My ex GF has OCD. She would do all these wonderful things that made me feel so loved, but at times I felt she lost sight of the actual meaning and cared only about the task. For example, on my birthday last year, she arrived 15 minutes before midnight because she HAD to make me homemade gifts and wrap them in fancy paper. Forget the gifts…I just wanted to be with her. I conveyed this to her many times to no avail, so after 1 year I ended it. Through out the entire relationship I never saw her cry except on this last day. However, her tears were few, for within minutes, she sucked it up, smiled and walked off. It has bothered me to this day because I’m not sure if I made the right decision.
Was I too critical or not patient enough?
Did she really love me, is that why she cried for the first time?
Why did she smile and never look back again if she truly loved me?
Can someone with OCD love truly or will the task always be #1?
2006-08-26 18:44:28 · 10 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you seem kinda ignorant for thinking ppl with ocd can never love another. i think she did love you. thats why she smiled and walked away. you wanted to end it, so you did. do you expect her to break out in a stream of tears in front of you?? i know if i really fell in love with someone i had, i would wait to cry til later. im in love with someone now, but i never let her know how sad i am i cant have her. i think you made a mistake. she only wanted to make you happy...and when you have ocd, that includes the whole package, wrapped with a bow. i know this, cuz im the same way. just because she wanted to make you your gifts on time has nothing to do with how little she loves you. from what you described, i think you broke her heart. i think she really did love you. but shell move on. maybe to chicks. lol but if i were you, id be callin her up tommorrow, and talking to her about it.
2006-08-26 18:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just relax. You are not a loser. God doesn't make losers :) If people hate you, then they are not your friends. Hate and friendship are never together. Perhaps you will be backstabbed but you must accept that it is what it is, what will happen will happen for the best, and that you are amazing. I am also afraid to go out into public for those reasons, but imagine how much celebrities have to deal with. You don't know those people so you shouldn't even care. Have a strong character, my friend. Who cares what other people think? Definitely not me and I'm doing fine in life. You have to live and be free. If people say things, **** them. Nicer comments will surely come your way. Use dark curtains or those things that you pull up and down lol I forget what they're called. You have to stop being paranoid and find yourself. It will take time but you will be ok. If you lose a relationship, tough luck. Try to fight the disorder. It's all part of regulating your mind. Focus yourself in something and talk to others. A smile and nice laugh will bring others towards you. I wish you all the best.
2016-03-17 03:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she has OCD doesnt mean she is not capable of having a loving, caring relationship. Maybe she just wanted to do something super special for you on your birthday, and to her that may of been it! Maybe after the gifts she planned on some you and her time. I mean I dont know, I really don;t know the whole situation but I will admit that I have OCD and I am soooo in love and happy with a WONDERFUL guy! I don't know if this helps but I hope it does!
2006-08-26 18:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by abeautifullie79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh HON, ocd people can love......they can totally hyper focus on us and then the next day get so busy with a chore that they forget what they did the day before.
I loved my OCD guy very much. But after a year and a half I was so frustrated I was ready to pull my hair out
When you speak of the task....it originated with you. your girl just got so distracted by the wrapping of it that she was late.
You two may always love each other but may never be able to function as a couple. I had to move on. I ocassionally want to be in his arms again, then I have to remind myself of the OCD behavior and there is no doubt in my mind that my love does't cover all challenges.
My guy would say he would meet me someplace for coffee so it was just the two of us.......I would wait for two hours, trying to be patient, and as I was walkiung home he was headed to meet me. I said forget it. It was like he had no concept that making someone wait for two hours is rude for him to do. And what distracted him......a vido game...he said naked playing and his obcessivness couldn 't pull him away
Yes. ocd people are capable of love. they just aren't good with the day to day things.At one point I was his obcession, I mistook it for love, which certinaly was part of it, but I pulled him into my world and he didn't work for a week. Then I realized,,,,this is strange.
2006-08-26 18:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-19 02:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Linde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OCD has nothing to do with it,.... the task will have to be done, but maby it's all for love....stop being a fem!
2006-08-26 18:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They can, there are medication they can take...But you know some people just cant handle being with someone who has problems and disabilities and that's OK...There is someone out there for everyone.....
2006-08-26 18:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wats OCD??????/
2006-08-26 18:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no way
2006-08-26 18:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by silver 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋