And she has the gall to think it is her business!She will not stop before she tells you how wrong you are!
I feel like I am in a spy movie!What would you do?
2006-08-26 18:55:10 · 19 answers · asked by Frogmama 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This is a woman in my church & she has been like this for years!
She found out i was moving & she sent me an e-mail(How she got that i will never know!)& told me i was taking the children away from a person who loves them & I needed to stay right here where i belong!
See?Personal stuff like this!I'm not married & I am raising my grands!
She is like this about every personal decision you try to make!
2006-08-26 19:07:12 · update #1
Obviously who ever you are talking to is giving her information. We had the same issues at my old church. All the mothers of the church would confide in the pastor's wife but then she would tell her teenage daughter. My mother is under strict rules not to tell her anything about my life. I suggest you confide in different people from now on.
2006-08-26 19:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Horrendous! BUT, rest assured that this is a common personality trait in people whose lives are falling apart. It's called transference - it's much easier to find fault in others and examine their lives than it is your own. Her obsessive behaviour just shows the depth of her own problems.
You need to be a bit careful here. If you are a brave, confrontational person, then you need to reflect her behaviour back at her. Tell her that she needs to mind her own business and cite all the incidents of her nosiness back at her.
Or try a fake, concerned approach. Tell her that everyone is really worried about her because she seems to have an unhealthy concern in other people's lives and it is clear to everyone that she obviously needs help with her own life... you could drop in little phrases like "we were all saying the other day"... !
There have always been people like this throughout the ages. I can't remember what the old punishments were for the village gossip - ducking on a stool or having her tongue cut out, I think!
2006-08-27 03:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by Empea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she must be a phsycic!
anyways, you have to be patient with this kind of people. they are more likely to create damage and mess with someone else's life than to solve their own personal issues. but the woman should have a slap on her face for her to realize that she's affecting your life. however, it is not the right way. try to cut off any means of communication with her. if she knows your email or phone number, just don't talk or reply to her, even if it offends you. in time, it will pass by and maybe she'll find another person where she can mess up with. if you can do anything to change and help her change the attitude, it could be better.
2006-08-27 04:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by misscoyote 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not really with the lady, but with the people you are choosing to trust with your secrets. There is a reason why people say those who tell you about others tell others about you. Clearly someone in your circle is running around divulging information about you to others and it is getting back to this woman. The only way to guarantee that she doesn't find out about your secrets is to not share your secrets with others. The only true secret is that which is kept to yourself.
2006-08-27 15:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These type of people should not be considered your "friend" or "acquaintance". You need to cut off this woman.... meaning, you should not talk to her, acknowledge her or have anything to do with her. It's like having a PI following you not for a period, but all your life.
Anyway you are moving away right? So that's good.
2006-08-27 02:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have fun with it...make up elaborate stories that are believeable, say you are part of the CIA, but it is top secret, that she absolutely cannot tell anyone else for national security issues, that she could be eliminated if anyone knew she was on to the scene...have a ball and watch her squirm. Good grief..there is more than one way to skin a cat, and this cat has too much skin.
2006-08-27 05:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is really invading your privacy, call the police on her. Or tell her that you will call the police if she doesn't stop. Another thing: maybe SHE is hiding something about herself. Try investigating her and show her how it feels to have nothing secret. (I've had a neighbor like this) Tell her it is NONE of her business...
2006-08-27 02:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Stand right in front of her.
2. Look straight in her eyes.
3. Give her a real good S.M.A.C.K. (slap on d cheek) (a left or a right)
4. Tell her with a stern voice, "stop messing with ma life yo mamma"
If you can get step 1, 2 & 3 right, ur done.
Caution: Please check your state laws to be on the safer side.
2006-08-27 02:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it slip that you always have a bomb in your bra.
Find out everything about her and post it in the break room.
She lives a sad little life. Feel sorry for her and shake your head in pity when she opens her mouth. Pat her on the shoulder, put on a look of "it's a shame" and walk away.
2006-08-27 02:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She only knows what people tell her, why they tell her, or others like her, we'll never know. But you have to consult your friends and family about whos spreading your business. But believe me, she cant do it on her own!
2006-08-27 09:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by lasttruediva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋