I cant stand my boyfriend anymore. It seems like every time i finish getting over the horrible thing hes done one day, theres just something else waiting around the corner. Ive caught him in a handful of lies, ranging from seeing his ex girlfriend and lying to my face about it (literally) to where he really went with his buddies. He makes me feel like crap. He makes me feel angry and out of control and like i just want to hurt him for hurting me so bad. He goes and joins dating sites, he has secret email accounts, the list of crap is endless. But everytime he ends up being so sweet and making me want him, that i cant freaking let him go. I cant picture my life with him, and i cant picture it without him. Im so stuck. Help.
2006-08-26 17:41:17 · 15 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break it off!
You have to.
And don't fall for any of his "sweet" behavior. Cut him off - he does not deserve you.
It may be hard at first but you'll make it. You're stronger than you realize, I'm sure.
2006-08-26 17:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a destructive cycle and that is exactly how you will live your life with him. Really stop and write down why you want to be with him....all the pro's, then write all the con's and why you shouldn't be with him. Are you hoping your love will change him and he will realize one day you are worth respecting, loving, on and on? It really is magical thinking and not living in what is reality today and tomorrow. Why would you want to waste your heart and time on a man who doesn't appreciate it, let alone destroys any possible trust you still have? You can't imagine without him, because it has become a way of life and familiar to you. The sooner you get out from this unhealthy relationship or hold he has on you, you know the better woman you will be. How will you meet the right man if you are stuck with the wrong one? You already said you can't picture your life with him, so don't be in this picture any longer. If you stay, the only answer for it is that you have lowered your standards and don't expect any better....why?
2006-08-26 17:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get used to the status quo no matter how bad it is. At least you know your present situation. Breaking up means facing the unknown. Many people would rather deal with crappy relationships because the know them. They are afraid of the unknown if a change is made.
My advice...a break-up is tough to go through, but I think it would be for the best in your situation.
You should also work on your self-esteem. You deserve more than this jerk is offering to you!!!
2006-08-26 17:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to break up because sometimes you're with someone for so long you don't think you can be alone. But believe me, you can. You were before you met him and you will be able to make it afterwards. Sometimes, you don't want to hurt their feelings, but just think the longer you are with him, mr. right could fly right on by and you could never meet him because you were stuck in a relationship you didn't even want to be in. If you can't stand your boyfriend anymore, you've got to break up with him. If he is seeing his ex and lying to you, he doesn't love you enough for you to stay with him. If he loved you he wouldn't do those things. Think about it.
2006-08-26 17:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is in the air, that's why it's hard to end a relationship. Once you end, it will feel weird and different to do things without him by yourside. Sometimes, when love between you and that person is gone, you and him still stay in the relationship because you two are comfortable with each other. Love comes with resistance you know.
2006-08-26 17:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie to much drama. Cut the strings with him. You don't need to put up with that crap. Not even married couples do. I think you are better off on you own for now. Have fun and hang with your friends. Your to young to have stress like that over some jerk who's not even worth it. If you want to forget him stay distant from him and show him your no doormat for him to stomp on all the time. Be strong you can do it!
2006-08-26 17:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to that....it is very hard to say enough is enough. I wish I could give you an advice...but so far I can't even leave my boyfriend myself....when I try to do it...and I find myself very mad at him I get courage and decide It's time to leave....but then he sweetens my ear with the things I want to hear and convince me to stay, he promise everything will be different...and it goes a week good and then ...the same story....so what I can just say is that time is passing very quickly...and when you realized you are not getting younger...and you are just waisting your time with a relationship that is just exhausting you!!
2006-08-26 17:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make two lists. One list for what is good about the relationship and one list about what is bad. If the list about the bad is longer, then dump him. Show him the list and it is over.l
2006-08-26 17:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Paisley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for me it was so hard because I was comfortable.
Meaning I knew what I had and what to expect.
I was afraid of starting over because I did not know what that meant for me.
But you'll soon realize you're better off without him if he makes you miserable.
2006-08-26 17:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by godwon2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read some tips on this site on how to move on after a break up
2006-08-26 17:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋