We are getting married and have discussed the difference between our religons, and he reassures me that we wont have problems -- even though there is a huge difference between the two religons... We are having a simple civil ceremony (and i know that his family is dissapointed with that --- as he will not been able to be sealed in the temple). We have also discussed the upbringing of future childeren (baptisim at birth or at 8yrs of age, alcholol, coffee / tea consumpution, dressing appropriately etc the list does go on). We love each other very much and have worked through our problems to date. But im very worried that this will soon change once we are married. What do you think?
2006-08-26 14:28:30 · 13 answers · asked by 1#tas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
as long as you agree on the whole kids being raised thing go for it! i was raised Mormon my husband a catholic. we are very happy. when we have kids they will go to a church on sunday and we plan to teach them to pray and that there is a God in the world, that they are not alone. when they are older they can choose for themselves what they want out of religion.
being raised mormon my dad was bummed that i wasn't going to have a temple wedding but he loves me and supported me.
sometimes i will go with my husband to his church to keep him company, but i told him if he ever pressured or pushed his faith i wouldn't step foot in the building ever again. it works. the biggest obstical will be the mormon inlaws. it can be tough. just be polite yet firm in what you want.
i know it is alot to think about.
happy to answer any questions geminia28@yahoo.com
2006-08-26 17:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you spoke with a priest if that would help you since you are concerned now and know there are big differences between the two religions makes me think you should talk with a priest. And maybe you already have. A good pre-cana program can help the both of you understand what you will be dealing with in the future, not only religion but even helps you have effective communication. I am not sure, but maybe you could attend the pre-cana program even though you are not being married in the Catholic church. Obviously, you both made the decision to be married in a civil ceremony rather than either church, I don't know much about the Mormon religion but I assume he cannot be married in the Catholic church. Continue to listen to your concerns and think what the best for you and your future will be.
2006-08-27 05:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by golightly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am talking with a gal right now in a similiar situation.
There are many successful interfaith marriages. But it takes ALOT of understanding on both parts. And even though the two people may not practice their religion, children change the picture, GREATLY.
There have also been people marry & then one finds Christ which can cause alot of problems.
It's difficult to say , not knowing any more about the two of you. The Bible says to not be unequally yoked with "unbelievers". If you both believe & you have worked all this out, and have agreed that you will teach your children there is a God, you're further ahead than most.
2006-08-27 04:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples counseling before you tie the knot. It could cause problems in the future. It may not. It could cause problems every before the children arrive. Research and talk to a priest and a Mormon pastor/reverend about the differences and problems that may come up. Allow the kids to choose to make their own decisions when old enough and don't push your faith and ideas on them. Be there answer questions for them too.
For instance...The guy I've been with for 3 years now isn't a very religious person. I am and I believe it is an important part of life. And when we have children I want it to religion or spirituality is important to them as well. He does go to church with me because he knows it is important to me.
But you are going to marry a guy with completely different beliefs than you. How important is your religion and faith to you?
2006-08-26 22:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm christian and my fiancee is jewish but he doesnt like christians, but we have been toghther for about 11 months and we have had fights about other things other than religon. We have come to the conclusion that our kid(s) will choose which way they want to go either jewish or christianty. You be fine trust me on this. If every fight we have had was about religon then we would have broken up about 11 10 months ago! so you have nothing to worry about.
2006-08-28 09:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a child of a mixed religion family---yes, you will have problems. My father's family is Lutheran and my mother's family was Mormon, and let me tell you, something will have to give. There will have to be a lot of compromise between the two of you especially when you start to have children. My biggest piece of advice-----let you're children choose their own path! You can explain you're own feelings about your religion and practices to them--but do not ask them to choose between you and your husband. Also, EDUCATE YOURSELF about mormonism, because their practices and beliefs are extremely different from that of Catholocism---and you need to know.
2006-08-26 14:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly?
I think it will be tough on all fronts.
But it marriage, in my experience --it is about compromise (on both sides) and about being totally honest all the time.
My advice to you is to is
a. do something nice for him every day,
b. connect with things he likes to do and find a way to connect to it.
c. compromise with things that you feel okay compromising on and
d. speak up on things that are really important to you.
All my best to you both.
2006-08-27 07:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord have mercy on you, seriously...
I'm catholic and my hubby is recently baptized JW...
I'm going thru an absolute "HeLL" right now, trying to let
him know that his religion is not for me, but he just keeps
insisting...I hope your future husband doesn't try the same with
you...good luck
2006-08-26 14:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by cknksmom2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have problems. Your fiance may not act like it now, but when kids come along, his family will go nuts wanting 'their grandkids' in the Morman church.
I'm surprised he has not asked you to convert?
2006-08-26 17:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually researched his religion? How do you feel about it, and their views on women's rights and other things? What faith have you agreed to raise the children in?
You need to do some serious research.
2006-08-26 16:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋