I have a cutting problem! Help me!?

Question

well i cut myself when i feel any overwelming feeling of sadness, anger, hatred etc here's one problem i had at school

well I did it cause I was not bored I was totally pissed off at the whole world and in a matter of seconds I had grabbed her scissors and done it and I cried in the girls toilet because I was so upset that I had done it and I didn't think I would go to that extreme and do something so wacko like what mental peeps do I was scared to think I would do it again and I didn't know how to stop honestly I was like some sicko who didn't know how to deal with her issues.I was a fruit cake, I prayed about it and it didn't work it’s like god doesn’t care at all like he hated me. I didn't know what to do so I lied about it...!

I did it again this afternoon because i was stitting in a tree when one of the gals that tease me pushed me down out of the tree and i rolled away and hit my head on a branch and cut it open and sprained my wrist which is now bandaged up. Help am mad!!

i also got teased about me cutting myself and it angers me to think that i do this so hence i do it more. i get kids calling me a ***** and also saying that i'm a **** and a hoer and personally i don't like it at all, they throw stones at me, weeds, sticks, books and pencil cases as well and it angers me. they spread rumers about me like that i sleep with my grandma and thet i **** my mother in bed and that i had sex with my English teacher and other nasty stuff like that honestly how horrible can some pople be it's apoling and i hate the way they call me names! and then they hit me, punch, kick, bite, pinch etc. an quite franqly am i sick of it help me before i cut myself worse or comitt suicide. NO i am not a ATTENTION SEEKER! at all GOT IT!

Answer 1

Krystel;
As one former fruitcake let me say that all is not lost, or hopeless. Counseling helped me deal with shame issues and allowed me to minister to others who struggle with like problems. You are loved by God. You cannot condemn God because you didn't get the answer you were looking for from Him. He acts in time to meet us in our need, but not necessarily in our understanding of our need.

God uses people to minister to people often, just like He uses doctors' skills to accomplish miraculous healing, He uses psychologists and counselors to heal other problems. In my case He promised to heal me Himself and He has, but counseling provided me some instruction for dealing with what triggered my behavior. In other cases like mine, I've seen Him use professionals trained to guide people into healthy behavior patterns.

This is extreme behavior and should be considered a sign that you should seek help. You recognize that it is a problem and you sought after God, now don't quit because your request wasn't answered the way you wanted it to be, but continue to seek Him with all of your heart. Ask Him what He would have you do for healing. He is faithful to answer that kind of prayer, not the kind where you demand of Him 'or else.'

A counselor will give you some tools for dealing with anger, stress, or whatever emotion triggers this kind of behavior. You will come away from this experience with a better understanding of yourself and others. And, you will be able to praise God for arranging things so you can be healed and give Him praise for the work of His hand in your life.

Answer 2

I'm also a cutter. I firmly believe that cutting is only part of the problem. There is always a reason why we cut . It doesn't mean you're crazy ... not at all. It just means that you need help. Do you have problems expressing you're overwhelming feelings. Doing it because you're bored is different tho. Cutting is like a drug. It actually releases chemicals in your brain that make you feel better. I believe that cutting because your bored means that you are actually addicted to it and altho sometimes it is a method for coping sometimes it's merely a drug, just like pot or meth.
Getting help can be hard but worth it. Find a therapist who understands self injury. If you want to do some reading up on it there's a book called "Bright Red Scream" (I forget who it's by tho) It's really good and might help you understand what you're going through.

Answer 3

hey, i used to be a cutter too and i was also the subject of riducule and physical abuse as a kid from family and outsiders as well. you have now what is called borderline personality disorder and cutting is the way you deal with your pain. you feel like you cant control the emotional pain but you can control your physical pain so you cut, or do other things to hurt yourself to make you feel in some kind of control. you need professional help. a psychiatrist, and a therapist trained in DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) you may consider wearing clothing that covers your cutting and even though it might be very difficult you really should go to your guidance counsellor at your school about the way you are being treated. you should not have to deal with that. if you are truly suicidal and /or cant stop cutting, for some immediate support you can call 1-800-suicide (1-800-784-2433) good luck to you hun. your life can become a life worth living, just hang in there.

Answer 4

find a therapist who is good at dialectical behavior therapy so that she or he can help you see that cutting is a choice among many behaviors and that one can do other things to manage feelings that make you feel better and make the world a better place besides cutting.

Choose to wash dishes, take out the trash, read a book, exercise, eat a healthy snack, pray, etc.

Come up with a list of 10-15 things that you can do instead of cutting. Create this list when you are not in the mood to cut so that your head is clear. Post that list somewhere and then use it.

Give yourself a reward when you choose something on the list over cutting.

Answer 5

Hey listen every one has there problems and ways of dealing with things but i think that u and im not trying to sound mean but u need to go to somebody and ask for help. it might help if u try doing something u enjoy like sports or crafty stuff to do when u have those feelings that make u want to cut ur self. By the way God does love you he'll love u know matter what

P.S. u can always talk to me

Answer 6

don't listen to the people who are being mean...but you should tell your doctor about this. Your doctor is always there to help you and keep you safe. They can also help you come up with what to do and can help figure out everything that is going on. Dont hold back anything, because it will be for your own good. I know that is said easier than done. But it will be nerve racking to tell and you will probably be nervous, but think dont you want to get better? And they will not judge you, they want you to get better there not there to make fun of you they are there to help. That is why that took so many years of schooling! Well goodluck! and i hoped i helped! feel better too!

Answer 7

Well, believe it or not, cutters are addicted to their own brain chemistry neuro-transmitters that are set off when they cut themselves. It is called endo-morphines. It is a temporary (feel good) pain relieving chemistry that rushes this transmitter to our brain and body. It doesn't last long at all, and is therefore, really not worth it. I used to be called a w.... when I was in school and I was a virgin at the time!!!! Jealous girls say stuff. I used to cut too. I finally ignored everyone, told my parents, got to a Dr. and was put on medication and went to therpy. GOOD LUCK and get help soon! Kitty

Answer 8

Your using the pain from the cut to help take your mind off your emotional pain.
Also you think that you can not fight back so cutting yourself is an act of revenge. You imagine that your counterpart feels the pain as well if not on an increased plain.

Talk to your parents AND school councilors because this act can evolve into self mutilation or worse, you can transform it into action on someone younger then you.

Answer 9

hey there i know how you feel i am helping my neice with the same thing, get a piece of papr and write down all the good things about yourself no matter how small or silly they may seem and then write down the things you do not like about yourself and also the problems of every day chit that stirs any kind of emotion, happy,sad, mad, angry,silly,flirtful,ect.. and write what made you feel that way and you may be surprised on how you can change your whole out look on life and help yourself by avoiding certain things,or learn to laugh at them, hope this helps,good luck on your new journey

Answer 10

Dear Friend. Calm down You probably have a form of Obsessive Compolsive Disorder. It can be treated effectively by a psychiatrist. Make an appointment. God does love you and never forget that. He works in many ways and maybe this answer is one of the ways. Please be good to yourself. Get some help. You can get through this and be ok in a matter of time. Really, you will be ok. Please see the doctor. I will pray for you. A support group is very helpful. If you seek out help, you will get it as God helps those who help themselves. Please take care.