do u think that it messes with ur head when ur abandoned and abused as a child??

Question

bc i was dropped off at my grandparent when i was five and was beat from the time i was born til i was like 5 or 6 and i have moved more times than i can count and i really dont have have friends anymore bc of moving and i get depressed often and mad and just sometimes like i am missing something but dont know what it is but i hope that someone can help me in some way.......

Answer 1

Yes, of course that can have a lot of negative effects from a mental standpoint. I would really suggest you see someone to help you deal with those unresolved issues. I can relate to the moving around part, so I understand that, and I know that can lead to depression. I feel like when you meet people and make friends there's a "cycle of friendship", just a natural progression of friendship. When you move around a lot, you lack stability which is key to social development, and can encounter a lot of problems that stem from that. Seek help, and try to get involved with an a group activity like a salsa class, or something where you can interact with your peers and start building lasting relationships.

Answer 2

awww.. I'm sorry you've had to go through all that. You sure have missed something... a secure and nurturing environment to grow up in and develop yourself. There is a phrase to describe this.. it is Childhood Abuse Survivor. Sometimes we get Post Traumatic Stress Disorder if we have been beaten and stuff. There is treatment for that. You didn't say how old you are now, whether you are over or under 18. I understand about moving a lot too, and not being able to make a lot of good freinds and keep them because of moving. I also understand being depressed and mad. I have found that 12 Step groups are very helpful in supporting people who are recovering from the effects of dysfunctinal parenting and the struggles of trying to learn to be a constructive and productive and socially healthy adult after coming from such an environment.

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Answer 3

Yes, feelings of abandonement do take place because you were not exposed to development of relationships and if those that you thought were supposed to love you did not yes this will affect your behavior. Sorry for what others did to you; you are not to blame for what they did to you so never feel that it was your fault. Your life has presented you with some many problems but you can stay "there" with the pain and remember the pain you had to experiance if you want that for the rest of your life. Now what you have to do is keep yourself clear of bad behaviors---drug use, etc. and start living a life that you can feel proud of. There was once a man that lost his entire family and he cried everyday but in time he knew he could not just cry his life away and so he went to school and to college---he soon became a very smart man---his name is Alfred Adler; try doing some research on him---his story will help you deal with the issues you are going through.
Being alone is never good and friends do help you deal with the pain so be honest and try to keep real friends---people that give you drugs or push you in the wrong road are not your friends not matter how much you need friends. I hope you the best in life; it is never too late to make the correct choice. If you need to talk to someone to talk with email me. I cannot help you as a counselor or therapist because it is unethical for me to do so but as a friend or just as a pen pal I can.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you had to go through that. You should try to get some kind of counseling whether it be a school councilor or do a search for a hot-line you can call to talk about this sort of thing. But you definitely need some one to help you get through all of the feeling you must have so that you can go on to have a good life.
I recommend reading a book called "Bad Childhood Good Life". It was written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger and it is a very good book to help you learn to cope.

Answer 5

It messes with you if you allow it to mess with you. I was abandoned by my mother when I was just a baby and was raised by my grandmother. I am a better person today because of the choice my mother made. Don't let what they did rule your life. Seek some counseling and move on, leave the past in the past. Good Luck.

Answer 6

you CAN'T FORGET ABOUT YOUR PAST BECAUSE IF YOU DO YOU MIGHT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES WITH YOU YOUR KIDS IF YOU HAVE ANY IF NOT YOU WOULD WANT TO REMEMBER YOUR CHILDHOOD THAN YOU WILL BE A GOOD PARENT .do GO AND GET HELP IT WORKS. when I WAS GROWING UP i HAD A BAD CHILDHOOD MY DAD TOUCHED ME SO DID MY UNCLE. THEN MY STEP DAD CAME ALONG AND HE JUMPED bail and we were on the run from the FBI . he would get drunk and beat us me and my sister.We had to stay in bed for three day laying on our belly because our back was bloody do to the belt he used. After that we had to move with my birth dad and got beat by our step mom and missed with by our dad. but know I have three kids and I am getting help with the abuse I had to Indore and I feel better forgive your grandparents for you not them it helps

Answer 7

it really depends on the person, but it sounds like you're admitting that you have some issues currently from being abused and abandoned... you should talk to your school guidance counselor about it if you can't bring it up at home, they can help you get more help than yahoo answers will be able to. good luck! xo

Answer 8

I bet you do feel bad at times. It's a shame that your childhood was like it was but it's time for you to change your life. Forget about the past and look at what you have learned from it. As for missing something, you will one day be blessed......keep the faith.

Answer 9

Any type of abuse has it's effect. and can cause lasting damage. Seek out help ASAP.

Answer 10

Yes any one that was abused and didn't get help it will effect your life