoying as hell, "no" and then acts all innocent.
I think this is bullshit. I'd do anything fory mom and step dad, but keeping my brother occupied, quiet and obedient has been quite challenging! PLEASE help me!
2006-08-26 19:13:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
And sadly, I'm sitting here crying at his insubordination! Me, as an eleven year old, should not be crying due to a four year old being an asshole!
2006-08-26 19:15:53 · update #1
Sounds like he needs some real ground rules and they need to be enforced... do not reward for bad behavior... he needs a set sleeping time.. start slow.. and follow through this should be a parents job but if they will start now before it is to late you will be able to help then follow through.. he should be getting nothing to eat at that time of morning ... i have had 7 children and i do know setting the pattern by a 4 year old should not be happening .. that is the problem with parenting these days.. they let the child make his or her own decisions.. PARENTS MUST STEP UP AND BE PARENTS.. so he cries when you first start enforcing the rules stick to it and sooner or later he will learn he is NOT the boss... if this continues i guarantee problems down the road.. go to your room let him cry so be it.. he must learn.... ..
2006-08-27 04:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop acting like his mom and wake her up. That may be just what he needs, his real mom. Nomatter how close you are with him there is no replacing your mom. You as an eleven year old should not be dealing with the trials and tribulations of a four year old when millions of adult parents have been driven to therapy over it. You are a wonderful daughter for wanting to help your mom and step dad but you will enjoy your life and your little brother much more if you just be the big sister. You should tell your mom what has been dealing with at night and tell her you cannot do it anymore. Good luck.
2006-08-27 10:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by mom tw boys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to give your parents a night of good sleep, that's nice but if this goes on all the time, there is a problem. If you keep giving him things, he will keep calling you. Try sitting in the room till he falls asleep. Don't do this night after night, you're the sister, not the mom. I have a sister that is 11 yrs younger, don't take on the mommy roll, it only gets harder from here. Remember, he's young, and so are you, that is why you are not the mom. Have patience or wake up mom or dad, don't punish him, it's not his fault.
2006-08-27 02:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a pretty cool kid, and chances are, if you are that respectful of your parents, your little brother will be also, eventually. Shouldn't be your responsibility, but if you are determined to handle this on your own, I say a little sibling abuse is in order. I would show a little muscle, and let him know you could tie him in a knot if you were so inclined. Donig it without losing your temper, and not when your parents could be woke up by crying would be your best bet. A few good scares at the right time, when you are not likely to get in trouble, will probably make this kid realize that his pathetic cries for attention are not going to bring the kind of attention he wants.
2006-08-27 06:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tuan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found myself in ur situation with my neices. I had to baby sit them all the time to the point they called me mommy. I know now 1. Kids are annoying at that age. 2. It takes longer for boys to potty train than girls. 3. If you give in to children they will expect everything they want when they throw temper tantrums. It should be early enough to wake up the parents now. Wake them up and talk to them about how to get through these issues with them. Your mom raised you and you turned out allright. At my house bedtime is bedtime. Not playtime not snack time.
Please, if he's supposed to be in bed tell him "Ok Johnny it's bedtime now. Not time to eat, not time to play. It's time to sleep." read him a story...but when it's time go to sleep....maybe put a baby gate up in his room to keep him inside until morning. I had to put 2 gates up in sons room one on top of the other so it was too talll to climb. He had adhd and couldn't be left alone in the morning times. I hope this helps but definatly talk to your mom! Best of luck!!
2006-08-27 07:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and dad made a choice to have a child, and as such have the responsibility for the child. So I think you should go wake them up and tell them they need to take care of their four year old because your not the parent.
2006-08-27 04:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be patient and strong. I was once exactly in the situation that you are in. There was 12 yr difference between me and my brother. I took care of him MOST of the time.
Please understand that he is just a BABY yet. EVERYTHING you do NOW counts later.
I lost my brother to drugs and miss him everyday now, but I still have our good memories, so make GOOD MEMORIES, not bad ones because you never know what is ahead.
Good luck and God bless you both.
2006-08-27 02:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're very sweet for helping out, but you need to get your sleep, too! You need to get your mom and stepdad to help you out with this problem. Do they even know that he's being such a brat this late at night? Tell them what's going on, your little bro will probably listen to them and behave if they tell him to straighten out!
Good luck!
2006-08-27 03:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by clueless: please be kind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT your job to be doing this!
I think U need to get help in having someone like a school counselor to talk to about how to handle this situation!
2006-08-27 04:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by froggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you got some sleep .... Your health is in check!
...... good luck / you sound very smart
..... You'll find an answer / God bless
2006-08-27 05:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋