I have to tell my girlfriend I cheated on her.....with a guy.How can I do it without her dumping me?
2006-08-26 17:10:45 · 39 answers · asked by ... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would luv to be a fly on the wall when u tell her lol...
hit the motherload with this question didn't you
2006-08-27 08:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly I hope you were safe. First tell her how you feel about her and the relationship you have together because if you tell her you cheated first she might not be composed enough to listen to you and you will never have the chance to tell her. Then break it to her gently somewhere private and where you won't be interrupted. It should be a place that is peaceful and serene, a place the both of you can feel at ease and talk honestly and openly. Let her vent a little to get over some of shock she'll go though if she never even suspected. Don't take what she says venting too personally she might just say things she does not mean and will feel guilty about later. It still is best to let her get it out of her system though because once she regains composure she'll be able to think clearly. Also try to be sure about what you want so can give her a clear answer as to who you want in your future.
2006-08-26 17:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on the maury show or tell her...lead her into a trap like for an example make sure shes doing something so shes distracted. then say not randomly but get into the subject. just be like o would you ever cheat on me then wait 4 her response then say well if you ever do i'll take you back... would you take me back if i was really sorry just go on till you get how she will react to it with out really telling her secondly if the guy does it better than she does then dump her and go for the guy obviously you are a bisexual since you still like her and cheated on her for a guy which is pretty sick but thats not the point. the question is how did you do it were you drunk cause if you were than you got a 50% chance of staying with her other than that your hopeless she'll probably feel like you did it cause she wasnt having sex right well GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-26 17:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Don't. What is to be gained by that? If there's no way she'll find out and you don't plan to do it again, then just get on with your relationship. There is nothing to be gained by telling her you cheated unless you are hoping she will break up with you.
On the other hand, being that you cheated with a guy... you may want to seriously think about where you are going with this relationship and whether or not you even want to be with a woman. If not, I'd break the relationship off, but leave out the cheating part.
2006-08-26 17:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewww, now try not to take this to personally but that is so nasty, you must understand I think cheating on the person that you are with is already bad enough and hurtfuul enough if and when you decide that you absolutely have to tell them, and the odds are already pretty good that if you tell them this, that they are going to break up with you, at least from my experience anyways, anyways I have a feeling it would be so much worse for a female to hear her boyfriend say that oh I cheated on you, and it was with a guy by the way. I think it would really crush this girl, so why even tell her about this? why not just say to yourself that you will make a promise to never do this again to her?
2006-08-26 17:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. I think it depends if you love her or not and if you still want to be with her OR if you prefer to be happy with guys rather than with a girl.
If you still want her and dont want to be with more guys I'd tell her and see what happens.
If you have a taste for men in general tell her that, leave the fact that you CHEATED on her with a guy as a secret, so that she will have some dignity left after the breakup.
2006-08-26 17:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by girl_with_horns79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say that cheating is bad all together. But you are hiding a way harsher secret. You should tell her, expecting to have her break up with you. If she doesn't then it's just a bonus. Sounds like you need some time to yourself to sort through a few things.
2006-08-26 17:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone that you cheated is selfish...think about it...it lets you off of the hook guilt wise and it just makes her miserable...I know I am not going to make friends by saying this...but think about it...if she doesnt know then it wont hurt her...it is something that you should have to live with...
Do you really want to stay with her though if you slept with a guy?? Maybe everyone would be happier if you broke up with her and were more true to yourself
2006-08-26 17:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun I believe you have bigger problems than telling her. And Ill deny ever suggesting this but maybe this one you should keep to yourself. Im not a big fan of keeping it a secret but in this case yeah I would. Unless you are ready to come out of the closet that is. Good Luck
2006-08-26 17:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woooo...now you're in deep sh*t, Dude. I'd dump you, that's for sure. It's bad enough if your cheating with a girl, but a guy? Come on. If you're gay, go for the guy and tell her you're coming out of the closet. You're going to lose her when she finds out. And she's going to be hurt if you wait too long.
2006-08-26 17:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you safe? Was it a fling or will you see him again?
If not, you need to tell her before you "get together" again, for health and safety sake.
There is no way to know how she will take it. Heck, in a best case scene, she might want to watch, and or take part. In the worst case, she will feel betrayed and will break it off...your relationship, that is...
You need to come clean to move forward. Good luck!
2006-08-26 17:16:56 · answer #11 · answered by Khalen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋