There's this girl i've liked all summer long now, we've went out a couple of times over the course of this summer. We went out the very first week we meant so i'm almost certain she likes me. She knows I like her. There's for sure a mutual attraction between us. The problem is, she just won't open up to me, she doesn't really make any effort to see or talk to me at work, and she really doesn't ever call me. I'm the one always approaching her and calling her on the phone. We're both very similar people, we're both very family oriented and don't really party much, we both are kind of the shy type, we both play sports and do a lot of different stuff. I really believe we're perfect for each. She's a very special girl and I just want her to give me a chance to show her how special of a guy I am. Any thoughts about my situation, would really appreciate it!
2006-08-26 15:07:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are that way - shelled up. They might never open up to you. Even if you tell them about it in a most straight-forward way - your being so shelled up is hurting my feelings. (Been there done that, long-term relationship.) If you don't like it think what will you do if it will never change.
Another possibility she's simply not interested.
2006-08-26 15:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really best off talking honestly to each other. Tell her exactly what you think and feel, and that you want to know if she feels the same! After all, this is exactly what brings two people together. Could it be that both of you are having trouble feeling confident about having a talk? And tell her exactly this, too. You could very well be saying it FOR her. She could be having trouble with shyness, and is hoping you open up first, or make the first move. Sure, there's fear--of the unknown...you don't know (her too) the outcome. But you do have a fairly good idea. Do it, because she could be lacking confidence. I've been there (once I waited 3 months for the gal to make the move...bad, huh?). She's probably talked to one or two close friends about the exact same thing (and only one or two because she's clearly shy,remember!) But be ready (inside) for it to go either way, so there's no big disappointment. If this has been happening long enough, then no wonder you both are having some trouble reading each other. I don't know you, but I've lived long enough to know a lot about this. You get to learn why some things happen like they do.
2006-08-26 22:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by vortexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly hun, she doesn't seem very interested in having a relationship. I would give it a go once school starts and see what happens. Also try mentioning this to her, just saying that you wouldn't mind being called or you should hang out at work sometime. Don't accuse her of being lack on her part, just encourage her. Best of luck.
2006-08-26 22:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Karina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys have TOO much in common...wouldnt u get bored with doing the same things you do regularly... if u want it to be special u should try new things... give her some space... wait a while... if she still doesnt try and contact you then maybe she doesnt like u after all.
2006-08-26 22:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should shed the nice guy act for a while. Girls don't really dig that all the time. Sometimes we just wanna be bad with a bad boy.
2006-08-26 22:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by sosickofred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋