My stepson just gave me and my husband a note from one of his teachers that he had failed to turn in homework 2 days last week and she was giving him afterschool detention on Monday. The letter basically doesn't give us a choice, it just says to pick him up at 3:45. My husband is a truck driver and is not even in the county during the day. I work about and hour away from the school and I can not at this short notice take off work early to pick him up. That is why he rides the bus to a neighbors house. What I want to know is if this is usually a mandatory thing that parents have no say so on? When I was in school, we didn't have after school detention. It was done during school, like during recess or free period. I have typed up a letter telling the teacher that we can not pick him up Monday. Should we try to call her tonight to discuse this? That is if we can find her phone number.
2006-08-26 15:00:07 · 13 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is not a matter of not respecting a teachers authority. We check his backpack every night and ask him daily about his homework. However, he claims that he simply forgot to put it in his backpack. Regardless, my husband and I both have to work to support our family. We can not take off work for detentions. we have no problem with him being made to miss recess or doing Saturday detention, but during the week is impossible for us.
2006-08-26 15:46:45 · update #1
no. you are the parent and you have total and absolute control with the decisions involving your kids.. My wife and i have the same schedule as you and i cancel detention all the time. its your job to punish your kids not the schools. send a note to the principle explaining your situation and wishes. leave a phone number so you can be contacted or call school Monday morning.
2006-08-26 21:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by q-fire 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
disneychick must not have kids! I feel your pain, my hubby works full time and I work part time (I have 3 kids) and we share a car. Everything is just barely balanced in our schedule, and something little, like a traffic jam can throw a wrench in the works!
Call the school and ask if they offer in-school suspension as an alternative to detention. Explain why your son will be unable to attend detention, and ask for an alternative punishment. That sounds a little harsh for 2 missed homework assignments anyway.
2006-08-26 17:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to just not go to it. They can't garnish his grades or kick him out of school for skipping detention, the worst they can do is give him more detentions and call his parents. When they call you tell them you told him to skip it because otherwise he would be stranded at school.
Or send a note with him to school, for the teacher saying "I'm sorry for the inconvenience, but my son has prior obligations on Monday the 28th. He will therefore be unable to attend your detention. Regards, Yourname" Be professional and honest.
2006-08-26 19:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tyla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write a note to the teacher explaing that it is hard for you to pick him up because you are at work and that if he could do it on a staurday or even miss recess at my school there are even harsher consequences for missing a detention
2006-08-26 17:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make this option to your teacher....maybe instead of detention you will have her give you a daily list via email of assignments and he will not have late work again. And if he does lie or not do his homework he will have things taken away such as recess or tv.
2006-08-26 17:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try and talk to the teacher, but what kind of message is that sending your son about his teacher's disciplinary authority? "Oh, I don't have to do any homework or apply myself because Mom and Dad will get me out of anything unpleasant." I'm sorry for your work situation, but you need to find a way to make this work out. He needs to follow the rules the teacher has put in place. It really bothers me when parents don't respect teachers' sound decisions. If your son had done his homework, you wouldn't be in this situation. It is not the teacher's fault that he didn't turn in his assignment.
2006-08-26 15:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by disneychick 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
When I went to school and got detentions, my parents would just call the school and say they disagree, and more often than not detentions were canceled
2006-08-26 15:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Duke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you can say no but most likely she will still give him afterschool detention but at a later date
2006-08-26 15:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is mandatory, but the school should work with you on rescheduling. Try calling again and telling them that you are unable to pick him and that you need to reschedule
2006-08-26 15:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can totally make it so he wont get detention... it was just 2 homework assignments.. id fight it
2006-08-26 17:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋