Don't bring up STDs, everyone is already aware.
She said that she has gotten out of bed at like 1am before
and went to a dance club alone for the sole purpose of picking
someone up for sex. She also said that she usually tried to
get with black guys because they were more of what she was
looking for.
When she told me this information, I began to see her differently.
I guess I feel less trustful now. Like she could do it again.
Have you ever went to a place by yourself near closing time
only to get sex?
2006-08-26 17:23:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your setting yourself up.....i had one like that-they only change for a short time-its like an addiction on their [part
2006-08-26 17:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by tommy_8473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that ignorance is bliss. That is very true to an extremely high degree in relationships.
I have learned that behavior is learned.
I do not know that behavior can be unlearned.
If you know about her past behavior you should know that there is always the possibility of her returning to past behavior.
If you are willing to take the chance that she is willing and trying her best to not go back into past behavior, you just might have a 50+ year romance ahead of you.
Don't quit on her right away if during the process of trying to be a 'better' person, she stumbles along the way and falls into past behavior.
Try having some kind of commitment ceremony between yourselves and close friends/family members.
Yes worry but don't quit.
Nobody's perfect.
Bottom line:
How much do you care?
2006-08-27 00:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it truly bothers you and you feel you cannot go on wondering what she does every minute of the day then tell her that, and if she likes you or loves you (if it has gotten that far) she'll do everything in her power to make you trust her. On the other hand you should be grateful she didn't lie about it and didn't let you find out about it on your own. Imagine running into one of the people she did it with and you had no idea but later you found out. She's honest out front and you must respect her for that. Give her chance and if she messes up, then you know it's in her to do it because she's already let you know it was a habit once before. Also try to please her sexually as much as you can. Do anything you're down for with her, until you've wore her down physically. :-) Good luck.
2006-08-27 00:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by nmgaines 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried about past behaviour. I had a bf who had been pretty sexual in the past, as in dated slutty girls, slept around, etc. He said it was refreshing to date a girl who had goals, was intelligent, beautiful, not a sl ut or a gold digger basically. Then he dumped me for an 18 year old sl ut who worked at mcdonald's...lol
So yeah, I'd be worried if I were you.
People dont change.
2006-08-27 00:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I have never done that. But do you and her a favor...leave her. How can you be with her and judge her past? No matter how immoral you may find her actions. If you are insecure about how she was before she met you it will always be in the back of your head. She obviously has trusted you with this information.
2006-08-27 00:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by meona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, the idea never occured to me as a male, not no I have never done it but of course the thought goes through my mind every weekend, I sit there and think to myself there is a bunch of easy pickins down at the bar right now, but I have never actually acted upon it so I don't know what to tell you, I probably wouldn't trust a girl like that either
2006-08-27 00:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm an attractive woman and I could land a sex-partner in the first 15 minutes in a bar. Most women could. Why wait for all of the picked-over guys! No double standard here...she's telling you the truth; but I'd be a little nervous.
2006-08-27 00:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
dude,
your better off with someone else.
leopards dont change their stripes. and people barely ever change their ways. u are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
do yourself a favor and find someone better.
she's too into a lifestyle that can't be changed.
what do u thinks gonna happen in the future?
2006-08-27 00:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no to the last question. Your gf doesn't appreciate you and I say doesn't care about you. Why would she get up and go get some with some stranger, while having her man right next to her. It's insane. If she truly loves you, she would not show this type of behaviour. My advice: dump her! get someone who really deserves you!
2006-08-27 00:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by Natasha B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i think she needs to rethink what she is doing. FIRST of all some one may kill her. Then she may get all kinds of diseases. Then she may leave you some day soon. I THINK this cheater is a big cheat and will cheat on you again. WHAT do you want AIDS next ? wake up Mr.
2006-08-27 00:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people do really change...some girls tellstories just to get a man's attention....some people who live fast whenthey were younger usually have a more stable longterm relationships later in life...but then again only some...only you would know if she matured enough or not
2006-08-27 00:28:21 · answer #11 · answered by AslanMusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋