We have been seperated for 2 weeks now but we went out for 8 months and broke up because he cheated on me and his cousins were so rude to me when i was with him. we still talk on the phone everyday and he's what i mostly think about.
2006-08-26 18:46:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going through a relatively similar situation. My ex girlfriend and I broke up about seven months ago, and of course I still love her and according to her she still has feelings for me too. Long story short the first time we went out, because we broke up and got back together and then broke up, she cheated on me with my best friend. Of course you can imagine how disappointed I was and how bad my heart was torn apart.
Anyway, all in all I forgave her immediately becuase all I knew is that I loved her. Of course many say it was stupid, but then again it wasn't her fault... my best friend attacked her. Although nothing really extreme happened, except a kiss. Anyway, what I am tryint to say is that you should follow your heart.
Maybe he regrets doing what he did, and he knows its a mistake. You should try talking to him about that. Don't tell him you love him, but ask him direclty if he regrets doing what he did and listen very carefully to his answer. If you still have feelings for him and he still has feelings for you, then I trully believe that what happened was a mistake. All the people that say "don't go back with him" they don't know what true love is. Follow YOUR heart and take no one's advice. I mean, I could tell you "leave him, the feelings will be gone." or "take him back because you still think about him" but that is so biast. The best advice I can give you is to follow your instinct and your heart, and yours alone.
Maybe things don't work out, maybe they do. But if they don't you know that at least you tried, if indeed your heart and insticnt say that its the way to go. But remember, first of all talk to him, and ask him directly. About his cousins... don't mind them, usually families are pricks. You're with him, and only him... send the rest of them to hell when not necessary to deal with them.
Follow your heart, your instinct and talk to him... that's the only right way to go. What you make of it is totally up to you, and only when you have listened to yourself you shall find peace.
2006-08-26 20:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by ChAr-LeE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go out with him again.
The eight months is a long time and because of that you are going to have on going feelings for him for a while and you will miss your ex for a while. It is fairly accurate to say if a person cheats on another then they are bound to do it again. There is going to be a HUGE trust issue there because of that one. If you do choose to take him back, make sure to let him know you expect his cousins to at least be civil to you. If he doesn't stick up for you with his family what makes you think he will do it for strangers? Because you have been together for so long and because you still talk to him every day you will have him top of mind all the time. I think it all comes down to if you really want to deal with the fact that he cheated on you (you two need to sit down and talk it over ... for example, why did he do it - because he isn't getting enough attention from you isn't a good reason ...) before you can begin what will be basically a whole new relationship all over again.
2006-08-26 18:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by jane9715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been two weeks, you aren't going to get over anybody that quick that you had feelings for. It'll take time and this wound is still fresh. To heck with his cousins being mean. If he was cheating, he was the dog and the cousins deserve him, not you. Treat yourself like the goddess you claim your handle to be and move on, honey.
2006-08-26 18:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm....well it hurt pretty bad when he cheated on you, didn't it?
And that's not a good feeling to have....I would say, if you are asking us, then its most likely not a good idea.
However, this idea will never leave your head if you don't stop talking to him.
If you want what is best for yourself, then I suggest you stop talking to him so much, you can start off gradually and then completely cut him off.
It will hurt getting over him, but eventually you will be okay, and you will know you did the right thing.
If you think there's still a chance for you two, then..talk to him, and BE HONEST about what you feel. Okay? Okay!
Hope this helps. =)
2006-08-26 18:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Hiroko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he cheated on you, just go out with him for a 3 days. If he still cheats on you throw something on him and say get a life.
2006-08-26 18:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by chirosefan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you find out about him cheating on you? and how far in the relationship did he do it? if it happened later on the relationship, then i don't think you should get back with him even if you have feelings for him because if he thinks he could do things to you and still, you get back with him, he might just take advantage of you and that's not good. i don't know how old you are but enjoy life, there's plenty more fishes in the sea. just think of what he might do to you in the future when you and him are married....
2006-08-26 18:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by an oriental guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months is nothing. If someone cheats on you... they don't deserve you. Believe me... it's not what you want sweetheart. Trust is most important in a relationship. Now that it's broken.... your relationship is helpless. There are many good people out there. Just wait and see who loves you most. Not someone who is willing to cheat. Good Luck....
2006-08-26 18:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called EX for a reason. Move on and find someone who respects you. What if you catch some disease? Some things might not let you reproduce. It is a sick world. The right man will respect you and his family will to. Think about it would you like to go to family functions and no one likes you? NOT COOL!
2006-08-26 18:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by SKYE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first cheating is the most difficult - it becomes progressively easier thereafter. He will definitely cheat again anytime the opportunity arises. If you can turn the occasional blind eye (love is blind afterall), go back to him and you will be both be happy - keep your fingers crossed and he might not bring any STD home to you.
2006-08-26 19:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Albino Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it didn't work the first time it won't work the second time. Why! because he won't change for you or anyone else.. Think you don't want to marry a cheater, if he did it one he will do it again and again and again. His friends and cousins treat you like ****, it because he is spreading rummers about you and they are not very nice. Tell him to hit the road because you never gave him permission to do the thing to you that he is doing.
2006-08-26 18:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋