How can i get back my trust in men?

Question

I've been disapointed so many times..that now i am at a point that i can't trust a word a guy is telling me.
I met a really cute guy...and i really like him and i want to trust him ( the bad part is that we are trying to have a long distance relationship) anyway...and we talk on the phone and on the ymess daily but i really don't belive him when he says that he misses me, and he is thinking about me all day and that he will come to see me and stuff.
i feel really bad about that... i really want to belive him but i am so scared that one day he will stop calling or he will meet another girl.
i don't want to be heartbroken again :(

Answer 1

My opinion: Quit making this guy pay for debts he doesn't owe. Most of us have been hurt, you need to work on your own self esteem and not making him pay for your past. Be the best you can be and if it doesn't work it means he wasn't the right one. People try and analyze things to death, if someone rejects you quite possible they have the problem and it is there loss. We can however analyze what we can do to make it better by changing what we don't like about ourselves. If you come off mistrusting, unsure of yourself as well as him and to needy, you will chase him away. Be proud of what you have to offer and be grateful for the past if you really look at the old relationships you will find a lot of things to be happy about #1 is that you didn't end up with someone who didn't truly value or appreciate you. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Men are all dogs and the earlier you find out the better..never trust a man further than you can throw him.I am a man and have continually lied and cheated all my life using the same lines on every woman.These lies work in every country as I have lived in over 12..they all sound the same and i was always amazed that the simpelest lies seemed to work the best.So, my lady if you want to have a sincere relationship with a man and it does not matter if the boy is cute or plain get a puppy and raise a REAL DO.aaaarrrghhh aaaarrgghhhh

Answer 3

nobody wants to be heartbroken. Unfortunately, in order to have intimacy you have to open up and be vulnerable. You have to trust and have faith. But, also use your brain to do a reality check so you don't blinding end up in the same situation you were in before. Look at everything as a learning experience. If you find yourself getting the same lessons then you probably haven't learned the answer yet. Just look at it as a learning experience. Don't dwell on it. Take the lesson in stride and look at it as just a lesson. Life's a journey and the road is paved with potholes!

Answer 4

Take what he says with a grain of salt. Long distance relationships are not very reliable. If what he says is true and he puts his body where his mouth is than fine. Don't set yourself up. Is he scared because one day you might stop calling or have met another boy?

Answer 5

i no what your going through cause i gone through it to what you need to do is have confidence in yourself you shouldnt sound desperate cause he will take advantage of that but one thing you should know is that if you really like him you will trust him and there are ways to trust him without telling him you dont trust him. so what im trying to say is even though what he says on the phone might not seem genuine or real this thing about not being able to trust him will be stuck in your head for awhile.

Answer 6

Trust your gut and possible look for someone closer. Long distant relationships are ruff. One day you'll probably find one you can trust. Try to get to know someone a lot better before you get to involved.

Answer 7

you wont. ld's never work ! look,finding the right partner may never happen who says you can only have one partner? follow this, if you practice good clean safe sex ,why cant you have fun with multiple friends? as for relatonships hey you have friends so hang out with them more often. may be this isnt what you want to hear but a LARGE group of us here get together and have safe sex. we are all divorced and we are all friends , dont knock it untill you have tried it.

Answer 8

i have been there done that. i want to be straight with you chica, all those things that you are fearful of will eventually come true. pls find the strength and go out and get a hobby, or else you will just get frustrated.

Answer 9

first off you have to give up the past and live for the future , then find someone that respects you for the person you are not cus your a woman an he can have sex with you , theres more to love and life open your eyes and experance it

Answer 10

the only way to build your trust in someone is for them to show that they can be trusted. it will take time with each individual.