My son is going into 2nd grade. The past weeks I try to get him to write his ABC's and #'s 1-10. But he cryes and refused to do it. . I try to bribe him or play school. He's been at my sisters for a week & same thing, he cryes.He is a very smart & happy kid but very active. Kindergartden & 1st grade teachers wanted him on ADHD meds so we tried Ritalin, Adderall, Straterra& Concerta. None worked & made him hyper & mean and this past June he ended up in the hospital for rapid heart beat (was on Straterra) so he is not on ADHD meds. except for Clonidine @ bedtime to help him sleep. He can write them I've seen him. I can't imagine this being a game he is playing. Why is he acting this way? He is not in therapy at this time. I am dredding homework when he starts school.
2006-08-26 17:03:36 · 16 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If the medical profession feels that your second grader needs to be medicated, the ADHD must be interfering with his learning and self esteem. You need to continue to go to doctors until they find the right medication for your child so that he can be successful in school and life.
When a child becomes frustrated during homework times it means three things:
he doesn't want to do it and needs to learn good study habits from his parent
he is extrememly frustrated because he does not understand the concept and feels bad
he can't focus and needs adult help to learn how to do that
Don't force a child to do it when he becomes that upset. Take a break and go back to it later. And do it all with him. Make it a game. Use your imagination and have fun. Actually, just writing the letters and numbers isn't enough. They need to understand the sound syymbol relationship and number sense.
If you still want him to practice then have him write his letters in shaving cream, jello, kool-aid, with playdough-using a pencil to write the letters in the playdough, etc.
2006-08-26 23:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first thing first. If he went hyper on the meds then he probably doesn't have ADHD. The medication in ADHD kids calms them. In children without ADHD it sends them hyper. Get a proper diagnosis from a paediatrician who specialises in ADHD. This is not a thing that can be diagnosed in a few minutes. It needs testing by psychologists and paediatrician and can take weeks. I'm guessing you are American. They seem to diagnose anyone slightly excited with it. A teacher can not diagnose ADHD and shouldn't be able to tell you to put him on meds. Recommend him seeing a paediatrician sure.
Take him off the drugs for sleeping as well. At 7 try other things to help him sleep. Massage aromatherapy. Get him out running and playing. Stop all junk food and feed only healthy foods. It may be these drugs doing it to him or it may simply be he feels too much pressure or doesn't understand the work. Wait till school starts before giving homework. Why would you be in the holidays. It is a teachers job to give homework not the mums. If there is problems then talk to the teacher
2006-08-26 23:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend's son acted this way when he started school... also has ADHD. A lot has to do with the tension of homework... he's been "forced" (in his opinion) to do work all day at school, then he has to do more when he gets home. This can cause a lot of tension because children with ADHD suffer from a lot of self-esteem issues. They tend to have a more difficult time focusing on learning rote things (like writing and counting) since it is not interesting to them. (I;m sure if he's involved in a video game or something that he really likes you see a massive amount of concentration). Sometimes, it just takes putting the homework into something he is interested in. The self-esteem part of it is based on his belief that since he has a hard time concentrating on something long enough to learn it, that he is dumb. Not true... most people with ADHD/ADD are extremely intelligent (my husband is ADHD)... they just lack the capacity to concentrate on one thing for a great period of time. Try breaking up his work into chunks. Set the timer and have him work for 10 minutes on homework, then take a snack break. Work for another 10 minutes, take a potty break. Work for another 10, then get up and dance silly for a few to get out the wiggles. Taking time in between gives him something to look forward to, as well as giving him that needed "energy burning" time. Try your best to make homework time fun, and not stressful. And know, that no matter what, your child will give you more problems than they will give anyone else when they don't want to do something. Another idea is to have another child come over and do homework with them. Try to keep your routine as consistent as possible... these kids thrive on consistency. Good luck!
2006-08-27 11:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. That stupid medication is so bad for children. Did you know that it can also cause them to be drug addicts later? If he's active ,that doesn't mean that he has ADHD, it just means that he's active. Put him in a sport that he loves to keep him active. Don't have him sit down to do his homework for very long. Maybe he can take breaks, like do it for ten minutes and then take a break. Set up a timer for him and tell him that when the timer goes off, that it's time for a break. Have you seen him in school, could you observe him there? It is not the teachers job to tell you that your son needs medication, that is up to you and your doctor. I would seriously question those teachers, maybe they aren't doing there jobs right, maybe they aren't trying hard enough with him. Look for a really good therapist that has plenty of experience with this. He could be having a bad experience in school with his work, maybe the teacher is real mean, find out. Good Luck!
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2016-09-30 22:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously he may have an unnoticed learning disability. There could have been a time when he did something in class that got him very embarrassed and that has had a negative affect on his self esteem.
2006-08-26 17:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by diaryofamadblackman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids haven't started school yet.....I think maybe hes having trouble paying attn....Or maybe he is having problems with the work and doesn't know how to tell someone without feeling embarrassed.......other than crying and trying to get out of doing it......
2006-08-26 17:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I try to bribe him or play school."
When positive reinforcement doesn't work, switch to negative. Tell him he can't do such-and-such if he doesn't do his homework first. (TV, computer, etc.) Sit with him until he does it and tell him that crying won't make the homework go away. Be firm and stick to your guns.
2006-08-26 17:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by second grade he should already know how to do all of that. Maybe he's bored out of his mind with the repetition of it?
2006-08-26 17:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋