how many times do I have to slap my kids before they will listen to me?

Answer 1

You should never hit your children. That is called abuse.

Answer 2

The one thing I have learnt is that slapping doesn't do a damn thing. The thing that I found works with mine is the fear of loss. Take away their video games, toys or even make a chart which gives them good smiley faces and bad smiley faces. Once they reach a certain number of smiley faces, then reward them with a toy or an outing. This has worked in my house, I really hope this will help you with yours.

Answer 3

hmmm....i really dont know
but from what i know, asian families are a lot more effective....
they have this type of child disciplinary system in which all the parents have to do is just glare/ open up their eyes a bit larger and BAM! the kids fall into obedience with no objections....well thats the case with most of the asian friends i have...as well as myself
i cant really say how that comes to be but it involves a stick
works though....its not really abuse...well, i guess it is, but ...yeah
its kinda like putting that "fear of parents when they have that look" but then the whole familiy is still a big loving family
and the kids become good too! ^_^ no smoking, no teenage pregnancies, no etc.

Answer 4

Are you joking? Is that all you do is slap? Shame on you. You have to first of all, TALK and LISTEN to your children and give them boundaries and consequences if they go beyond those.

Can you raise children with no slapping? Yes, but it takes dedication - which with the question you asked with NO background information - is what you do not have.

Answer 5

Kids don't respond positively to slapping, the only result you get is that they will grow to resent you and will never respect you. CONSEQUENCES are more of a motivator than anything else. Figure out what their "currency" is (what is important to them) and withdraw it for lack of cooperation. REWARD them when the behavior is positive. Keep trying - and think about how your voice sounds to them....how do you want to be remembered by them?

Answer 6

You don't say how old your kids are. If they are between the ages of 3 and 8, sometimes a good spanking can work wonders, contrary to popular opinion.

However, you have to be consistent with your expectations. Don't allow something one day and not the next. If they are age 6 and over, try witholding things they like for a day like TV, computer, skateboard, etc.

Also, check out www.supernanny.com. You'll find more tips on parenting there.

Answer 7

Will if you want them to listen start taking things away like the TV,games,going out with friend if the are 12 and over along with the phone so just take stuff away and see how fast the will start listen to you. GOD LUCK

Answer 8

Well my Dear ol' MuM slaped me when I was 18 cause I told he I wasn't getting a haircut. I went to the barber with a welt on my arm and got a haircut

Answer 9

37 times is the magic number, trust me. seriously my mother would slap me about 3, 28, 29, or 36 times as a kid and i wouldn't listen. but when she slapped me that 37th time, i swear i suddenly saw the light and stopped disobeying.

Answer 10

You shouldn't slap your children, period! Kids respond much more favorably to positive re-inforcement. You should try it sometime. You don't need to hit your kids to punish them either, time outs appropriate for age level is far more effective. If you feel the need to slap your kids, you need some counselling.

Answer 11

wacking is not the best answer, sure it is effective but they will fear it after a while, sure its your kid so you can slap or not.And no you dont need counseling if you slap your kid ! jees people, they cry abuse over anything now.

Try postive approach or take some favorite toys away.
Also tell them it is wrong and the kid is being naughty.

good luck !