my mom constantly is asking me to fix her something to eat , to iron her work clothes and wipe off her shoes, she has gone maddddd, i can't take it anymore, i'm not her slave and i just cry sometimes beacuse it upsets me and they have restricted my bedtime to 9:00 and i'm in high school, what is this. i can't even close my bedroom door unless i'm about to get undressed . , i'm on the verge of packing my bags and moving to a shelter, what should i do?
2006-08-26 16:11:51 · 25 answers · asked by MisscOOlio 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her nicely and work things out and i'm sorry i feel for you
2006-08-26 16:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all - no shelter - trust me it is hard on the streets. Why do you have to IRON and FEED HER? you are the child here. Is she going thru something or has she always been like this? Since school is starting, there should be a school counselor available for you - talk to them or can you talk to your mom and let her know how you feel? Talk to SOMEONE other than the internet, this should be the best times of your life not the worst. hang in there. How old are you? If your only salvation is this internet well at least you are getting it off your chest, that is better than keeping it bottled in and you do sometimes get real good advice on this board!
2006-08-26 16:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by justme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you are so totally right!! oh my god !! who's the mother in this family..you need to tell her mom's are the ones that clean our clothes, help you with homework, make are dinner, lunch, breakfast, and are there to take of you!! That's what being a mother is..those are the sacrifices you make when you decide to become a parent. You turn over the reigns and know that your needs, wants, cares, and priorities all changes the second you become a parent. You are not her slave and should not have to put up with that. And you should be aloud a certain bit of privacy what do they think your doing in your room! I think you need to sit down with someone outside your family and let them know what's going on and get a person in your corner and then sit down with your "parents" and tell them that they need to act like your parents and you should get to be the child for a change.
2006-08-26 16:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by pmemommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. fix her something to eat
2. to iron her work clothes
3. wipe off her shoes
Well my mum never ask me to do such a thing :P
I think 1 and 2 probably good for you in the future
(however, your mum may over done it though)
"can't even close my bedroom door unless I'm about to get undressed"
That's silly, you need your "private space and time"....
anyway, as what others say, you probably best to discuss with your mum, or get advance from your teacher.
P.S. My English is quite bad, forgive me
2006-08-26 16:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Himmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't run away. I don't know why some parents are like this, but if you have tried talking and that doesn't work try writing your feelings in a letter , maybe they will take it more serious. If you have a close relative or family friend to help you explain to them what your feeling and how miserable you are that might help too. I hope everything works out for you. I'm a parent to 2 boys 18 and 12 and it would break my heart if I were making them feel that way. Good Luck!!
2006-08-26 16:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by blonde mom70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does seem a bit extreme. The fact that you iron her clothes, wipe her shoes, and can't close your door unless you're undressing? I can't say for sure, but maybe you should talk to someone at school about how you feel you're being treated. It's almost like they're using you for they're personal housekeeper rather than treating you like their teenage daughter! You should be entitled to some privacy, and some freedom to be a teenager!
Good luck.
2006-08-26 16:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that's horrible. Have you tried sitting and calmly (calmly) talking with them about how you feel? It won't be long before your old enough to move out but in the mean time, tell them how you feel. Do you have a friend you can stay with? If not then don't leave. Where you are is better than living in the streets. Communication IS the key.
2006-08-26 16:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom loves you too much and that's why she gives you work to keep you occupied. In her opinion you will be busy + away from wrong things. When you will come to that age you will realise it. If you feel that the works are too much, just speak to her in a cool way. She will understand it because she is YOUR mum. Do not resent because self pity will only aggravate things. Learn to solve things.
2006-08-26 17:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
express your honest feelings to your mother in person on a calm level. if u cant do it face to face write your feelings on paper and re read them a few times before u give it to her preferably in am when the day is just beginning and everything is fresh. and then call a meeting and u and her talk and make suggestions on how it can be made better. u must both compromise in order to make it work. it can not be onesided
2006-08-26 16:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by petloverlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up in her face and tell her flat out (although respectfully) that you are a young adult now and will expect to be treated with the same respect you show her. If this doesn't work... hang on and maybe get another adult to talk to your mom.
I really understand your situation, because I've got one a lot like yours. Hope you make it.
2006-08-26 16:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by kaedajnor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on urgrade as soon as ur a sophmore this starts happening my mom is the same way but if u have an older brother use him i mean he has gone thru it but if u dont tell ur mom that she is getting lazy and she needs toget off her *** andalso with her not trusting u show her some ofur best nice friends that are respectfull
2006-08-26 16:19:10 · answer #11 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋