We dated for over a year and last month this woman comes to my door and says " I have been with him for 2 years". I was totally hurt by this, thing is, I still kinda like him. Is there something wrong with me?
2006-08-26 16:07:58 · 35 answers · asked by jamie g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely put him out. He has betrayed your trust and lied to you. Not to mention that by continuing to date this other woman while starting up with you he has made you into something a person doesn't want to be -the other woman. He has insulted you by doing this.
There's nothing wrong with still liking him after all if it were easy for you to not like him , you wouldn't have been with him this long in the first place.
2006-08-26 16:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tamara b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you but chances are you like the fact he is a fireman more than anything else since you made a clear point of mentioning this! and if you want to be the girl knocking on his mistresses door in a few months go ahead and continue the relationship!
2006-08-26 16:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by raquel g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you ask him about this other woman. Is she telling you the truth? Why did she feel the need to go to your door? Jealous ex or is she for real. Talk to your fireman first. If he is the sweet person you have judged him to be, he will tell you the truth. An no, asking him, is not the same as mistrusting him. Don't fall into that trap.
2006-08-26 16:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by ThatBrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have been used and abused. Now you must decide if you want to continue to be used and abused. You may need to take a personal inventory of your self worth and decide if being treated with total disrespect is something you can continue to live with. My opinion is the guy really does not care for you because if he did he would have not continued the lie. He may tell you he is sorry and you can forgive him. My last question for you is, Is the Man you have been with over time, truly sorry he hurt you or sorry he got caught? Unfortunately only he knows the true answer. So, you have to decide if you can Trust him w/ his answer. I vote NO! No women deserve this type of abuse!
2006-08-26 16:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by K7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you had a relationship for a year, it's not wrong to still have feelings. The opposite is true. Put HIM out. A man who can't keep his hose to himself when you believe you are the only fire in town, is one you can't trust.
2006-08-26 16:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's natural,you learned to love this guy.
He's rotten for stringing two or more girls along for so long.
But you really like him.
Fact is you have to hold your ground,this is your integrity we are talking about.
It is a question of ethics.If this is something "you" would never
do to him,then it's time for him to take the train!
If this is something you would do to him,then you both have the same integrity and ethics (lack there of)
If this is the case you are on your own.
2006-08-26 16:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there's nothing wrong with you for liking him, there IS something wrong if you continue to see him. End it now, or in two years, you'll be the one knocking on someone else's door...
(I love the creative way you worded the question!)
2006-08-26 16:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you for still liking him. You like him for what you thought he COULD be, and still aren't allowing yourself to except the fact that he is a lying cheat. Just don't accept him back into your life, its okay to have these feelings, just don't act on them. Eventually you'll realize that what he did was completely unacceptable, and you'll move on. All feelings of fondness will eventually go away.
2006-08-26 16:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES. No there is nothing wrong with you its natural to still like someone you have been dating for a year. Just be glad it hasn't been longer or that your married to him. I feel more for the other girl!
Get over it!!
God bless
2006-08-26 16:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by suezekickboxer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that there is anything wrong with you, you've been with this guy for a year, its natural to have some attachment to him or his hose. Its up to you, if you want him, keep him, if not let it go..............in the end you are the one who is going to have to live with the consequences of the decisions you make.
2006-08-26 16:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by Monie D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋