theres this guy I like in grade 11 ( im in grade 9) has a girlfriend. At first when I heard about it I was fine with it, and I thought oh well as long as hes happy, thats fine with me. But latley I have been feeling hate against her, I know shes a nice person, but Im just so confused!!!!!! I have no idea wether I like him or not. Any ideas on what I shoudl do? their all welcome! thanks in advance
2006-08-26 15:30:53 · 20 answers · asked by dogs_golden 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, I dont plan or want to break up tehir relationship becasue thats just cruel, adn then he would just hate me. I ve got a feeling he might like me, sometimes when i look at him, i find him, looking at me first.
2006-08-26 15:37:11 · update #1
Find another
2006-08-26 15:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by prince 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crushes happen, it's part of our biology. My experience has been that a crush is a major warning from the universe that this would NOT be a good relationship for you. A situation that makes you feel hate toward a friend, is another major warning sign. You have created a delusional expectation of what it would be like if he were your boyfriend. Be alone with yourself and try to really understand what is causing the feelings you have. These are opportunities to learn about who were. The greater the struggle, the greater the reward. Tell yourself it is OK that you have had these feelings, and now is a good time to learn how to feel different from this moment on. Begin to wish those two people great joy and happiness every day. Even if you don't believe it is sincere; do it every day and your feelings will change. You are looking at yourself when you have these feelings. It is difficult to be young and sort these feelings out,everyone deals with it at some point. Be easy on yourself. Good luck !!
2006-08-26 22:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by youought2knowme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please before you do anything... put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if someone came along and tried to steal your boyfriend. And something else....Look at the words you used yourself in your Question....A crush is not Love and love is what they the couple have for each other. Find your own love. Or wait to see if after time goes by if you feel the same way. If they break up fine. Go after him. But nine times out of ten. You will end up in hate instead of love. He may not be all you think he is.
2006-08-26 22:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by SHASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices. 1. Make him aware you are interested or 2. leave it alone. If you choose 1 - alert him to your feelings, he may reject you or he may be put in an awkward position- but at least he can make up his mind what to do next. The other girl may not like you stepping up to her boyfriend so expect some potential issue there too. But end of the day two people are needed to have a relationship. If he is interested in you than it will be both your choices.
2006-08-26 22:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that. But you know the answer....you gotta keep walking on. His relationship could be serious or just casual, but you won't know that til later, unless you know someone who knows where they're at with each other. But you have to question why he's looking at you when he's with someone. You, of course don't want to do anything to influence a breakup, and then he ends up drifting to you because you'll then be left wondering if him becoming involved with you is genuine...know what I mean? And only he would have the answer to that...one that would be hard for him to be truthful about, but it would be a test of his honesty, though. If they're casual, then wait and see. If you find out they're serious, then it's best for you (especially inside yourself) to let it go by because you'll know he's attached. You don't want him to be with you unless his heart is in it too!
2006-08-26 22:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by vortexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Just LET GO. Because he is happy with his girlfriend and he obviously isn't interested in you if he's with her.
It's time to get a new crush and in other words, dont destruct a happy home.
2006-08-26 22:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend, move on. You're in the 9th grade, so.. 15 years old? Don't revolve your world around one guy. You're young, date. Set your sites on someone else.
2006-08-26 22:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and wait. Look at other guys, even. If he sees that you're looking for other guys, he'll make up his mind fast whether he wants u or his gf.
If he doesn't, well u already found somebody else!
Good luck!
2006-08-26 22:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's a little bit older. I think you should leave the happy couple alone and find someone in your own grade.
2006-08-27 00:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ne5sA_StilettO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a girlfriend just move on and find u someone without a girlfriend. there is a lot of guys out there he's not the only one. good luck
2006-08-26 22:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be experiencing wanting what you can't have syndrome..
in this case he's only appealing to you because someone else has him...
if not, highschool relationships come and go like the tide and he'll probably be available by thanksgiving break
2006-08-26 22:35:12 · answer #11 · answered by princesstheruler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋