My "special" friend is going through Baby mama drama and issues with his parents. I try to be there for him but he just shuts me out completely!! It has been almost a week and no response from him!!
2006-08-26 17:38:01 · 9 answers · asked by ladygramblinite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is because men operate differently than women. See usually women want someone to help and so they seek out their friends immediately when times are hard. With men, they retract into the "cave" of their minds and shut themselves out because they need to think things through. Men are fixers. They have to fix themselves because it is just the way they are. If he wants you involved he will tell you. But if he does ask you for your help, let him get out everything that he has to say before you say a single word. After he is done, and only if he asks for it, then you can give your advise and how you think it will help the situation. But ONLY if he asks for it. Until then, just give him his space and let him know that you are there for him and leave it at that. The harder you try to get in and help, the farther he will push you away. Just be patient.
2006-08-26 17:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Elora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man and this is the reason I think we do. Its the honest truth and its embarrasing as well.
For a man, the hardest thing he can do it to sit back and admit that whatever it is he is going through he is simply not strong enough to deal with it on his own. It is a fault that we have. No ifs, ands, or buts.
Pride in short is your answer. It doesnt make sence and in the end it usually ends up hurting us more than whatever the original problem was.
My personal belief on why we have this "fault" is b/c its just how we are made. Men in general are supposed to be the "providers" Now of course Woman can support themselves, no one is saying they cant but for a man we always put this extra stress on ourselves. The result is we become to prideful for our own good.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-26 17:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by ifellfromgracei 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy who's had his own dramas answering, give him a little space to figure out what his next moves are. If he needs advice, believe me, he'll ask. If you try to give it without him asking, he'll take it as you being intrusive.
Men are problem solvers. We like to think things through, and women tend to feel them through. Neither is better than the other...just different. If you push too hard, it will make him feel like he can't solve the problem himself.
2006-08-26 17:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys think it is a sign of weakness to need or ask for help.Maybe he is a real private person.Give it some more time and don't take it personally.
2006-08-26 19:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, guys like to be solitary problem-solvers. Give him space and he'll deal with it on his own. Be there for him by being helpful but out of his way. If he needs your help, he'll ask for it.
2006-08-26 17:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by philmuckitt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my guess would be that they don't have open senses like we do. atleast not all of them. and when something emotional or traumatic happends they'd rather be a "man" and deal with it their selves than ask a woman that they love for help . . . !
2006-08-26 17:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by bunny b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cuz they are so ingrained with the MACHO thing, they think they are weak if they speak of their problems with females!
2006-08-26 17:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wish i knew,mines goin thru what i can only term a midlife crisis,
2006-08-26 17:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by galaxygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have no clue. mine is really mad at me and stuff for no reason, and when i try to b nice, he calls me a *****! i dk y and it makes me sad!!! we need some guys for this!!!!
2006-08-26 17:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by XXpatdXfreakXX 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋