I have dated a guy from internet dating site for a couple of months. He asked to be exclusive (espicially about sex). We agreed to inactivate our profile from the site ( you can still use the site but noone can check you out). I found him active again after we had argument one day. when I asked he said website mistake. However, it had been about 5 days and he hasn't deactivate it yet. So I activate mine ( I was confused and upset) - I know that it is wrong to keep checking on him. And I think he see me on who checking his profile - he checked mine also. but I don't seeing anyone else since we are still not break up. What should I do? should I confront him? is it possible that he just check around without persuing.? They said some guys just feel flatter just to see women checking on them? you guys probably say that no trust between us -but this is one hurdle for me to go over ..please help!!
2006-08-26 15:48:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once there is some thing you don't like don't make excuses were your feelings are at stake. You two agree to do some thing and he is active again. This to me is a Red flag unfolding and you are better off moving on.
What if you two were intimate and you got to know that he is sleeping around. In that case see about your self and let him know how displease you are about him, such a person can't be trusted and you need to think hard as to were you want to go from there.
The final decision is yours to make and remember your feelings when you are making your decision. There is a saying that your Joy is your own your bitterness is your own. Nobody can take this from you.
2006-08-26 16:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Premio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only real answer is cheating is cheating period! Online realationships are tough enough without having to worry about all that too. My advice would be to think about how well you really do know the guy and if in fact you know enough to be able to trust him. Don't get me wrong even if the answers are no you do now know him well or no you can not trust him that does not mean you should lose faith all together with dating online. My best friend just married a guy she met in one of those services last year and they are very happy together, so it can work. But just like a face to face realationship it takes time and understanding from both sides. And above all else do what ever is the best and healthyiest for you.
2006-08-26 15:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Internet dating is very impersonal.
If you are really dating for real why do you need this site at all?
I think both of you are playing games so that true commitment is not really there. How can someone really date via a note or writting? There is no way to express real emotion in writing - no facial expressions - no body language.
If he is still looking for attention he is shopping for better than you. This is not a good thing. He will choose you if no better come along. Great standard. Leave this - bye bye....
2006-08-26 15:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably thinks he can find someone better than you...without getting rid of you ....JUST YET!! ....but that is just what I would think!! After I found out my bf cheated on me, later I found his profile in one of those dating websites, he said he just wanted to see what people write in their profiles...LOL, and he thought I was stupid enough to believe him....(oh, wait ...I was stupid..I believed him!!)
Confront him, ask him why he activated his profile again? if you don't ask him you will never trust him. Good luck! and be careful, men can be very clever and sneaky!! (but we are too)
2006-08-26 15:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One you seem to be lacking trust in your relationship. Two why check if you are not going to pursue seems like a waste of time to me.
2006-08-26 15:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by dsmiling62 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get off the dating thing and begin to study. Your English writing skills are atrocious. Your question is almost unreadable.
2006-08-26 15:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a big headache to me. Why bother.
2006-08-26 15:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was probably just seeing who was checking him out
2006-08-26 15:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes looking for new conquests,,he got you now looking for next one..otherwise why is he looking at all?
2006-08-26 15:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Star R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me he isn't serious. cut the ties now.
2006-08-26 15:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by buttons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋