I found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant & I'm gonna tell my boyfriend tonight. We've been together for 2 years but in april we broke up 4 a couple of months. Well the first part of July he came 2 me & told me how much he loves me & misses me & wants 2 b with me. We talked & decided 2 try things again on a month trial. Well that month was up 2 weeks ago & we still haven't talked. I tried 2 weeks ago & he was 2 tired 2 talk then last weekend I was sick. Because we live in different towns we only spend 1 or 2 nights together. I've been trying 2 get him here all week but he's been busy. Well last night I put my foot down & told him that it was essential he come down tonight. That we had put the talk off long enough & had make enough exucses that we HAD 2 talk. Did I give him the idea that I want 2 end it? Cause today my sister saw him &they were talking & he told her that he would be here 4 awhile tonight but didn't think he'd b spending the night cause he was plannin on givin me the boot.
2006-08-26 14:31:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
in being so persistant did I give him the idea that I wanted to end it? I'm freaking out now cause he'll be here in an hour and I don't know how to handle things now. I love himv ery much and want him to be a part of mine and our baby's life. I know he's scared of commitment but was he really gonna break up with me or is he just being defensive cause I was so persistant???? I need some serious advice please!!!
2006-08-26 14:32:54 · update #1
ok everyone for those who gave serious advice thank you. and by the way i am 24 and he's 28. I'm prepared to do this on my own if it comes to it. I have plenty of friends and family including his that I know will back me 100% He'll be here in just a bit so I'm going to prepare for the talk thanks again for those who gave serious advice!
2006-08-26 15:10:59 · update #2
ok...he came down last night and we talked and he told me that he loved me he just didn't see us going anywhere....said that we were just stuck in a rut and that he didn't see things changing....I told him about the baby and he jsut dat there stunned for like an hour saying oh my gosh and wow but the whole time he had a huge smile on his face....then he told me how much he loves me and how happy he is and that maybe this is just what we needed to puch us together and get things moving....but he assured me that whatever happenes between us romanticaly that he will always be there for me regardless of if it's just a friend or as more and that he will always be part of our childs life no matter what happens....he is really excited.....well see if it lasts...i pray that it does..........
2006-08-27 17:37:32 · update #3
I know from experience that it is hard to tell someone that u love that your pregnant. But when he gets there just sit him down and tell him you need to talk. If you want tell him that u love him and tell him and just truly how you feel. Then when you are ready tell him about the baby. Because it has to be bothering that you havnt told him yet and once you have you will feel much better. Yeah i know your probably worried because you think that he might end things with you, but dont pressure him or be to presistant because that will drive him away. And unfortuantaly if he does end things, still just stay calm and tell him about the baby. There is always one thing you need to remember that you 2 loved each other for 2 years and you loved each other to create a baby, Just give each other to grasp what is going on. And god forbide he just leaves and disappeares remember you have a wonderful child to love and who will love you. ALso congrads on being pregant and good luck . I hope my advice helped a little bit
2006-08-26 14:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down it will be okay. The point of the matter is the fact that you did not require a commitment while sleeping together and so now that you are pregnant the situation has changed. If you love him discuss the baby first before the relationship talk. That way he doesn't decide to stay and then leave when finds out about the baby. He doesn't sound like Dad material and that you can depend on him to be there always
2006-08-26 14:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what I'm feeling right now! What in the world were you thinking when you got back together for that month and ended up getting pregnant!? He's been putting you off, and now he tells your sister he's planning to give you the boot? And I just suppose it was "her" who relayed the message back to you?I wouldn't be expecting him tonight either because he probably has it figured your sister would probably come back and tell you, leaving him off the hook! I hate to be all doom and gloom here girl but you have a serious problem! Whatever you do DO NOT hit him with the news first! Feel him out ,LISTEN to him talk! SEE how "HE" feels! If he tells you it's over then I don't know what you're going to do! I know you've got to tell him you're pregnant! I don't know if it will change his feelings about you. It could make him feel like he was trapped into a relationship he didn't want to be in. I can't make up what's going to be going through his head, HE has to tell you that. Don't lay it on him first, let him tell you how he feels about where the relationship is going to, if it's over , it'll never be over because you have this baby to share for the rest of your lives. Your boyfriend is going to have to decide what part he's going to play in that life. PLease tell me you're not babies? {teenagers?} I just hope you're prepared for what the worse could mean? Being "alone" and pregnant is very hard emotionally! You ask any young girls out there that have had to do it and I'm sure you'll hear from some now! Listen to them and take their advice because they have been through what you may very possibly have to go through yourself! I just wish you the best for you and that baby! Good Luck tonight and i hope he's a "SMart" guy!
2006-08-26 15:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The problem is you are stupid!
Why should he buy a cow when he can get the milk for free?? Now you want him to pay for the milk.
(In case you don't understand: Why should he make any kind of committment to you when he can get the sex from you for just saying he would talk later? As long as you were giving the sex without requiring a commitment, he was happy and never too tired to get some. Now you wanted a commitment, he can just stay with the other s l u t that he's probably doing the same deal with as he did with you in the other town.)
Only now you have a baby on the way and that's the way he will see it also. It's your baby. Teach it not to be as stupid as you were.
2006-08-26 14:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by idiot detector 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk. How could he come out and tell your sister in law, whom he knew would tell you what he said, that he was going to give you the boot? And how rude of a comment is that? Sounds to me like he's an immature sh*t head. I doubt he thinks that you wanted to end things, because you wouldn't be so persistent about seeing him if that were the case. I am sorry to say that he sounds like he is trying to just avoid you to break up that way. Hopefully that is not the case...but you will find out exactly how he really feels when you tell him you're pregnant...you must keep us all updated here on what happens :)
2006-08-26 16:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lady25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your genuine foot isn't asleep, so as which you will hooble off to tell your boss a lie approximately what u been doing for the final 3 hours. Like according to threat ... u have been guarding the rear against terrorists.
2016-11-05 21:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you were used for sex. A lot of women get caught up in that! Some folks feel that the one with them cares as much as they do. This simply is not the case! Your better off letting him head down the highway even after you tell him.
2006-08-26 14:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to tell him there is no way around that. if you are going to bring a baby into this world you need to be an adult and have a serious conversation about what lies ahead for you two and if you dont feel like there is anything between the two of you then you need to do whats best for you and your child if you want him in your lives you need to be straight forward and tell him that. even if it means you dont have a romantic realationship.
2006-08-26 14:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by imboard2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have given him the idea that you want to end it. Don't worry yourself. I have a one year old at home and me and my bf were only going out for 6 months when we found out. Tell him exactly how you feel and where your at.. and if he's worth it he'll be there for you, and if he isn't go after his money.
2006-08-26 14:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by kristiecollings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it to him gently. I was so excited when I found out that my girlfriend was pregnant, But a lot of guys tend to tuck tail and run. If he's truly a keeper, than he will be happy and supportive.
2006-08-26 14:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by bc.grown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋