Ok this girl went on a date with me, we kissed, and we talk to each other alot. When we got back to school it seems like she's avoiding me. I asked her straight up if she wanted to be with me and she said "I just want to be friends right now" WE"VE BEEN FRIENDS FOR 3 YEARS!!! I want to be with her more than anything. But i don't know if she really feels the same way or if she just wants me to work harder for my reward. (that's the type of girl she is)
2006-08-26 16:30:55 · 28 answers · asked by cherrylick_124 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Play hard to get.....when she realizes what she has lost...maybe she will come to her sences.....if she finds she feels that way about you....or maybe she truely just wants to be your friend.....
2006-08-26 16:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by A Christians Honest Question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date other girls and take your mind off of her. If she put you in the friend zone, it's hard to change her mind about how she feels about you. If you act totally disinterested she'll fight for your attention. When she does, don't fall back into it right away. Wait til she comes to you and professes that she wants to date. If she doesn't, you'll already be going on with your life and start to feel better about it. Maybe the timing is off or she just sees you as a brother. That will suck, but don't torture yourself. You will feel as strongly about someone else again, I promise! Also rent "Just Friends" the movie. It's an great movie about this subject! Good luck, happy hunting:)
2006-08-26 23:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by ELA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends with her, actually date someone else and see if she comes up again with that "being friends" mess. You'd know for sure if she becomes jealous. lol. But no seriously respect her wishes because sometimes people move too fast because no matter how long you've been friends it doesn't make the transition into dating any easier because being romantic partners is different than being a friend in any case.
2006-08-26 23:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sense rushing her or trying to trap her.
You cannot force a relationship. If her family does not want her on too many dates yet - then she needs to take it slow. Being a good friend is the best thing for a strong relationship. Be her friend. This is good. Be lucky to have her... no pressure.
If there is someone else you want to go out with, I would think about it. Not to hurt her, but to determine a standard for what you like.
2006-08-26 23:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off for a bit. If she wants to be with you, let her make the next move. Otherwise, take her words for face value, she probably just wants to be friends.
2006-08-26 23:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend and don't push it, it is nice to have friends of the opposite sex to really talk to. If later on she seems to be interested in taking it further, decide how you feel at that time about taking it further.
2006-08-26 23:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Behhar B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she realized the kissing and petting didn't agree with her and she had second thoughts. Whatever the seconds thoughts are, and it could be personal to her, she decided that she doesn't want to go that direction. You can be friends with her if you honor her desire and don't try to change her. If you try to change her to what you want, I suspect she won't even want to be friends anymore.
2006-08-26 23:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds shady, maybe ashamed? if all of a sudden now that u started school she just wants to be friends, i think u should move on to finding someone who can appreciate u, but u guys can still be 'friends'. shes soundin like a b*tch
2006-08-26 23:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by motoson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's just not ready. i mean, it's hard for a person to know a friend for 3 years, and then suddenly move to a next level. maybe she's just more comfortable wit being friends.
2006-08-26 23:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LiL MiZ THANG ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you that she just wants to be friends. Respect that!
There are a lot of other girls out there.
2006-08-26 23:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋