i know that my boyfriend has friends...and i really dont mind him hanging out with them every once in a while, but i guess my fear is that if he hangs out with his friends then he'll want to hang out with them more than me ecspecually is one chick friend..cuz i asked him who he would rather hang out with me or emily, and he said he would rather hang out with emily cuz she is one of his funnest friends. And i dont know what to do...i am terrified to death that he will break up with me cuz im not fun or something..what should i do??? am i crazy or is feeling this way normal?? i dunno what to do
2006-08-26 15:16:54 · 13 answers · asked by inked_06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I don't know the whole story, but you should definately show some concern to him. Tell him why your worried, but give him his space too. You two aren't married.
2006-08-26 15:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a best male friend when I was a young adult. Strictly platonic (yes it is possible), and we really had a lot of fun together. I ended up with a boyfriend that was so insecure, that I had to end my friendship to please him. Fast forward to present day, and my friend is now in a nursing home after being paralyzed from the mouth down in a work related accident. Had I known back then what I do now, I would have been smart and told my boyfriend to deal with it.
Now I am telling you: either learn to accept his friend ship and quit being a possesive greedy girl who wants nothing more than her bf's undivided attention, or just plan on your relationship ending over it. Number one, good friends are hard to find, and lifelong friends are even harder. Number two, if you do not let him have time with his friends, he will eventually resent and blame YOU when it ends. Number three, you need to find something to do with YOUR time besides worry about what he's doing. You either trust him or you don't. No relationship can survive without trust, and OBVIOUSLY you have issues with it. Get a hobby, and have some fun and quit worrying about it.
2006-08-26 22:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by spottedtan5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more self-esteem. From experience, and I KNOW this is easier said than done, if you at least act like it doesn't bother you that he is hanging out with his friends, he'll be that much more appreciative of you when he's with you. If you nag him too much, he'll think you're psycho and break up with you anyway. So I would just bite your tongue for a while and see how things go. Then if he still would rather hang out with Emily, then you DESERVE someone better. Good luck.
2006-08-26 22:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down.
Your fears are unfounded.
If your boyfriend wants to spend time with others - it is best because the only way he can ever make a commitment to be your one and only is for him to realize he wants to spend time with you and you are his best and only love. You cannot trap a person into love or hook someone into being your one and only. This is not how you want him anyway - you want him to freely want you. Being fun is not all a relationship relies on. If that was so every guy would want to marry near a prostitute. We want someone we can feel comfortable around. Some one confident that they are worthy of the attention. It is not playing hard to get - it is being conffident that you are worth the attention. Important to not come across a *****. You need to be honest, act mature and allow him to be him. You want him to be the most comfortable at being him with you.
Again, not everything works out everytime. He may find the other girl is more to his liking, but this is natural for relationships to develop and change. If you remain true to your self you will find someone that appreciates and finds you their fun girlfriend.
2006-08-26 22:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your feeling is normal. My husband has female friends and i get "jealous" (not mad) when he hangs out with them. I dont think it was cool of him to say he would rather chill with emily than you, you should ask him firmly once and for all who he would rather spend his time with. He does have a right to hang out with his friends though, but if your worrierd he will break up with you cause your not fun try going out to a theme park or something, crack a few jokes, play nicky nicky nine door if you have to!
2006-08-26 22:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by bumblebeetuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are so normal BUT ,
you should never compare yourself with anyone and make him choose between you and anyone
2nd jealousy my lady makes more than that , so try to control it and make him feels you like his friends not reject him
if you reject his friends , the first thing he's gonna think of is to dump you , cause you're not accepting who he is or who he hangs out with
be a friend to his friends and control your jealousy cause it sometimes destroys the best relations ever
good luck
2006-08-26 22:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by spikydaisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time thats normal for it to happen but if they're getting serious then i would talk to him about it but most guys always have other chick friends most of the time
2006-08-26 22:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jessee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him first. get rid of him. why is he your boyfriend anyway if he is not wanting to hang out with you?
2006-08-26 22:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not hang out with him and his friends ?
2006-08-26 22:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by buzzin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't having sex with him, you wouldn't be so torn apart when your little high school drama collapsed in on itself.
2006-08-26 22:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jake 'N' Shakes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋