what do you do when in less than 24 hours you're going to be alone?

Question

I'm an recover(ing) self injurer, have depression, and a dissociative disorder.... Lately I haven't been doing well with the whole depression thing..slipping into old eating disorder and self injury patterns, suicidal thoughts are coming back. My Room mate and close friend is here most of the time when im not ok but she's gone for a while.I can usually depend on myself to keep myself safe, but i dont know how im going to survive the next week till she's back. I've had a friend here but she leaves tomorrow..i dont know how till i'll see her again because we both start back to work in a couple weeks and there arent any long breaks coming up till christmas and im going away, so till march i wont get to see her and this is adding to my depression as well as having the anxiety of knowing i'll be alone. Sometimes I love being alone, having the house to myself...but not when im like this. Please dont tell me to see a shrink...I already do. This is more a vent than a question i guess...sorry

SOrry...I shouldn have been more clear on this part. I am not actively suicidal, just thoughts but no plan to follow through. I do Self injure, but not to die, and i'm careful.

Answer 1

Concentrate on stuff you like. Movies? Music?

Stay busy. Do productive things. A little exercise wouldnt kill ya, and does wonders for the spirit and the mind.

Do some planning. What do you want? Where do you want to be?

Contact some friends.

Ask yourself how you could make you and your life a better thing, then make some lists and strategies to make these things so.

Answer 2

I'm going through the same thing. Keep Busy!!!!! Find something to do even if it is alone. I moved to a big city, and am alone ALL the time. Something that I hate. I work as much as possible, do you? That's a good start, just being around people sometimes helps, and you'll be making money in the process.. Go to the mall, the movies, treat yourself to a pedicure of spa day, go to the park, and walk around, find a really interesting book, and last but not least, rent or buy plenty of comedies, even if you don't intend to watch them, b/c you never know when you'll need that quick pick me up. Don't do the self injury thing, you're going to regret harming your body, just remember that you are born alone, and will die alone, the rest is just time between, use this time to get to know yourself...hope i helped! If you need anymore advice, send me an e-mail, and good luck sweetie, everything is brighter when the clouds part

Answer 3

There is no need to apologize. Everyone needs to vent sometimes. This is a tough question but yet, also a very good one because unless fellow answerers have walked in your shoes, will we make sense? Will we offer the best advice? I truly do not know. You are already in counseling, that is good. Are you on any medications that might need to be increased while you are going through this separation? It almost sounds like a separation anxiety attack.

Have you ever tried visualization? I say this because I've learned to control erratic heart beats by focusing on something soothing. Might help you through this time.

I wish you luck. Sorry I couldn't have been of more assistance.

Answer 4

wow somethings people on here answer with the dumbest and heartless things sometimes u wish u'd run into them someday lol like the dude who said jump off a freeway bridge whats up with that sorry sometimes some answers i read just piss me off dont listen to that idiot anywase i have had a bit of depression here and there and the suicidal thoughts seem to be just thoughts of a easy way out of this difficult world but the way i think about it is if u were dead and u look out from ur spirit you would do anything to be alive again and people say to talk to god i mean i belive in god but its soooo hard to lay down and feel much better after talking to someone who doesnt excatly responds to u in the way u need sometimes u know i guess they say god talks to u in different ways but inside u need to hear it out loud right then and there i mean ur reaching out for help searching everywhere for some kind of relief and cant seem to find it no matter where u look.. i try to get outta my head when feeling really down, i think of people less forturntet then me (excuse the spelling) and other's who are in worse shape then i am or ever could be,, listen to music the kind that make ya wanna move any kind of music u love the best.. forget the sappy depressing music and try to get out more it helps any place no to crowded but where u feel comftable at and at ease,wright,

Answer 5

it's the dissociative disorder more likely..you feel you need someone around to sort of keep you defined and grounded in reality. i know. you know suicide is not an option. you know you will call someone if you really get bad. you just dread the process. nothing much i can say will be a great help here. and you probably are just needing to vent , but boy are you not alone in what you suffer. don't be sorry. be as strong as you can and don't be afraid of being afraid. it's human.

Answer 6

How about you try to go to a gym or take yoga classes.... Dont spend all the time home try to get out shopping or what ever ..... read a book . Surround your life with vibrant colors, the arts, positive music. Instead of watching the news on television tonight, go out to see a play with a friend or simply enjoy a walk in the park. There are many ways in which you can fit positive energy within your life.

Answer 7

My heart goes out for you, sister. All these mental problems are not easy to solve. The most important thing that I'm concerned about is that the suicidal thoughts are coming back and you are showing all the major symptoms of having a major breakdown. Get yourself to the hospital immediately and tell them what you've typed here. There's also a national toll free suicide hot line. I don't know the number. Please, dear, go now to the hospital. You're not crazy. You have a disorder that's difficult for alot of people to control. good luck! Please let all of us know what happens. smooch.

Answer 8

Being alone is very tough when it is the last thing you want. I suffer with depression sometimes myself. You may find a helpline useful. I don`t know where you live so I can`t give you specific numbers...
Ultimately I feel talking to God helps as He is always there for us, and you may find some good potential friends at your local churches. Email me if I can help.
I very much hope things get better for you soon. Please don`t apologise for seeking help.

Answer 9

BEING ALONE IS A BIG DEAL TO A LOT OF PEOPLE .NO , I WON'T SAY SEE A SHRINK .BUT..THERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT YOU CAN DO TO PASS THE TIME.....

UNTIL YOUR FRIEND COMES BACK AMUSE YOURSELF.IS THERE ANYTHING YOU LIKE TO DO ? READ ? LISTEN TO MUSIC ?

HOW ABOUT LIVE MUSIC ? ANY CONCERTS , GOOD BANDS AROUND AT CLUBS OR PARKS ?

YOU SAID NOTHING ABOUT YOUR MEDICATIONS ..STAY ON THEM ..YOU SAID YOU WERE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS......HEY , THATS NOT SOMETHING YOUR ROOMMATE NEEDS TO HEAR IS IT ? DO YOU REALIZE HOW HARD IT MUST BE TO HEAR THAT FROM YOU ?

BE A FRIEND TO YOURSELF AND FIND SOMETHING OTHER THAN YOUR ROOMMATE TO LOOK FORWARD TO .....

I IMAGINE YOU HAVE HEARD THIS BEFORE...

MANY PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEMS WITH ATTACHMENT.ABANDONMENT AND SUCH ....
IT HURTS BUT SOME ONE WILL BE THERE IF YOU REACH OUT .....

YOUR SUICIDAL GESTURES ARE A CRY FOR HELP MY FRIEND ....SEEK THAT HELP.THERE ARE CRISIS CENTERS NEAR UNIVERSITIES........

ITS OK ...JUST BREATHE AND DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE , EVEN IF IT'S JUST GOING FOR A WALK .......

I DON'T KNOW YOU OR WHERE YOU ARE BUT YOU ARE NOT ALONE..... PEOPLE ARE READING THIS AND WE CARE.......IT'S YOUR JOB NOW .TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND GOD BLESS YOU ..........

Answer 10

I took the time to read the patterns of your responses to others' questions before deciding to respond to the question you've posed, and discovered a recurrent theme in some of your writings: You are an intelligent and seemingly sensitive young man who tends to rebalance and self-heal, and you are able to "get it together" in order to help others. The last comment ("This is more a vent than a question...") of your poser shows insight, in my opinion--you know you will once again rebalance (much like weathering a storm). I suspect you are much stronger than you get (or give yourself) credit for... and you seem to comprehend that "this too shall pass" when such a blue- mood moment arises. The reason I was moved to answer your question was that my daughter died a wrongful death abruptly on Columbus Day in 2002, and my two dear granddaughters were abruptly scattered to two violent men in two separate states---I haven't seen them going on four years now after having them be an integral and beloved part of my life while my daughter was alive. What do I do? My first act, after burying the physical remains of my beloved woman-child, was to force myself to take a comedy-club workshop---not because I was callous and uncaring, but because to participate in a group of young adults who had not yet experienced the depths of despair would force me to pull myself into a state of mind that could respond to the professor's improv instructions so that others in the group could build upon my response. Sheer will... Mind over matter... It does help to believe (know) that, as Science of Mind and Unity Church state, "there is only One Power and One Presence in the universe and at work in my life---God, The Good, Omnipotent. (Quantum Physics/String Theory espouses the same principle.) I think you do realize that venting is a way of rebalancing. In my darkest moments, I sometimes sat next to a traveler at the train or bus station or at the airport and just, as you say, "vented" (I call this process "a cosmic burp"), assuming that everything and everyone is Divinely guided, so what may seem like debris to me is quite possibly inspiring treasures for someone else (I say this with a hint of humor). I also made myself do things I'd never done or things I had done but in a brand new way just to create new brain cells or patterns upon which to build. What friends I've made since my daughter's transition know that I don't go swimming in the pity pool--I firmly believe that absolutely everything works for good. Melaney's spirit lives on, in much the same way that your friend's or roommate's spirits remain with you even when their physical presence is not in evidence. It does sound as if you are an empath, sensing others' feelings as well as your own, which may account for your system-overload moments. Have you tried writing poetry, doing sculpture, or perhaps painting? You seem to have the senses and soul of a creative person, based on the range of your best-answer responses and the focus of the current question. Center to a positive self-image (which you perhaps do in your rebalancing cycles) and some of the deviations described above will resolve themselves over time. I can recommend an excellent "do" book that will help you with the latter: Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way". She is a master at making use of the feelings you describe above as tools and treasures for creative flow. Hope this resonates...