I am in love with my best friend, and I think she knows it, but she is dating another guy (we are 15 the guy is about 17). I am friends with him too and he is a great guy so it isnt like I can tell her he is a jerk, hes a great guy, but when I see them together, I feel sick and jelous, because I want it to be me cuddling her. What should I do? Have you ever been in the same circumstances? And please dont just say, tell her. If that is your answer then tell me how I can do that without making everything weird between us, I really love this girl and I know if she doesnt like me like that I must accept it, but what should I do???
2006-08-26 16:33:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should do nothing. You should be kind and gentle to her and be nice and respectful toward her, and yes even her boyfriend.
If you do decide to tell her it may, as you state, cause a strain between you -- so this is your decision. This is a tough one to answer and I'm not sure my answer is right, wrong or indifferent.
My suggestion is to not stop living and go about your life. If the two of you were meant to be together it will happen - just maybe not in the timing you suspect.
I'm sorry I can't say what the answer is, as with all relationships there a fine line and not a one-size fits all for situations.
Best of Luck to you.
2006-08-26 16:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, pretty much EVERYONE's been in that situation, seeing someone with someone and wishing it were them.
Your friend is already dating someone, and it's not your place to come between them. It doesn't reflect well on you if you try to break her up with her boyfriend--especially when he's your friend, too. It will probably only make her less likely to be interested in you in the future, if she ever was. You say you think she knows you're interested, but she's still dating this other guy, so that's a pretty good indication that she just wants to be friends with you.
If things don't work out with her and this other guy, take the direct route and just ask her out. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut.
2006-08-26 23:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, don't just tell her.
If you're really a friend to them, you won't try and break them up for your own gain. If they split up, *without your help, by the way*, then by all means discuss it with her then, and make sure she knows that it won't affect your friendship either way.
Don't go possibly busting up relationships and friendships for feelings that may not even be returned. She chose him first for her own reasons. Respect that, and anjoy having her as a best friend. If the situation changes, then fine, but don't ask her to leave him for you, which is what you'd be doing if you told her now, because you may end up losing both of them as friends over it..
2006-08-26 23:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See I would not say "tell her" in this case, you have no right to tell her. This is about you and your own feelings, telling her runs the risk of you hurting people. In this case I say love from afar, be a good supportive friend and keep your thoughts to yourself.
Either you will get over her, or she and her current will break up and you can tell her then.
If you really care about her, and she is happy....just let her be
2006-08-26 23:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try hanging out with her more i am the same way or was i just hung out more and the guy got jelouse broke up with her and she came crying to one person...me dont try to break them up though if yall r friends he may not care just get the message out one day you will be togather they wont last forever good luck man
2006-08-26 23:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by d6g007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so YOUNG! But anyway, be her friend until she isn't dating this guy anymore. Then sit her down and tell you how you feel. It is better for things to be in the open. Really.
2006-08-26 23:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. Ask yourself this: Is it worth it. Once you two break up itl nenver be the same as it is now. is it worth loosing your best friend over a date?
2006-08-26 23:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tigris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just act like nothings bothering you and make sure she knows that you like her cause it makes a girl feel good when she knows that more than one person likes her and the hope that when the finally break up you two get together.
2006-08-26 23:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by ledogargirl93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy get over it. she is w/ d guy now an if u guys r 15 she will break up w/ him an den u can make ur move.
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2006-08-26 23:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to sit around and wonder what could have happened, so you have to try and tell her.
2006-08-26 23:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by poppyzbrite001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋