Should a teenage girl be allowed to sit on her boyfriend's lap at school?

Question

Last Thursday at lunch at school, I was sitting on my boyfriend's lap. It's not a big deal. I am 15 and do it all the time.

However, the Principal came over and told me to get off of his lap and sit properly. I told him he was overreacting and he was like well maybe he should call my dad to see if he agrees and said he would if he ever sees me doing it again.

I think my dad would be "p***** off" and I am already in trouble for something else. What is the big deal about sitting on a boy's lap?

Answer 1

Well- being a mom to a teen girl myself I would have to say that it isnt respecting yourself. Trust me- the feelings you have for your bf now most likely wont continue after you get out of school- and may end sooner than that...

As a mom I also think that if you are outside of your home you should do just as you do in your home- in other words, if it isnt ok at home to do- it isnt ok to do it elsewhere...

Would your dad be ok with you being on top of your BF? Probably not... so think of that next time. If you are truly in need of TOUCHING you bf, why dont you just wait until after school or when it is actually allowed?

Answer 2

It's considered inappropriate physical contact in most public schools. If the principal said it, it's backed up by the school system rules. Whether you think it's a good rule or not, it's a rule with consequences (which is what the principal was trying to tell you). If you don't think the rule has any merit, challenge the system!! But do it in a smart way. Get a petition going, ask the school paper to do an article or take a poll. And in the meantime, keep on sitting on your boyfriends lap...just not in school.

Answer 3

Well, lets see. What could possibly be wrong with sitting on a boy's lap at school? What might happen if the principal and teachers don't watch the students at all times? School is not the place to perform sex acts, and that is where sitting on his lap would normally lead. The other kids don't want to see the two of you making out. It isn't like the movies where making love is beautiful. It looks cheap and sleazy. That is the impression you give everyone who sees you - that you are easy. You are probably really popular with the boys, aren't' you? I wonder why?

Answer 4

There is a time and place for everything You need to hold yourself in the highest regard so that other show you respect. when in public you may hold your boyfriends hand and I think a peck on the check says volumes of how you feel about him You must present yourself as a well educated respectful young lady and you'll be surprised the respect people give you in return first thing Mon am you go to the office and apologize to your Principal and let him know it will never happen again . Remember their is a time and place for everything do you think your Mom would go to meet your Dad for lunch in a restaurant and sit on his lap? Now how do you think that would look?

Answer 5

School is for learning and it is highly structured for that purpose. After school is a fine time to sit on your boyfriend's lap but never during school hours. I know you were probably just showing affection for your boyfriend and I don't knock you for that....but we all have to follow rules in this world..I am 37 years old and I would not allow my Lady to sit on my lap when I am on the job...firstly because I never get to sit down long wnough and secondly because it is unprofessional to concentrate on anything aside from work when I am on the clock. True that if I got a lunch break I would be off the clock and then that's my time..but at school you are still on the school's time. I know this wasn't the answer you hoped for and I do sympathize with you but I don't just answer questions for points. I make my point when I answer a question. Just follow the rules at school and find another way to show affection to a very lucky young man.

Answer 6

There's proper times and places for that. The principal and your dad are only looking out for you. What you were doing could have been called a sexual move on your part towards your bf. Hopefully it was just some innocent flirting and not the prior one. I see nothing wrong with it if it's like a romantic jesture but I'd not do it in front of everyone at school especially principal nark. LOL.

Answer 7

Your principal is retarded, that's all. I always made a point of not being on first name terms with principals, guidance councellors and vice principals because then when they say they'll call my parents next time, I can just ignore the threat.

There is nothing wrong with what you are doing, but your principal has the power to make a mess of things. I guess you have to just make sure not to get caught next time. Or get ready for a fight with your dad. Either way, don't let other people tell you what is ok and isn't ok to do. Chances are they did the same and worse when they were your age. And if they didn't, then that would explain a lot.

Best of luck with that :)

Answer 8

Would you sit on his lap in church? In a nice restaurant? No. It is the same with school, it is just inappropriate and not respectful. I guess it is the fact that 2 minors are having a bit too much physical contact, and you said yourself your dad would probabaly be upset. He would be even more upset if he saw you doing it and you said "we can do it at school" The principal is covering his @$$ and these days, rightly so. Sorry sweetie, save it for private time.

Answer 9

Your principal was correct to instruct you to get off your bf's lap.
That isn't appropriate behavior to do in school. A school is a place to learn and play sports. Its not a place to sit on a boy's lap or to full around......
You need to follow rules. When you are off on your own in the street away from private property, you can do whatever your little fanny desires....

Answer 10

For sluts, there's no big deal. I gather you want to be known as a young lady,and young ladies don't do that. If you think your Dad would be O.K. with you sitting on your boyfriends lap, why not try it in front of him(your DAD). Also,show a little respect for the Principal, If not the person to the title.