My girlfriend had a small waist when i met her with nice curves. Now she has gained alot of weight, and its?

Question

making me unhappy. I try to get her to the gym, and to diet but she'll only do it for one or two weeks before she goes back to her old ways. Any Advice Please Help

Answer 1

Dude tell her she used to be hot and now is mak'n you droop.

Really girls how would like it if your boyfriend porked out with a nice beer gut? If this woman loved this guy she would think about him too. It's a two way street ladies.

Answer 2

What if you go to the gym with her?!? This will make her more motivated if she's doing it with someone else. It's boring when you go by yourself. Or try going bike riding together or for long walks. Play a game of handball and treat her to a nice light lunch afterwards. You can have the same so she won't get the urge to binge on the fattening stuff. Keep telling her that she can do it this way she'll feel more confident about herself.

Answer 3

i'd first like to ask u a question and please be honest with yourself....r u concerned for her health so u want to try to get her to go to gym and diet...or r u concerned with the way she looks as she is no longer as attractive as when u first met her??

if u really truly loved someone, how they look is not really important...whether they r thin or has gained weight, u will still love them and find them to be the most attractive and beautiful person in the world : )!

when a person is happy and starts to be comfortable in a relationship, then it is quite natural for them to gain weight hehe
: )!

no woman likes a man to tell her that she has put on weight and is no longer as attractive as before! u should try and be very supportive and help her through this by going to gym with her and also eating healthy foods with her too then maybe she will motivated to do this. tell her that it is really for her own benefit and health, which is true!

ppl have to really start looking after their health before they grow older and maintain that otherwise it will be difficult when u start aging!

have fun and good luck : )!

Answer 4

She will only workout if she wants to. If she is unhappy with the way she looks, then she will make the decision to go. You can encourage her when she does go, but by no means can you actually get her to do it without her own will power and motivation. Honestly if you really love her, you shouldnt worry about her physical appearance. But if you cant get over the weight gain and you wont be able to love her for who she is, then maybe you should find someone else.

Answer 5

If you want her thin, you have to be sneaky. Spend lots of time with her and be ACTIVE when you are together. Try to not make it obvious. Instead of saying " hey lets go to the gym and workout together" try something else.... like a hike, dancing, swimming, bikerides, even romantic weekend trips to the beach for a nice long walk along miles of coastline is great.

Do what you can, if you love and want to keep her. Be her motivator, and supporter. Don't be part of the problem. Movies and going to bars is ok for couples starting out, but its going to involve lots of sitting and consuming of food. This is a HUGE pitfall for couples and weight gain. Not being active enough, when you're together.

You have to try your best to love her imperfections, and help her in subtle ways. People feel angry and confrontational when you are blunt and tell them that the weight bothers you. Instead, try to find a hobby that you can both be active with and that you both enjoy. Learn to rock climb, learn to Tango. Help her and strengthen your relationship in the process. :D

Answer 6

Let me ask you this: Why are you unahppy with her shape now? Are you concerned about her health or her "shape"? Maybe you can try to tell her how her weight affects her health, instead of telling her how her weight bothers you. When you go to the gym, take her along with you. It's always more effective when the two of you working out together. If you really want to see her losing weight and staying healthy, you must be very patient; otherwise, you should find yourself another girlfriend. Good luck!

Answer 7

if she's fat because she's not doing anything, then you really have to bring her to the gym. it's not healthy.
if she's doing the house chores, have the proper diet and still fat, then it's not her fault. prove that you love her enough to accept what she is right now and what she'll look like in the future (be it worse or better than today). being unhappy about it is normal but you always have to remember that most people usually get bigger as they get older.

Answer 8

For women their emotions are very much tied to health. Often people will put on weight when they are depressed, stressed, or unhappy. It is also true most guys who focus on looks are insecure about their own life.

She will find someone better then you soon eventually if you don’t grow up.

Try therapy for your relationship, and then go for a walk together.

Answer 9

It seems as if there are people who are offended by you even asking this quesion. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that these people themselves are overweight.

As hard as it may be for people to admit, physical attraction is a big part of relationships. If you aren't attracted to someone anymore, no matter how great their personality is or how awesome of a person they are, you aren't going to want to be with them in a romantic relationship.

Answer 10

ungrateful buggar

You have a woman that loves you and you are complaining about putting on a few pounds. Have YOU kept yourself at the same weight? Why not increase muscle mass and get that 6pack? Maybe if she see you putting more effort into your appearance she might want to as well.