There is this guy. A while back we hung out with some friends and he was flirting with me. He would hold my hand, put his arm around my shoulders, and act jealous of other guys that me and my friends saw. He would pull me to the side all the time and would get me away from the others so we could talk. After that I moved away and I'm about an hour away now. When we see each other we are friends and he seems like he still likes me. He flirts and goofs around but because we live so far apart it's hard to see each other. I had boyfriends since then and he's had girlfriends but I still cant get over him. I totally trust him and I know that he trusts me. If I ever say anything about us to him he just ignores my emails and texts. But when we talk on the phone, my friends say that he gets all excited and leaves the room to talk to me. He just makes me happy when were together. I'm not an emotional person, but when it comes to him, he makes me feel all warm inside. I've never felt like this b4.
2006-08-26 18:02:33 · 11 answers · asked by newgirl422 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's difficult to maintain a long distance relationship, I have had one that failed miserably, and I am currently trying to hold on to another. The only advice that I can give is to make the absolute most out of any contact you have with each other. Never end a phone call or a face to face visit angry, because that is generally the end. You sound truly happy, and I hope it works out for you.
Good luck! =o)
2006-08-26 18:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. You and your friend have found that very nice comfort zone that two friends can sometimes have where you can flirt, tease, and talk with a trust you will rarely find anywhere else.
Unfortunately for you I don't think that HE wants a relationship. I can tell that you do, it sounds as though you care for him very deeply and wish to be his girlfriend instead of a friend girl. However, if he is ignoring emails and texts in regards to the 'us' factor of you two he doesn't wish to have that sort of relationship. Realize that this could mean he either:
1) Doesn't see you that way
2) Doesn't want to put you (and himself) through he pain of a long distance relationship and the risk of it failing (and in turn risking losing your friendship)
3) Simply isn't certain of what he wants to do yet.
I think that you need to decide if you are happy with how your relationship with him is right now. If you are, then stay and don't push. If you aren't ... then before you decide to take him aside (in person) and tell him your feelings think about the risks of what you could lose and if it is worth that risk.
2006-08-27 01:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by jane9715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am going to start off by saying this. You really aren't that far apart. Try putting yourself in a situation like I find myself in. My boyfriend is in Kuwait and I am in North Carolina! See I trust him and he trust me, just as you and him. If there is trust and you guys really care for each other and are willing to be in a relationship although you are in 2 different places, then go for it! There is trust there. If there wasnt trust then I would say dont bother. Follow your heart! But keep in mind that there is a chance of losing a really good friend!
2006-08-27 01:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by abeautifullie79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you really have to lose?
I say go for it and tell him you are interested in dating him.
Let him decide what he wants and then, together, both of you can decide what you both want.
Just have fun! Life is too short to worry.
2006-08-27 01:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by Khalen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then just leave the relationship where it is, it seems perfect actually a guy who likes you so much but isn't really trying to get in you pants.
2006-08-27 01:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by outbaksean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i say if u like him that much tell him in person make the trip and if he disapoints atleast u tryed live with no regrets
2006-08-27 01:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Stan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seams to me like he would be a great friend to you. dont push it too hard but just be friends for now. maybe latter in life who knows....
2006-08-27 01:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by aldi_c3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make a long distance relatioship work! good luck!!
2006-08-27 01:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by raq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww you love him
2006-08-27 01:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by Angie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be yourself
2006-08-27 01:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by funky_papa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋